Post: #1

RooshVforum,

In a bit of a predicament and I def. value the advice of you guys. 6 months ago I met this absolute smokeshow. I'm talking playboy bunny, 10/10, literally makes jaws hit the floor everywhere she goes. I game her at a party and take her back to smashtown.

Fast forward 6 months and we're in a serious relationship (somewhat against my will, but the other head took over). I'm pretty sure this girl has borderline personality disorder and she freaks out one night. Things got physical, she damages my property, cuts my face open (scratch) and I kick her out and tell her that I don't think it's gonna work out and we're through.

Over the next few days I get the typical "sunshine up my ass" type texts. I love you, I'm so sorry, can't I just come over in lingerie and make it up to you, blah blah blah. I eventually respond to her texts and humor her bullshit, all while basically telling her what a piece of shit she was. I told her I would need to do some serious thinking and I'll get back to her (This was after about 50 dirty photos were sent and days of chipping away at me)

The next day (valentines) she drops off a gift and a card and says how she's gonna do anything in her will to make it up to me. I respond still kinda pissed bc my face is scabbed up from her attack, but I'm basically on the fence as to whether I'd continue smashing. The entire day was filled w/ a text barrage of "please take me back, I'll do anything" and "I wanna dress up in my valentines outfit and fuck you" type texts. We end up taking a walk together (we work together) and she puts on the pressure about giving her another shot, walk ends on a positive note. Later on she gets out of work and instead of her usual text barrage I get radio silence, I could sense something was off. All on a hunch I leave work early, jump in my car, and speed over to her apt. Halfway there she texts what I'm up to and I say working late. When I get to her place I notice her car is not there. I text her "whatcha up to", figured it'd be unassuming and wouldn't raise suspicion. She writes back "getting in the shower". At this point I know shes doing something shady bc she's not even at her place! I power dial her phone and finally she picks up w/ water running in the background, I grill her "where are you", she replies, "getting in the shower", I say "no you're not, I'm standing in your parking lot and you aren't here, we're done" and I hung up. Turns out she was in a ladies room w/ the water running.

Long story short I end up finding her at a restaurant having drinks w/ a guy. I bust in, talk to the guy in a calm manner and get the full story, she had texted him after our altercation. She was at the door when I showed up at the restaurant and it's just me and him. Seems like a decent guy but didn't know she was playing both sides. She claims, "its just a friend", and runs after me as I leave the restaurant. She chases me down, leaves the random dude and proceeds to follow me for the next two hours around town.

FF to now. If you were me, would you milk the situation sexually for all it's worth (she's literally calling me 50 times a day, sending texts, sending dirty photos etc) or drop her like a bad habit and never talk to her again. Keep in mind this is a legit 9.5-10

Post: #2

You broke up with her but expect her not to date other people?

How did you randomly find them at a restaurant that night?

Post: #3

My advices is that these relationships have the potential to take you down.

I had a similar cokehead hottie girlfriend playing the same tricks and she almost destroyed me. Luckily I had built myself in advance a safety network amongst friends and family cause I knew I was getting into some emotionally destructive relationship.

It ended up me kicking her out of my house, calling a cab and throwing all her stuff there and shutting the door in her face while she gave me the finger.

5 days later she calls me that she fixed all her problems and wants to get back together. I told her yeah, maybe.. never called her back and 2 months later she writes me she's gonna leave to live to London. (I used to live in Buenos Aires by that time).

When women are unstable it's best to fuck them and drop them, and not get too attached. Their game is sometimes too much too handle and not worth the emotional / time / money cost.

Hope this helps.
Cheers,

Post: #4

(02-22-2013 06:33 AM)VUBBS Wrote:  My advices is that these relationships have the potential to take you down.

I had a similar cokehead hottie girlfriend playing the same tricks and she almost destroyed me. Luckily I had built myself in advance a safety network amongst friends and family cause I knew I was getting into some emotionally destructive relationship.

It ended up me kicking her out of my house, calling a cab and throwing all her stuff there and shutting the door in her face while she gave me the finger.

5 days later she calls me that she fixed all her problems and wants to get back together. I told her yeah, maybe.. never called her back and 2 months later she writes me she's gonna leave to live to London. (I used to live in Buenos Aires by that time).

When women are unstable it's best to fuck them and drop them, and not get too attached. Their game is sometimes too much too handle and not worth the emotional / time / money cost.

Hope this helps.
Cheers,

Well said. Definitely felt a hell of a lot better when I was out slaying ass w/ no strings attached. Walking around w/ a ferrari on your arm is sometimes too much work to make it worth it. Glad you were able to ward off any attempts.

I was stone cold until the photos started to pour in. Got me weak in the knees since my network of ass dwindled to 0 after we dated for a while.

Post: #5

Personally, I have never found "damage goods" to be worth the squeeze. But if you like a lot of drama in your life, go for it.

Post: #6

That's funny your username and then you go out and do some white knighting. So you get in a little fight and blow her off then chase her down. If you wanted to blow her off you should of blocked or ignored her from jumpstreet and started pulling new ass. You had no intentions of doing that and went full beta chasing her down. Basically she called you out and you bit now you are in the bitch position for the rest of the relationship so abort and don't do that again.

