Post: #1

So the ball busting bitches of Noo Yawk don't realize that playing with their iphones nonstop, dressing like men, and staying home with Netflix won't land them a husband. There's actually some decent red-pill wisdom in here that applies to all American women. Maybe some of our ideas are going mainstream.

From: http://nypost.com/2014/03/12/princeton-m...a-husband/

Quote:8 reasons why New York women can’t get a husband

By Jane Ridley

March 12, 2014 | 8:31pm
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8 reasons why New York women can’t get a husband
"Princeton Mom" Susan Patton has penned "Marry Smart," a book of dating advice for young women.



Last year, Susan Patton, a Princeton grad and the mother of two sons at the elite college, outraged feminists when she wrote an open letter to the Daily Princetonian telling female students to find a husband on campus before they graduate.

The red alert — which argued that these Ivy League college girls “would never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who would be worthy of you” — went viral with more than 100 million hits.

Now Patton, an independent HR consultant who lives on Manhattan’s Upper East Side and who’s been dubbed “Princeton Mom,” has capitalized on her fame with an old-fashioned dating manual, “Marry Smart.” Published this week, the book argues that coeds have a limited shelf life “as young, beautiful [women who are] as attractive to men or as fertile” and advises them to spend three-quarters of their time in school on the hunt for Mr. Right.

But what happens if you missed your shot and didn’t get that all-important MRS certificate along with your liberal arts degree?

Nil desperandum, says Patton. She believes that, even in the dog-eat-dog dating jungle that is New York, there is hope for single career women between the ages of 22 and 35 (yes, that’s her cutoff) who also want marriage and babies.

“These women are spinsters-in-training, but they can turn it around,” says the 50-something divorcée. “They need to apply the same attitude and gumption that got them to New York City to the task of getting a husband.”

So listen up, unattached ladies! Here’s where Princeton Mom thinks you’re going wrong:


1

You drink too much


The lush life may help NYC gals relieve stress, but it won't help land a suitable man for wedded bliss.



The ubiquitous “happy hour” sign outside your favorite bar might be beckoning — according to a recent study, binge drinking is on the rise here in NYC — but think before you dash through the doors of Dorrian’s for a 50-cent beer to ease your work stress. “Honestly, do you think that you’re at your most attractive when you are drunk, slurring your words and on the verge of puking?” asks Patton. “You’re not, and by drinking to excess, you put yourself at risk. Women who are sloppy drunks are a huge turnoff, as is the smell of puke on your hair.” You should also question whether a Second Avenue dive that shutters at 4 a.m. is the best hunting ground for love. “At best, it’s an undignified place to meet men; at worst, it’s a dangerous place to encounter possible psychopaths,” warns Patton. Her preferred spots to nab that life partner? The Metropolitan Museum, the Guggenheim, MoMA. “Any museum is a safe and very reasonable place to engage in conversation with strangers over Monet’s brilliant use of light, Mondrian’s cubist overtones or Calder’s playfulness,” she observes.



2

You might as well be married to your iPhone


Ladies, put down that smart phone -- it's a potential husband killer! Instead, "Princeton Mom" Susan Patton suggests holding your head high -- and smiling.



You’ll never hear wedding bells when you’re constantly bent over an electronic device with your earbuds in. “When you walk through Grand Central Station, Central Park or down Madison Avenue — hold your head high and get in the habit of looking people in the eye,” says Patton. “Smile. Look like you’d be nice to speak with — welcoming, warm, charming. You can’t do any of that if you are hunched over your laptop or iPad.” Instead, it’s time to wise up, smell the spring flowers and go for a walk at lunchtime.



3

You wear too much black


Avoid black, boyish outfits and choose chic, flirty frocks in bright, welcoming colors instead.


New York women may be known for their fashion sense, but black clothing, severe silhouettes and the kind of avant garb made famous by local fashionista Leandra Medine (a k a the Man Repeller) are all no-no’s. “Anything that makes a woman look like she’s dressing as a man” is to be avoided, says Patton. In other words, you can’t go wrong with a pastel-colored frock. “You should dress with more sophistication,” says Patton, whose favorite designer is Tahari. Another Patton peeve is the gal who wears no makeup, even when she’s jogging around the Prospect Park loop at 7 a.m. “If you are in serious husband-hunting mode, don’t leave your apartment unless you look so good that you’d be delighted to run into your ex-boyfriend,” she adds. “Remember, your body hasn’t yet been ravaged by childbirth, and presumably you’ve kept yourself healthy and attractive. You have to make the best of this time.”



