Post: #1

So there's this new sexual thing where you and some chick bang, and you're not supposed to orgasm. It's big in couple therapy.

I guess my question is, "Is this beta?"

Here's the link.

http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/he...-1.1113052

Post: #2

It is beta to the beta. According to the article, it was developed by a woman as a means of strengthening marriages. The primary focus was on men. She suggested women also do it for the sake of "equality."

This is prima facie evidence that the practice is for betas.

Let's try withholding alimony and child support payments from women as a way to strengthen marriage. Women should also participate for equality.

Post: #3

The purpose of sex is to orgasm. You can "carezza" with your woman after you bust a nut.

Post: #4

Just the name makes me want to throw up. It's not beta, it's omega. Think 70s style vegan hippy.

Post: #5

In the article it states "A Dutch scientist described it this way," she says, "He said, 'I've looked at brain scans of people climaxing and they remind me of people shooting heroin.' "So what goes up must come down." using that logic, we should never be happy since we have to be sad, we should never eat, since we`ll be hungry...Treating your entire life as foreplay and never achieving climax, is to mediate but never wanting to reach nirvana...So "is this beta"...it's not even man, you have to be a man before you can be beta or alpha...

Post: #6

Honestly, I LOVE slow, gentle sex with minimal pounding and lots of cuddling. But purposefully avoiding the orgasm (which comes naturally, just after a longer amount of time) is idiocy.

It's also one of my sticking points with yourbrainonporn.com (which recommends it) - it's such a great site that's right on many issues, but that one is just pretentious.

Post: #7

""They wake up every single morning and they are not even thinking about genital stimulation. They are snuggling, holding and breathing with eye contact and flow. It's very conscious - from the genitals to the heart"

Well that sounds beta as fuck.

"Robinson says abstaining from orgasms helps people avoid a biochemical "hangover," in which dopamine levels in the brain rise at climax, then crash down.

"A Dutch scientist described it this way," she says, "He said, 'I've looked at brain scans of people climaxing and they remind me of people shooting heroin.'"

This part is actually kind of interesting though. I often do feel a little strung out and depressed after an orgasm, especially if it's a good one.

Post: #8

I once told a girl I wanted to try it having read about it.

She said it was weird and thought I wasn't as attracted to her anymore.

Since then, I've always made having an orgasm a priority - wouldn't want those girls to be insecure.

Post: #9

(07-24-2012 10:31 AM)Kitsune Wrote:  I once told a girl I wanted to try it having read about it.

She said it was weird and thought I wasn't as attracted to her anymore.

Since then, I've always made having an orgasm a priority - wouldn't want those girls to be insecure.

Girls love you to give you an orgasm and feel like they are turning you on so much that you're pounding them like a beast. Maybe with a long-term monogamous partner I'd experiment with lengthy, gentle love-making, but so far...I'm good.

Post: #10

It comes from the book 'Cupid's Poisoned Arrow', and it should be a technique to counter the Coolidge Effect. You guys can call it 'beta' and 'vegan hippie shit' but do you have better options? What I understand, is that it is oxytoninic sex (relationship) as opposed to dopaminic (new girl) sex.

Post: #11

(07-24-2012 07:19 AM)Andy_B Wrote:  "Robinson says abstaining from orgasms helps people avoid a biochemical "hangover," in which dopamine levels in the brain rise at climax, then crash down.

"A Dutch scientist described it this way," she says, "He said, 'I've looked at brain scans of people climaxing and they remind me of people shooting heroin.'"

This part is actually kind of interesting though. I often do feel a little strung out and depressed after an orgasm, especially if it's a good one.

Does that apply to women or just men?

Post: #12

(10-12-2018 09:21 AM)the-dream Wrote:  

(07-24-2012 07:19 AM)Andy_B Wrote:  "Robinson says abstaining from orgasms helps people avoid a biochemical "hangover," in which dopamine levels in the brain rise at climax, then crash down.

"A Dutch scientist described it this way," she says, "He said, 'I've looked at brain scans of people climaxing and they remind me of people shooting heroin.'"

This part is actually kind of interesting though. I often do feel a little strung out and depressed after an orgasm, especially if it's a good one.

Does that apply to women or just men?

I'm now reading the book, will report back.

Post: #13

Well the orgasim in tantric sex is not the goal, and that's the opposite of beta sex, let me tell ya.

Go to a "tantric temple" in your local city for a introductory session with an open mind, and be amazed.

Post: #14

I've done it with two girls. Both of them I was in "serious" mini-LTR's with. I didn't tell them we were going to do "karrezza," as the weird name will scare them. All I did was say, "let's take it slow and see how long we can go without orgasming."

If you're truly connected to the girl it'll be a mind blowing experience. If she's just a jump-off, you'll want to nut and GTFO.

The keys are simple:
-Don't jack off, so your sensitivity is high
-Don't wear a condom (obviously)
-Make sure you can keep an erection for 30 minutes or more
-Keep coconut oil on hand
-Most important: enjoy it

Sex is so focused on pounding away these days that you forget about the hundreds of other ways to show appreciation for each other. Instead of thinking about how much you're FUCKING her, just put your penis inside of her and then enjoy her body. You don't even have to thrust, just plugging into her will bring you together. Use this time to express compassion for her verbally, or use your hands/mouth to pleasure other areas of her body.