Post: #7

(02-22-2013 09:33 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  That's funny your username and then you go out and do some white knighting. So you get in a little fight and blow her off then chase her down. If you wanted to blow her off you should of blocked or ignored her from jumpstreet and started pulling new ass. You had no intentions of doing that and went full beta chasing her down. Basically she called you out and you bit now you are in the bitch position for the rest of the relationship so abort and don't do that again.

From your view I'd agree, shit was super whiteknighty

From my view I had reservations that this one could be shady, but wanted to see it for myself to be able to move on. Hadn't I seen what I saw, it'd be tougher to sideline this one.

At this point I have her drooling for my attention so much that I could either FWB her, or drop her off at the curb. She's no longer a viable choice for anything serious, that's my dilemma. To fuck or not to fuck.......tis the question

Post: #8

Just string her along for easy sex. In order to get rid of your attachment see girls at them sametime.

Post: #9

She sounds pretty dangerous. I guess it's really a matter of figuring out how much you have to lose, and whether it's worth it. It most likely is not.

Post: #10

She sounds textbook BPD. My ex-fiance is BPD.

Is the sex ridiculous? YES

Are these chicks hot as hell? YES. My ex was like a 11/10 so I get it.

Are they dangerous and will MINDFUCK the shit out of you while STEALING $40,000 from your life savings? POSSIBLY

Listen to me bro: It's not worth it. You have oneitis right now and I get it. The sex is insane, your options are zero because you haven't been gaming other girls, BUT to continue to f*k her is only going to increase your dependence on her. These types of girls will ruin your life and never look back IF you ALLOW them.

Cut off contact, change your number and your job if you have to. Get the f*k away from her. Guaranteed $1,000 she's been cheating on you too.

You can not listen and think it will be different with her...but I hope you don't.

Post: #11

Not giving a fuck only works when you really don't give a fuck. The fact that you let your pipeline fall apart put you in a spot but if you continued to pipeline you'd be the one getting caught in the restaurant not her = you don't give a fuck

Post: #12

What happens when, during the next physical altercation--and there will be one, she (or anyone else) calls the cops and they show up? You are fucked. Doesn't matter if she's standing there with a butcher knife and you have four stab wounds, you're going to jail after you get out of the hospital.

I had a buddy whose wife used to get all crazy and attack him. One night she flips out and attacks him, he doesn't want to hurt her, but she's kicking him, punching him, scratching him, so he calls the cops. Cops show up, she's chilled out, cops ask if he wants to press charges, he says no. Just wanted her to stop and she seems cool now, so, it's cool. They leave.

Within 15 minutes, she flips out again, attacks him again and then SHE calls the cops. Cops show up, she says he hit her and she wants to press charges. Poof. He's in the slammer, barred from returning to his own fucking house, has to go stay in a hotel when he bails himself out of jail, police confiscate all of his firearms which he had in a collection that had been in his family for years, gets suspended from work, ordered to counseling, blocked from seeing his child--the list of shit goes on and on. Of course, she was crazy as fuck and over the course of the next 3 years and several trials and tens of thousands of dollars in attorney fees later, it all comes out and he's redeemed, gets custody of the kid and she got hospitalized in a mental institution for Bipolar/Anxiety disorders, etc. But damn, it RUINED his life for several years and cost him a fortune.

No sex is worth a fraction of all that bullshit. I would discontinue all contact with the chick.

Good luck.

Post: #13

(02-22-2013 12:07 PM)Dulceácido Wrote:  What happens when, during the next physical altercation--and there will be one, she (or anyone else) calls the cops and they show up? You are fucked. Doesn't matter if she's standing there with a butcher knife and you have four stab wounds, you're going to jail after you get out of the hospital.

I had a buddy whose wife used to get all crazy and attack him. One night she flips out and attacks him, he doesn't want to hurt her, but she's kicking him, punching him, scratching him, so he calls the cops. Cops show up, she's chilled out, cops ask if he wants to press charges, he says no. Just wanted her to stop and she seems cool now, so, it's cool. They leave.

Within 15 minutes, she flips out again, attacks him again and then SHE calls the cops. Cops show up, she says he hit her and she wants to press charges. Poof. He's in the slammer, barred from returning to his own fucking house, has to go stay in a hotel when he bails himself out of jail, police confiscate all of his firearms which he had in a collection that had been in his family for years, gets suspended from work, ordered to counseling, blocked from seeing his child--the list of shit goes on and on. Of course, she was crazy as fuck and over the course of the next 3 years and several trials and tens of thousands of dollars in attorney fees later, it all comes out and he's redeemed, gets custody of the kid and she got hospitalized in a mental institution for Bipolar/Anxiety disorders, etc. But damn, it RUINED his life for several years and cost him a fortune.

No sex is worth a fraction of all that bullshit. I would discontinue all contact with the chick.

Good luck.

