Post: #1

How do you deal with this? A girl is very obviously trying to make me jealous with constantly talking about some other guy to me, so far i just brush it off and say something like ''oh, that's nice'' in an uninterested tone, what is a better way to deal with it?

Post: #2

Don't let it bother you for one. I usually tease her about how much she brings the guy up. I'll say something like "aww true love when are you guys getting married, girls get so crazy at weddings"
If she is talking about some guy from that day that sounds like he ran game on her I'll tease her again and say something along the lines of "oh sweet did you get his number?!"

If its an ex and she wont shut the fuck up about him flat out tell her shes still in love with her ex and shouldnt be dating until she is over him.

Post: #3

I ignore it or ask her if she wants to hear about the last wet vagina I tore up.

Post: #4

Use.. "Good for you" then either change the subject or leave...If you leave make sure she initiates the next contact.

Post: #5

This theme has been covered in a thread posted by me.

I learnt a lesson from the kind of girls you mention: avoid the attention whores...

Post: #6

This is what a girl should see when she's making you jealous. Your fucking boot heels. Move on to the next, make her jealous.

   

Post: #7

^^^^



Ali-B is on fire lately!


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I usually have a standard line for whenever girls keep talking about crap I don't care.

I grab her by the shoulder, look her in the eye, with a smirk:

"I didn't ask for the story of your life"

And move on to the next topic.

Post: #8

If you ignore it, that will only make her do it even more.

Tell her to stop, you dont want to hear about other guys, her ex-boyfriends, or "that guy from work". Be assertive about this.

If she keeps it up, then stand up, open the door, and tell her to get out.

Post: #9

(02-27-2012 05:37 PM)_Samo_ Wrote:  How do you deal with this? A girl is very obviously trying to make me jealous with constantly talking about some other guy to me, so far i just brush it off and say something like ''oh, that's nice'' in an uninterested tone, what is a better way to deal with it?

This one. Or start talking about some other girl to her.

If she doesn't get the hint, you can tell her that your relationship counseling rate is $120/hr, and you're accepting credit cards.

If she still doesn't get a hint, dump her.

Post: #10

Cheers to everyone who answered, shes stopped it now but I can't be bothered with her anyway not worth my time.

Post: #11

Bumping this.

I'm dating a girl now and must admit that I started this 'making jealous' thing, sharing many past experiencies with other chicks and, of course, she started to mention her fans as well.

It has become a kind of competition who of us get more attention from the opposite sex. And I want to stop that.

Last time she sent a photo by Whatsapp of flowers that a co-worker sent her.
After more time than expected I just said: "Nice, are them from your fiance?"
Her: Naaaa, from a friend.

Then she sent me a photo of her High School friends group and her female friend asking if that flowers are from me, suggesting that I am her current date... ¿?

I guess she thought that she was acting bad and then (after me no respondig for a while) she said: I thanked a friend and it turns out that the flowers were from another.
Me: Oh, I see... Fine detail after all.

My sister (I shared her this story briefly) said me that she is saying subtly: If you don't take me seriously, another man will do, so put on effort.

I add that usually she pulls me up on her car (I don't drive) and perhaps it seems that I don't enough effort, because I am gaming presicely this way.

Post: #12

Quit messing around and ask her out and escalate. If not stop playing the game. You both can tell what your doing and it's not working.

Could you lose her? Yes, but you are spending alot of time.

Post: #13

See this thread

Post: #14

(09-28-2018 11:33 AM)Zoso Wrote:  Bumping this.

I'm dating a girl now and must admit that I started this 'making jealous' thing, sharing many past experiencies with other chicks and, of course, she started to mention her fans as well.

It has become a kind of competition who of us get more attention from the opposite sex. And I want to stop that.

Last time she sent a photo by Whatsapp of flowers that a co-worker sent her.
After more time than expected I just said: "Nice, are them from your fiance?"
Her: Naaaa, from a friend.

Then she sent me a photo of her High School friends group and her female friend asking if that flowers are from me, suggesting that I am her current date... ¿?

I guess she thought that she was acting bad and then (after me no respondig for a while) she said: I thanked a friend and it turns out that the flowers were from another.
Me: Oh, I see... Fine detail after all.

My sister (I shared her this story briefly) said me that she is saying subtly: If you don't take me seriously, another man will do, so put on effort.

I add that usually she pulls me up on her car (I don't drive) and perhaps it seems that I don't enough effort, because I am gaming presicely this way.

Have you had sex with girl?

Post: #15

Not yet. The furthest Ive gone was taking her out her clothes inside her car, but we needed to stop it 'cause some people was around. So, all that but no penetration.

I was going clearly for sexual interaction every date.

Post: #16

(09-28-2018 11:33 AM)Zoso Wrote:  My sister (I shared her this story briefly) said me that she is saying subtly: If you don't take me seriously, another man will do, so put on effort.

