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RE: Learning a new language is tough
I've learned Spanish, Chinese, French, and Korean by dating girls who spoke those languages with me. If you live in a major city or in the southwest/Florida, I would say you should find a girl who speaks Spanish. even if you cant find one that isn't that hot, specifically for the purpose of learning Spanish.
Dating a girl will take you through the entire spectrum of what you will need to learn in a language. You will learn the social conventions of the local culture, you will learn what is expected of a man and a woman, you will learn how to argue, apologize, make up, fuck, go out and meet her friends, whatever. By text messaging with her you will learn slang and will have to come up with clever responses on the spot.
There is no substitute for it, in my opinion.
I've also learned that it is much more important to be able to converse in a language than it is to be able to read and write. I can barely read Chinese but because my speaking is solid my social network has expanded much more quickly than that of many expat friends of mine.
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The_CEO
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RE: Learning a new language is tough
(05-18-2010 01:38 AM)speakeasy Wrote: I've been getting back into my Spanish studies. I really wish we were given a 2nd language from a very young age when it's easiest to pick it up. I can study the vocabulary and learn the words, but when I listen to it at conversation speed, I feel like a moron. It just goes by in a blur and I feel like I've learned nothing. When I'm in this position, it makes it hard to visualize the day when it's all going to just click and I'll be bantering back and forth with someone in Spanish. People do it, but right now it's literally tiring listening to two people talk in Spanish and trying to follow along. If it's written though, I can understand a fair amount.
everyone learns differently. learn the best way for you. and fluency can come in stages... first reading/writing, then listening comprehension. a good way to practice when you're on the ground in a spanish-speaking land, is AM radio. it'll help your listening comprehension a lot. or spanish lang radio via the internet, etc
Also, spanish lang. movies.. I've met a handful of people who managed to learn a hell of a lot of English from watching Hollywood movies.
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RE: Learning a new language is tough
Im more of a fan of the jump in it approach and just make plans to stay there for 3 months and do your best to stay away from the expat community. When i started learning chinese, i learned it in school, and i hung out only with english speakers, so i never really improved, and this was in Taiwan. Then when i went back to china 2 years after graduation, i jumped right in it and within 3 months i had gotten to the point where i was totally self sufficent.
And i consider fluency in a language the ability to pick up girls only in that language without relying on the passport charm of being a foreigner. The pick up game is so heavily dependent on language skills in most situations and it encompasses so much that is good to know how to say. Its also effect of weaning you off NLP if you were/are a big fan of it and lean on it like a crutch like some guys i know. Language also gives a lot of insight into the culture, so its good to pick of atleast the basics before you travel.
The issue is no one i have ever met barring 2 people were self motivated enough to teach themself a foreign language or even study it to the point of holding a complex conversation. You need to get yourself out there and put yourselves in the situation to use what you know. Girlfriends are good, but Roosh points out the dilemma. You need a good ground work for it, and if you hook up with the expats and the bilingual people who hang around them, you wont improve yourself. I see people in china for almost 10 years, and can barely even ask where the bathroom is. But i am sure there are situations to practice at home. Spanish speaking people are all over the place, just find their hang outs and drop it that you are trying to learn spanish. I have never, ever been rejected for chatting with someone in a language i barely speak under the guise of practice.
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RE: Learning a new language is tough
I have to call BS on the accents part.... its pure laziness on the part of the speaker. My father spoke 8 languages, growing up I learned quite a bit of German, he would make me the say the word 6,7,8 times until I said it exactly correctly. Im 32 and still picking up languages and I am told I have little to no accent(people think I am latino because of my perfect accent, not my white ass skin haha)
He forced me to listen and repeat the word exactly, not just ramble out the word the way I would pronounce an american word. IMO people learn a word wrong so they say it wrong their whole lives, not that they cant say it right, your tongue just gets used to talking in a certain way. You have to force it to do it correctly. like idiots at the gym throwing around weights, they have been working out for years but still do it wrong, they just need to be taught.
IMO immersion is key, get away from other english speakers, you will use them as a crutch. Listen to music, make as many mistakes as possible, read newspapers, listen to local music, and watching tv.
I know a girl at the hooters in medellin who speaks almost perfect english. she learned from watching English channels at home, I was impressed.
(This post was last modified: 05-22-2010 05:02 AM by clr.)
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insomnika
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RE: Learning a new language is tough
Hi, I learned English, Italian and I have the basics of Chinesse and Portuguese, that all I started learning at my 20's. So it's no difficult to learn a new language! It can be boring sometimes, frustrating maybe, but not difficul if you put enough effort to it. And I'm agree with most guys in the forum that you should look for a girl friend. If you don't find her in your place look for a Cyber Girl Friend.
And for you who doesn't no any spanish, must notice that there is a serious differente between spanish talked in Southamerica and the Spanish talked in Spain, sometimes for me it's very hard to understand what they say in Spain movies. Even in Southamerica, spanish can be totally different,i.e. Chilean talk in a way I can hardly understand a little. Instead colombian, argentinians, peruvians,ecuatorians, etc understand each other without extra-effort.
Here somevideos subtitled in english so you understand and can practice language
This is from peruvian cinema:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yR1cfJY0_3c
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manilaguy
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RE: Learning a new language is tough
(11-13-2010 02:35 PM)insomnika Wrote: Hi, I learned English, Italian and I have the basics of Chinesse and Portuguese, that all I started learning at my 20's. So it's no difficult to learn a new language! It can be boring sometimes, frustrating maybe, but not difficul if you put enough effort to it. And I'm agree with most guys in the forum that you should look for a girl friend. If you don't find her in your place look for a Cyber Girl Friend.
And for you who doesn't no any spanish, must notice that there is a serious differente between spanish talked in Southamerica and the Spanish talked in Spain, sometimes for me it's very hard to understand what they say in Spain movies. Even in Southamerica, spanish can be totally different,i.e. Chilean talk in a way I can hardly understand a little. Instead colombian, argentinians, peruvians,ecuatorians, etc understand each other without extra-effort.
Here somevideos subtitled in english so you understand and can practice language
This is from peruvian cinema:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yR1cfJY0_3c
I don't think the Spanish of Spain is seriously different from Latin American Spanish. Having worked with Spaniards and Latinos, I observed that the difference is more like American English vs British English, and is not a serious hindrance in communicating.
Here's a link to explain the difference.
http://spanish.about.com/cs/historyofspa...ieties.htm
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