Post: #1

If a girl asks this question, or worse, finds out from some one else that at some point you've been cheated on or otherwise screwed over by a chick, do you think this fucks up your chances significantly? (Assuming the answer is yes).

Post: #2

Definitely not. It's yet another shit test to see if you are bitter, violent, or just not able to go with the flow. I assume you think it devalues you that you were cheated on. I can assure you, it does not.

If asked, just turn sensitive and say, 'Yes, she cheated on me. I feel sorry for her. All I can do is pray that she finds her way in life and realize that being a cheater is not the way to go.' And leave it at that.

Post: #3

Wouldn't it be a lot simpler to ask if there were someone who had NOT been screwed over? Just kidding. Actually I believe both of my LTR/live-ins were faithful to me, they both wanted to marry me also.

Post: #4

Of course it doesn't hurt your chances. Just say something to the effect of

"Yeah, and I dumped her because I absolutely hate cheaters and have no tolerance for them".

Post: #5

I would never admit to a girl that I've been cheated on. That lowers your perceived value. Tell all your ex's were so head over heels they would never risked ruining the relationship.

Post: #6

This is another instance where saying less is more. My early relationships I fell into through friends and I was really beta in many ways. I was probably lucky they lasted as long as they did. Because of this, the vast majority of my significant relationships, the girl broke up with me.

IF I cover any past relationships with girls I'll just say that we broke up (and won't specify the details). No need to call the exes bitches or sluts or reveal that they cheated on you or anything like that. Just keep it cool, skim the surface and move forward.

I will admit that I was a real late bloomer and that only in the last few years have I learned how to be more social and talk to girls because this is pretty at odds with how girls are introduced to me now. Because it contrasts heavily it's exciting in their minds. All that yin and yang in one person keeps them guessing.

I had to take an ex to small claims court once. But what girl really wants to hear that?

Post: #7

(08-27-2013 11:46 PM)nek Wrote:  If a girl asks this question, or worse, finds out from some one else that at some point you've been cheated on or otherwise screwed over by a chick, do you think this fucks up your chances significantly? (Assuming the answer is yes).

my advice is to say no then change the topic of conversation

Post: #8

I always say that my former gf's treated me extremely well, because I choose carefully (pointed look).

Post: #9

"I'd prefer not to talk about that."

(08-27-2013 11:46 PM)nek Wrote:  If a girl asks this question, or worse, finds out from some one else that at some point you've been cheated on or otherwise screwed over by a chick, do you think this fucks up your chances significantly? (Assuming the answer is yes).

Post: #10

Girl: Have you ever been cheated on by a girl?

You: Have you?

Refuse to believe her denials of bisexuality. Ask her how many all girl threesomes she's had. Lolz will ensue.

The way to handle shit tests like this is to throw it back in her face and clown on her

Post: #11

"Its complicated"

Any time a girl asks you a question answer with that and you're guaranteed a good response"

Post: #12

(08-28-2013 02:51 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  "Its complicated"

Any time a girl asks you a question answer with that and you're guaranteed a good response"

Started using that response ever since I read it on heartiste to positive effect. Often, she will then insist (excitedly) that you elaborate. You must resist the urge to.

Post: #13

It's complicated" is a great all purpose response to girl nosiness. I learned it from Roissy too and have used it many times since

Post: #14

It's complicated is ok. Keeps you cool & mysterious. Problem is it doesn't build any connection or understanding. Won't advance things. I prefer something to the effect of;

"I've been the heart breaker, and I've been on the other side too. What's good about experience, is it's taught me what qualities really matter in a woman".

Then when she asks what the qualities are, just describe your perfect girl.

Now she knows how to act right.