Post: #1

I've never in my life heard those words spoken to me before! (Who, me, touchy feely?? are you sure you don't have someone else?) This was a girl who wasn't hot, but who I was dancing with since I figured it was better than just standing there doing nothing. And these days I've definitely stepped up my kino. If I am talking to a girl for more than a few seconds I definitely go for it (it would almost be weird for me to not go for it).

Should I make anything of this comment, or just ignore it? How much is too much?

Post: #2

My ex said this to me, sometime after our first date, on which I fucked her. This was a girl who was a bit shocked by my hug goodbye after we first met, during the day. At first, when called "touchy-feely", I was a little put off. I've since realized though that in the moment, if you're kinoing right, it'll make her more comfortable, not less, no matter what she's used to. if you want sex, you want to get her used to your touch, not worrying about whether she thinks you're touchy feely. Maybe after the fact she'll think you're touchy, but by then she's already way into you.

Calibration is key here: If she begins to show signs of discomfort, back it up just a little, slow it down, and then after a bit, steadily resume escalating.

Kino's a great way to force IOIs. I was talking to a girl last night at a party, on a couch, had my hand on her lower back. She had trouble hearing me, so I told her "come, sit closer" she declined, and I ejected less than a minute later.

So her response is the result of a lack of calibration, awkward or incongruent touching, or a lack of interest on her part. Probably the latter.

Post: #3

I'd just smile. Girls have told me a lot of times. Unless she backs off from me or makes it harder to touch her, i assume she likes it.