Post: #1

A bit of a personal story. Sex was not happening because of condom issues. Which is a real pity because she was pretty much ready right then and there.

I have some issues here, with just feeling turned off when putting them on, and it only makes it worse to think about it, and then I'm limp in a second. I got nervous about being nervous , and that was it. I was down. She said she's not in the mood anymore. So we just lay there.

I told her I wanted a BJ and she said not tonight. She doesn't do that till later.

Then like a little kid I kind of teased her about it, because I felt a rejection. I think she picked up on my disappointment.

I felt the whole thing ended on a bit of a sour note. I kind of felt she was being a bit of bitch, but perhaps she had a valid point of view about her own boundaries and sexuality. I know I would like to please my girl, but she didn't want to please me.

any thoughts on condoms and dealing with testing / rejection in bed?

Post: #2

You were rejected because you failed to lead her emotions.

In situations like that girls take hints on how to act based on how the man reacts. For example, if I lose my erection as I'm putting on a condom and start feeling sorry for myself and nervous, she's going to turn cold and not be in the mood anymore.

If I lose my erection as I'm putting on the condom, chuckle about it a little, then continue to play with her clit and tease her, then lead her hand to my cock to get me ready again... Different outcome.