Don't listen to your Sister.

Post: #17

(09-28-2018 11:33 AM)Zoso Wrote:  Bumping this.

I'm dating a girl now and must admit that I started this 'making jealous' thing, sharing many past experiencies with other chicks and, of course, she started to mention her fans as well.

This was your mistake. You shit tested her. Men dont shit test. Thats what girls do. You started the girl game for her.

You dont make a girl jealous by talking about other girls. Again, talking is for women. If youre going to use dread (and jealousy is one form of dread...read this ) then she needs to "see it" not "hear it"...especially not from you.

Men show...not tell

How does a girl see it ("It" being your sexual / social value)?

She sees you checking out other girls, flirting with them. Thats one way.

But even more effectively she sees other girls checking you out, flirting with you

(09-28-2018 11:33 AM)Zoso Wrote:  It has become a kind of competition who of us get more attention from the opposite sex. And I want to stop that.

Then stop.

You need to stop playing girls games and fuck her as soon as possible if you want to have any chance at salvaging this. Youre acting like a girl and women are not sexually attracted to feminine behaviors

Post: #18

(09-29-2018 12:30 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(09-28-2018 11:33 AM)Zoso Wrote:  Bumping this.

I'm dating a girl now and must admit that I started this 'making jealous' thing, sharing many past experiencies with other chicks and, of course, she started to mention her fans as well.

This was your mistake. You shit tested her. Men dont shit test. Thats what girls do. You started the girl game for her.

You dont make a girl jealous by talking about other girls. Again, talking is for women. If youre going to use dread (and jealousy is one form of dread...read this ) then she needs to "see it" not "hear it"...especially not from you.

Men show...not tell

How does a girl see it ("It" being your sexual / social value)?

She sees you checking out other girls, flirting with them. Thats one way.

But even more effectively she sees other girls checking you out, flirting with you

(09-28-2018 11:33 AM)Zoso Wrote:  It has become a kind of competition who of us get more attention from the opposite sex. And I want to stop that.

Then stop.

You need to stop playing girls games and fuck her as soon as possible if you want to have any chance at salvaging this. Youre acting like a girl and women are not sexually attracted to feminine behaviors

I got it PT.

Maybe I must add some other details. I know this girl since 13 years ago, from high school. Many times I nexted her. But recently I've got my standards lower and just give another chance (for me she is a 6.5).
I know what you mean, and precisely I act like I talk, perhaps I didn't tell that.
First time I went with her to a party, a female friend in common was in front of us. She said me: Aren't you going to salute her? She liked you in the school.
Me: I don't care.
After 10 minutes I was flirting with the girl very well, dancing and etc... but not more because I was not really interested in that girl. Just playing this soft jealous game.

So, don't worry, I have already made sure that what I say it's what I am doing.
And when I was making her jealous, I did it very very indirect and smoothly.
Not in a Women's way. I can identify this way very well so I couldn't reply this attitude on me, it's -as you say- a really feminine behavior.

Finally I have identified that the message from her is: Oh I am a wonderful girl that this guy can't forget me. I'm unforgettable, don't you see???
She is not being disrespectful.

I followed advise from here about not giving a shit, and worked well.
Additionally I have smashed her statements doing logic questions that got her with no answers.

So, I think you got me wrong. I wasn't nattering shit test like girls do. She wouldn't have even tried to got me many times if it was the case.

Of course the bang ASAP advice I take it as the maxim now.

Thanks for suggestions.

Post: #19

Women are attracted to men who can attract other women. That is why the concept of social proof exists. Women also project on to men. They assume we are attracted to what they are attracted to - someone who is socially proofed. They don't see it as making you jealous. They see it as showing off their value to you. Men do not value social proof. We value loyalty. So we are projecting our values on to women as well. Women have no loyalty. They are hypergamous by nature. A woman trying to make you "jealous" is actually her qualifying herself to you. She's trying to get you to chase her, or worse- validate her. The validation feeds her ego.

Learn how to differentiate between a woman trying to make you jealous so you can chase vs her just trying to use you for validation.

The method I use for ALL games is active indifference. It is escalating on women and not giving a damn if they like it or not. You are indifferent, but you are also proactive. Passive indifference is trying to be zen. It sucks. Don't do that. By sexually escalating, you weed out all women who are trying to use you for validation. And for the ones that are trying to get you to chase, they get what they want. Either way, all games end with active indifference/over-escalation.

It's not your job to read her mind. It's your job to escalate.

Post: #20

Sender

Yes, i know.
Even though every rule has excepctions.
It's just one statement i take over all the BS women like my syster talk.

I am newbie but not toó fool.

Post: #21

Masta:

"A woman trying to make you "jealous" is actually her qualifying herself to you. She's trying to get you to chase her, or worse- validate her. The validation feeds her ego."

Completely agree.
Thats how always i got it..