Post: #26

(08-14-2014 10:40 AM)robreke Wrote:  Ive been dating this girl for 2 months...about once to twice a week. Been raw dogging her. Im thinking of asking her if she is seeing other men and framing the main reason as because we have been having unprotected sex and I just want to know for my own benefit. I would ask in a non needy way but I do want to know. Is this approach okay?

for what its worth...we have both told each other we like each other and she calls me "love" alot. But no "I love you" yet.

If you've been raw-dogging her over a month it may be a bit late to use that as a pre-text for asking.

What is the purpose of asking her? Do you want an LTR with her? If so you can just start seeing her more and let it evolve that way naturally.

If she's contacting you first every day, trying to make plans, etc, then it's "less" likely she's banging someone else because she's probably really into you.

If she doesn't do those things then it is more likely another guy or two in the mix. Just speculation though.

Post: #27

Some advice guys... I see my girl sitting on the lap of another guy for a picture at a party. I'll be honest, it makes me angry. Still not say anything or what? For me it crosses a line of respect. Not sure how to react.

Post: #28

(10-21-2014 12:30 AM)rottenapple Wrote:  Some advice guys... I see my girl sitting on the lap of another guy for a picture at a party. I'll be honest, it makes me angry. Still not say anything or what? For me it crosses a line of respect. Not sure how to react.

Depends..are you in any kind of LTR with her? Sometimes it's ok to put the bitch in the place. Disrespect should not be tolerated!
I am very jealous myself and always suppressed it when living in the US.Now I am in Russia where the dating culture is more natural and I feel much better being my jealous self.
My advice - be yourself and don't suppress your feelings! Deliver the message so she remembers it!The worse thing - losing the girl - is the also the good thing! You'll find someone better!

Post: #29

(10-21-2014 12:30 AM)rottenapple Wrote:  Some advice guys... I see my girl sitting on the lap of another guy for a picture at a party. I'll be honest, it makes me angry. Still not say anything or what? For me it crosses a line of respect. Not sure how to react.

Let her know that calmly and plainly.

It is disrespectful, I won't tolerate it.

If you really feel disrespected by it, and she won't apologize or stop the behavior, break up with her. If she isn't interested in respecting you then you shouldn't promise her anything by way of relationship.

Post: #30

(08-14-2014 10:40 AM)robreke Wrote:  Ive been dating this girl for 2 months...about once to twice a week. Been raw dogging her. Im thinking of asking her if she is seeing other men and framing the main reason as because we have been having unprotected sex and I just want to know for my own benefit. I would ask in a non needy way but I do want to know. Is this approach okay?

for what its worth...we have both told each other we like each other and she calls me "love" alot. But no "I love you" yet.

I have never had to ask a girl this. They all bring up the issue themselves if they are interested in a relationship.

In fact, I'd say if a girl does NOT specifically ask you if you're seeing other people, it's a sign she's just using you for sex.