4
You're dating too many guys at work



Seeing as you spend most of your waking hours in the office, you might be tempted to make like Joan Holloway from “Mad Men” with your very own Roger Sterling (above). But show Patton a career girl who thinks she’ll find the man of her dreams at the office, and she’ll show you a future “old lady with cats.” “Women tend to be attracted to men at work who are older than they are and more senior,” she says. “When those love affairs end — and they almost always end — it’s the junior-position woman who is forced to find a new job or remain there feeling awkward.” Besides, you shouldn’t be “fishing off the company pier,” anyway. “Don’t mix your business and personal life,” adds Patton. As for married men, you already know the score. “He’s not leaving his wife for you. And if he would cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you,” says Patton. Quit wasting your time with unsuitable men. “Bad boys can be fun to fool around with, and women do have needs, but stay away from these pigs for the sake of a little sausage.”



5

You spend too much time with your gay best friend

"Girls," Elijah may be fun to hang out with, but Hannah will never get to the altar if she spends all her time with her gay pal.

Do the funnest of your funnest nights out always end up at Therapy? We know they’re a blast, but it’s time to ditch your gay pals for a while and shop in a more appropriate market. “Your gay boyfriends are wonderful, but they are not marriage material,” says Patton. “They’ll understand if you explain why you have to spend a little less time with them until you find your man. There may not be many prospects for you on Christopher Street, but your homosexual friends may know straight guys who might be appropriate for you.” Let them know that you’d consider it a favor.



6

You're ignoring your biological clock


In a city like New York, where a girl is bombarded by subway ads for IVF clinics, fertility endocrinologists and all manner of assisted reproduction techniques, it’s all too easy to put your ambitions for motherhood on hold. “No, no, no, no,” shrieks Patton. “If you aspire to motherhood within marriage, you have a limited window of opportunity within which to find a husband and bear your own children.” To all those women who want to have children naturally, with the support of a husband, she sounds an unapologetic wake-up call. “You are not getting any younger,” says Patton. “But the women you are competing with to get the men you’re interested in marrying are most certainly getting younger.”



7

You hook up too much

Young, career-obsessed New York women are only too happy to hop in the sack without any long-term plans — witness the rising popularity of hookup apps like Tinder. But Patton takes a dim view of casual sex. “Men lose interest in women that are easier to make than a peanut butter sandwich,” she insists. “If you offer men sex without commitment, you eliminate the incentive for them to commit.” Granny was right: Men won’t buy the cow if the milk is free. “The women who troll the Meatpacking District are in the business of one-night stands, but if you are looking for a more substantial relationship, you have to pace yourself and engage in a very slow dance towards intimacy,” she warns. Patton also thinks you should keep details of your sex life to yourself. “Who you have sex with is your private business, so keep it private,” she says. “Talking about your hookups (or complaining about them) reflects badly on your judgment and your character.”



8

You over-rely on NYC conveniences


Yes, you’re stressed out and tired and you can get virtually anything delivered to you in this great city. But Seamless, FreshDirect and Netflix are making you lazy and, if Chinese is your takeout of choice, fat. “Everybody works hard, and at the end of a long day it’s great to order in tapas and binge on a ‘House of Cards’ marathon,” says Patton. “But you won’t meet anybody new in your studio walk-up.” So, slip off the Slanket and get out into the world. As a dog lover, Patton (who owns a dachshund named Lucille) firmly believes in the power of the canine-concocted romance. “Grab a leash, your lipstick and go for a walk in the park — if you’ve trained your dog well, they can act as your wingman.”

Post: #2

"But what happens if you missed your shot and didn’t get that all-important MRS certificate along with your liberal arts degree?"

Haha! I did find it odd that girls working on liberal art degrees weren't trying to get hitched with motivated dudes during college. Did they really think they would have a career outside of Starbucks after college? However, the last thing a driven man wants is to get hitched in college and limiting his career potential. Most girls only want to live in the big cities, but there are many great starting jobs in the rural areas these days.