On the flip side when you get used to being with crazy women the rest of them seem boring.

I ask them "So what are you going to do? Get drunk and wreck my car? Crack binge? It's ok you can tell me" The response is always the same..What? I'm not like that blah blah..Two days later there she is smashing on my door at 3 am wasted with half her car tore up.

Post: #14

(02-22-2013 12:19 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

(02-22-2013 12:07 PM)Dulceácido Wrote:  What happens when, during the next physical altercation--and there will be one, she (or anyone else) calls the cops and they show up? You are fucked. Doesn't matter if she's standing there with a butcher knife and you have four stab wounds, you're going to jail after you get out of the hospital.

I had a buddy whose wife used to get all crazy and attack him. One night she flips out and attacks him, he doesn't want to hurt her, but she's kicking him, punching him, scratching him, so he calls the cops. Cops show up, she's chilled out, cops ask if he wants to press charges, he says no. Just wanted her to stop and she seems cool now, so, it's cool. They leave.

Within 15 minutes, she flips out again, attacks him again and then SHE calls the cops. Cops show up, she says he hit her and she wants to press charges. Poof. He's in the slammer, barred from returning to his own fucking house, has to go stay in a hotel when he bails himself out of jail, police confiscate all of his firearms which he had in a collection that had been in his family for years, gets suspended from work, ordered to counseling, blocked from seeing his child--the list of shit goes on and on. Of course, she was crazy as fuck and over the course of the next 3 years and several trials and tens of thousands of dollars in attorney fees later, it all comes out and he's redeemed, gets custody of the kid and she got hospitalized in a mental institution for Bipolar/Anxiety disorders, etc. But damn, it RUINED his life for several years and cost him a fortune.

No sex is worth a fraction of all that bullshit. I would discontinue all contact with the chick.

Good luck.

On the flip side when you get used to being with crazy women the rest of them seem boring.

I ask them "So what are you going to do? Get drunk and wreck my car? Crack binge? It's ok you can tell me" The response is always the same..What? I'm not like that blah blah..Two days later there she is smashing on my door at 3 am wasted with half her car tore up.

Lmao and true. The drama becomes normal. I was bored with most girls after my BPD ex until I regained my sanity.

Post: #15

Everything el mech said:

1. Dude stalks girl he "doesn't give a shit about"
2. Goes out of his way to find her at a restaurant
3. Works with her

If you didn't give a shit, this post would have never been written.

If you could bang this girl without caring, again post would have never been written, you'd be banging her.

Post: #16

(02-22-2013 12:42 PM)WestCoast Wrote:  Everything el mech said:

1. Dude stalks girl he "doesn't give a shit about"
2. Goes out of his way to find her at a restaurant
3. Works with her

If you didn't give a shit, this post would have never been written.

If you could bang this girl without caring, again post would have never been written, you'd be banging her.

Haha, thanks, very constructive

Ppl like you that add zero value to a community like this . I love the "Johnny tough guy" attitude, but if this girl even blinked in your direction you'd shit your ghostbusters undies.

Obviously I know what I need to do, but again I do value "most" members opinions on said situation and wanted an open discussion

Appreciate the replies thus far

Post: #17

The tone in my post was very direct.

If you want to bang her go for it, breaking it off just means either A) she's bat shit crazy and you can't control her emotions B) you're emotionally attached.

If its A that blows so move on. Get it?

There is no such thing as a "tough guy" on the Internet the last thing on my mind is if the Internet thinks I'm a tough guy. That's right up there with my interest in who manufactured the toilet paper we use on a day to day basis.

So same solution she's a nut job that really can't be controlled or B. control your emotions. That's about it.

The additional attack on"the wink comment" shows a lack of maturity, because you also shouldn't give a flying fuck about opinions of other people. Just results. And the bolded above are the two ways to get results. Complete cut off because she is a shit show or you control your emotions and drag her along like a dog on a leash. It's up to you.

I have zero interest in picking fights with you, only interested in helping you see the black/white in your decision.

If the bitch goes real crazy and starts fucking up your finances then bounce. If she's just calling/texting like a beggar then that's not an issue. Just don't be dumb and hit her since its the USA and you'll be fucked.

Post: #18

The first thing you should do is post pictures. BTW, this part "Keep in mind this is a legit 9.5-10" means that regardless of the crazy and insane shit she's pulling, should I nevertheless put up with it because she's sooo hot? Right? I prefer my life to have semblance of order, but others vary.

Post: #19

masturbate 3 times in a row, read your text. think. read it again. is there still a urge to fuck this woman, then proceed. if she is bringing more problems than benefits into your life, cut her off.

Post: #20

The guy asks for help, then tries to write WestCoast on his testes when WestCoast tries to help him. Unreal.

Post: #21

What kind of troll was he? Write him on my testes is RVF specific?

Post: #22

(02-22-2013 04:30 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  What kind of troll was he? Write him on my testes is RVF specific?

I think it's Greek Kamaki specific, like Viking Danish, erotic dance, and penis properties. Kamaki is the only one I have ever heard use the phrase.