thegmanifesto
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RE: Does reputation matter?
(12-14-2012 03:13 PM)Sketness Wrote: So Im in the greek life social circle at my school, I have gotten a rather scandalous reputation ( just from hooking up with certain girls, and being forward with my intentions with girls) According to one girl "he just wants to get his nut" My question is, how much does reputation play in me getting future bangs in this social circle. Or will my "bad boy" image attract females
Wait, Sketness, I remember you.
You have been on here forever.
Didn't you used to post questions about "how to swoop at college" and stuff when you were mad young?
Now you got a huge rep at school?
Ha.
I love seeing my little brothers grow up.
Good work.
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RandalGraves
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RE: Does reputation matter?
(12-14-2012 03:30 PM)Alpha Hunter Zero Wrote: If you have to ask this you're obviously a newbie lol. To answer your question YES a reputation and bad boy image will greatly help you when it comes to girls. Think about it- who are girls attracted more to? Nice guys who dont challenge them or "bad boys" who dont put up with their shit? From what you wrote you seem to be doing pretty well, keep it up and keep reading this forum. Oh yeah and dont pay any attention to that girl who's complaining "He just wants to get his nut". She most likely is pissed off you arent paying her any attention and secretly wants you to fuck her.
I dunno, I think it's more nuanced than just "girls will either see you as a beta nice guy or an alpha cad who they want to fuck." Girls care a lot about perception and what other girls think, and as we know politics among women is very complicated. When girls see you as "the player that just wants his nut," it can go two ways.
- You are sufficiently DHV'd and generally desired that it will cause self-selection among the girls that like you and just want to have sex. Your game is so tight or effortless that, even if she's already heard that you're a player, she doesn't realize she's being gamed when you target her.
- ...or it can set off the "slut alarm" and cause girls to be more resistant when you try to game them because, yep, your reputation already set off a red flag. They won't turn off their logical side of the brain because they're wary of what you're trying to do.
I don't know what Sketness's skill level is. I think it's a bad idea to tell beginners that reputation doesn't matter, because that kind of stuff sticks with you and forces girls to make a judgment call about you even before you open your mouth to start gaming. Given that Sketness is in a fraternity, though, I don't think it'll hurt him that much--that sort of reputation is pretty much expected from frat guys.
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Excelsior
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RE: Does reputation matter?
(12-14-2012 03:13 PM)Sketness Wrote: So Im in the greek life social circle at my school, I have gotten a rather scandalous reputation ( just from hooking up with certain girls, and being forward with my intentions with girls) According to one girl "he just wants to get his nut" My question is, how much does reputation play in me getting future bangs in this social circle. Or will my "bad boy" image attract females
What you've said tells me that women are generally aware of the fact that other women find you sexually appealing and have been willing to hook up with you. The grapevine tells them that you're a sexually confident guy who other women find attractive (hence their willingness to have sex with you).
You're pre-selected. As far as your ability to attract more women goes, this is a good thing. When it comes to dealing with girls in your demographic (young, cute, western, middle class-ish; the kind likely to frequent your greek scene), there is very little downside here. These girls just want dudes who can a) have fun and b) appeal to their female peers. You seem to meet these requirements and have the kind of reputation that tends to be most successful in this environment. In short, you're precisely where you need to be.
Girls may occasionally throw some hate at you because you don't seem to want to invest too much in any one of them. This is normal, and should cause you no concern at this stage of your life. There are legions of men on your campus (and on all others) who are very much concerned with more than just "getting a nut", and are so willing to invest in a girl they like that they'd never attract the kind of rep you have. You do not want to be one of those guys.
The men who get the most attention from the kind of women you're dealing with are the same men who they complain most loudly about. They're not chasing after the kind of men who instill in them no emotion and give them nothing at all to be concerned about. That's a fact of life-the uncontroversial, utterly dependable, consistently available and heavily invested dude simply isn't in high demand. He's "boring" and generally left on the margins of the college dating scene. Do not try to mimic him-you're doing things correctly right now.
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(This post was last modified: 12-14-2012 04:09 PM by Excelsior.)
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