Post: #1

Do you have a Harem?

How many girls do you have in rotation? (= seeing a girl at least once every two months)

What is your trick to maintain your harem? How do you avoid problems (like girls finding out about your harem) ?

Share your thoughts below.

Post: #2

No, I did have but let it filter out, I basically told the girls that I was seeing other girls and kept it to once a week at most that I would see them. It works for a few months, I'm sure many have done it longer but eventually the girls emotions start giving in and they want to see you more and more so you gotta cut loose. I found it made me lazy though.

Post: #3

Yes.

The trick is that almost all of them are from out of town/state and I absolutely refuse to have a Facebook account. Always keep your cell phone locked and on silence when you're with one of your girls. Never answer your phone when you're with one of your girls, just check it every so often for any important missed calls and return them when you can. Label girls in your contact list with male names. Never leave your phone lying around. Never check your email in the presence of one of your girls. Either avoid having or avoid giving out a home phone number (land line). Multiple cell phones work, but it gets stupid and complicated after a while because you will, inevitably, give the wrong number to the wrong girl, especially if you enjoy the occasional beverage or two.

The only down sides: airfare gets pricey and most of your encounters are limited to weekends and holidays.

Post: #4

I did. it was a lot of work. 3-4 at a time for a while. but eventually i just found one that i wanted bang more than all the rest and that was the end of that.

being totally upfront and honest with them is the only way to go

Post: #5

I've only really had two that I was seeing regulary but even that was a pain for me and I was sick of all the admin. I dunno how guys keep 3-5 going, have to be very organised I guess. I like to just have one regular that I see during the week and save the weekend to go for messy one nighters.

Post: #6

Yes 2-4. I feel a bit pretentious calling them my harem, though. Essentially these are just girls that go about their lives without my input until I invite them out, then we'll go out - and logistics permitting - we'll bang.

They all know that I see other girls and they are all fine with. Non of them are crazy over me, its just casual for everybody.

Post: #7

I once had a harem, when I just got good with game and used it for all I could squeeze out of it. I had multiple simultaneous relationships among them were two girls sharing a flat, both having sex with me (separately no threesome as they were not bi-curious) and knowing it. It lasted for a few months. There were other girls beside them.

Now I am not all that preoccupied by chasing pussy and generally keep only one girl around, but I still voted YES (2-4)!

Post: #8

I don't have a proper harem, just around a dozen or so contacts in phone I can call to 'hang out' whenever. I only see one regularly at the moment.

Post: #9

One of the benefits of banging married women is you CAN have a harem. It's manageable. Why? Because it is all about the sex, and the brief get togethers are very circumscribed. I saw one of mine two days in a row this weekend, but that is very unusual.

Post: #10

The peak of my harem days was in my early 20s, i was able to swap in/out five chicks. Some days i banged only one, other days i would smash two or three but i limited each girl to once or twice a week. I would then drop them off my roster as i got bored which was usually between a month to a year depending on the girl.Nowadays im focused on the "wife", mistress and girlfriend situation- ala two chainz

-side note, i dont mean actual 'wife', i mean main chick

Post: #11

interesting results so far: 50% of guys have their harem, which probably means that time constraints play a role here: when times are bad (winter) or simply when time is limited (huge amounts of things to do) having a harem is both practical and enjoyable.

Any more good reasons to have harem? Any major obstacles you encountered?

Post: #12

no, have not yet. mLTRs is my goal for 2013 once i fix my logistics. i will adhere to a rule of, "girls who pass a low ego test - try to keep them around".

Post: #13

LOL, my boss does.
Kidding. My department has more girls than boys, so we (the girls) say we are his harem, The Charlie's Angels (Each one is different from another: A red haired, a japanese, a brunette and me) or The T.' women.
His FB is full of our pictures surronding him. But is just fun.
Sorry highjack the post, but I couldn't help that.

Post: #14

You need one main girl that's at your beck and call. Little less than a girlfriend. Little more than a fuckbuddy. Basically a fuckbuddy that wants to be "with you".

The others are just casual sluts that you ping once in a while. If you have about 6-8 you can contact each one on a 2 month cycle. You can't call a girl every week or she'll get bored of you.

Post: #15

(01-30-2013 11:07 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  You need one main girl that's at your beck and call. Little less than a girlfriend. Little more than a fuckbuddy. Basically a fuckbuddy that wants to be "with you".

The others are just casual sluts that you ping once in a while. If you have about 6-8 you can contact each one on a 2 month cycle. You can't call a girl every week or she'll get bored of you.

This is my philosophy. Someone once asked me, "would you date her if she asked you to?" and I responded "she knows better than to ask that question"

Post: #16

(01-29-2013 07:42 AM)reaper23 Wrote:  I did. it was a lot of work. 3-4 at a time for a while. but eventually i just found one that i wanted bang more than all the rest and that was the end of that.

being totally upfront and honest with them is the only way to go

I love this honesty and I totally agree with it. Now, obviously you want to be discreet, but at the same time, I have no problem telling a girl if she asks what our situation is. If she asks if we're in a relationship or where I see us going I tell her exactly how it is. I don't tell her I'm fucking girl B and girl C on this day and that day, but I make it clear that while I care for her and enjoy dating her, that I don't want a really involved exclusive relationship. If she can't handle that, then I let her go.

THAT is truly an abundance mentality. The problem is the beta still stuck inside of guys that think the women would never continue to date them if they were up front about what they want. Just like the guys that choose to lie their asses off in every which way in order to keep a girl. It's a form of supplication in my book. Being honest is one of the hardest ways to be because it opens you up to so much judgement. What most people don't realize is that it actually opens you up to the most freedom as well. As with everything, calibration matters a lot. I'm not saying you should tell your boss that you did a line of coke off a hooker's ass on Monday morning before you came to work, but you get the gist of it.

Someone else said it on this board, I try to leave people better than I found them (given they are worthwhile people). I've shown girls experiences they would've never encountered and I really do care about each and every girl I date. Fucking someone I don't like is kind of a foreign concept to me. It's one thing to have a one night stand, but I think waking up next to someone that disgusts you is pretty pointless.

Post: #17

I'm amassing an army of girls to counter my dry spells.

Post: #18

I do occasionally, when there are some girls that I have met that really motivate me. Besides that, I prefer to stay alone and having sex only with new girls because for me it takes too much time to mantain known girls after three months.

Post: #19

(01-29-2013 06:32 AM)michelin Wrote:  Do you have a Harem?

How many girls do you have in rotation? (= seeing a girl at least once every two months)

What is your trick to maintain your harem? How do you avoid problems (like girls finding out about your harem) ?

Share your thoughts below.

I would not call seeing a girl once every 2 months part of a harem. A harem is a girl that you are fucking. For it to be a harem, you need to be fucking each girl once a week minimum. If it get up to two weeks you're just dating several girls. That's the way I see it.

Post: #20

I'm going through a bitter dry spell right now, but so far I've never had more than 2 at a time with a few ONS in between.

Post: #21

My harem looks like this:

Main chick - She is pleasant, wild in bed, feminine - I make sure to have her over twice a week. She looks good on my arm so I will take her out occasionally.
Second tier - One or two chicks that are tolerable and you see them once a week.
Third tier - Chicks that you can't stand but they are good to have over when you want a little variety. I see these sporadically, anywhere from once a week to once a month.

It is important that most of the chicks not sleep over or you are going to get exhausted. Also, my basic routine is have them over, make them dinner, watch something on television, one or two drinks, sex. This is cheap and keeps me from ravaging my liver.

I am constantly having to wash the sheets.

Post: #22

(03-02-2013 03:02 PM)TheRookie Wrote:  I am constantly having to wash the sheets.

That can get so annoying, especially when you JUST washed them and there's a new snail trail that obviously isn't from when the last girl came over.

That and girls leaving their damn things at your place, but that's another topic.

Post: #23

Hair and other things left behind are a problem. Roosh is right girls can easily detect all your bangs' DNA.

Post: #24

Haha, "snail trail." That is plain nasty, man. I make sure to throw the pillows off the bed and pull back the sheets all the way or else that nasty stuff gets all over the place.

(03-02-2013 03:06 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(03-02-2013 03:02 PM)TheRookie Wrote:  I am constantly having to wash the sheets.

That can get so annoying, especially when you JUST washed them and there's a new snail trail that obviously isn't from when the last girl came over.

That and girls leaving their damn things at your place, but that's another topic.

Post: #25

In China I don't have so much of a 'harem' as a #1 who lives a bit away, a #2 who is ten minutes by cab and one girl in the town I worked in when I first got here that I pop in on every few months.

I'm also not a fan of the term 'harem', I prefer 'rotation', but different strokes.

To snake the term from pimping, to operate properly while fucking multiple girls, you need a #1, the 'bottom bitch'. Parlay said it best, she's not your girlfriend, but more like a fuckbuddy who you also happen to enjoy hanging out with (in many ways the ideal chick, the type of girl that will come over and play some video games or watch movies, then fuck, who even after she falls out, you run into her every few years and even if she's dating some guy, you still fuck her). The way to deal with her is to be honest but not brutally so; you can tell her that you aren't really looking for a relationship, but you don't need to regale her with stories of fucking that girl you met at the bar last Thursday. Depending on how well the two of you get along, she's either the first or the last girl to fall out.

After that, you have a few that you can fuck whenever, ideally with some distance. Maybe they're out in the suburbs or visit your city once a month for work, it doesn't even matter. We know why we do it; because we get tired of fucking the same girl over and over again.

All told I generally run at least two, generally 2-4, though sometimes 5 or more. My personal best, accounting for girls that lived out of town was 7, 3 at my school, one at the college across town, and three more out of town, and it didn't last long, difficulty of maintaining it was insane (two of them were really pushing for 'a relationship'; to all the ladies, if you just let us fuck you like that, why do you think we're going to give you a relationship?). If you have a car it's good to have a few girls out of town; it's virtually idiot-proof when you're doing all your banging on the away team.