I went to school in upstate NY so I got to deal with all the people that are either from the tri-state area, or plan on moving to the metropolis. They really don't have a clue and this article hits the nail on the head.

Post: #3

Real reason: there's too much pussy out here.

Post: #4

That's some good advice.

Post: #5

Why would any man buy the cow when there's sluts on every corner handing out free milk?

I'm sorry but you have to bring more to the table than sex if you want marriage. I'm not interested in your career or salary either.

Post: #6

Number 7 should've been highlighted. What man of any value wants a used up cum dumpster?

Post: #7

The ethnic ones are doing just fine. Ya know you need two incomes sometimes to raise kids.

Post: #8

This article gives me a fat fat chubby.

As a New Yorker - I saw this article shared 15 times on my facebook timeline today, all with predictable outrage from the career gals.

My face when reading:


While they be like

Post: #9

The comments are priceless.

Post: #10

Some real gold in the comment section:

Quote:I totally disagree about the makeup. I am now almost 61 and I rarely wear makeup. I've never had a problem attracting a man. It's all in the smile and eyes

Post: #11

Has Tuthmosis taken up ghostwriting?

Post: #12

No one wants to invest in a used car, nor does any self respecting man want to commit himself to a whore.

Here's a good rule: never marry a woman older than 21.

Post: #13

Here is my comment on the blog:

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Men don't have to do cr*p and they can get married any time. They can wait longer..in fact a man is MORE desirable at 37 than when he is 27. For a woman, she's dead in the water at 37.

The biggest obstacle to women's getting married today is their failure to understand this very simple fact. Men who want to get married can snap their fingers and have a dozen candidates any time. They can wander off to to Ohio and find young women with lesser degrees who will make perfectly good wives. They don't need to find a woman who "equals" their education, in fact most men realize instinctively that they are better off with a woman who is slightly less educated. High performing men often don't want high performing women...too much of a clash of wills.

That's the way it is ladies, and yes, it's totally fair so stop whining. When you were 18 and gorgeous, you could snap your fingers and get 10 guys who wanted to jump in the sack. You had power. When men reach their mid-30s and want to get married, the situation reverses and THEY have the power. Yin and yang.

If you want a hubby, work for him. Prepare to be a wife, not a competitor. That means, cook and feed his ego.

If you don't want a hubby strongly enough to make these compromises, then don't get married. Die alone with cats. Deal with it. Or shut up about it. We guys really could care less.
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Post: #14

9) You fucked Soup

Post: #15

(03-13-2014 10:05 PM)Emancipator Wrote:  9) You fucked Soup

waiting for soup to respond.....

Post: #16

(03-13-2014 08:19 PM)vinman Wrote:  Number 7 should've been highlighted. What man of any value wants a used up cum dumpster?

Many men have no value or values; that's a large part of why things are the way they are.

Post: #17

I've seen a handful of tatted up monochromatic short haired hipsters with massive stones on their left ring finger. Couldn't tell if they were being ironic with cracker jacks or submitting to the patriarchy.

Make no mistake, some guys are this thirsty.

Post: #18

Favorite comment thus far:

Quote:Marijo O'Connell 1 hour ago

Excellent advice for any woman who believes that marriage is the answer for a wonderful life. Snagging a man to marry is easy. Staying married is much more difficult and most married women find that they fell victim to the romantic myth, which is what Patton is promoting. If I had daughters, I would advise them to remain independent, ie. NEVER GET MARRIED, focus on their career, have as many children as they want AND can support on their own. Then raise them without the conflict and interference of a man. Patton is a throwback to the last century.

Post: #19

Why is that a favorite comment Flint? Its promoting more single moms.

Post: #20

A friend of mine once dated this hipster SWPL chick in her late thirties. She told him once "I have 25 requirements in a man, and you are close, but you only have 22 of those requirements." He looked at her and said "Sounds like 25 reasons why you're still single to me."

Post: #21

Selection bias.

She mentions that guys won't marry the chicks who put out too easy.

Wrong.

Chicks are only carefree about putting out to the bad boys who will never marry them.

They only take their time with the betas - who are also the only ones who will agree to marry them.

Easy mistake to make - but you are comparing apples and oranges.

A beta guy - looking to marry - is just as likely to want to marry a chick if she puts out on the first date. Than he would if she made him wait three months first

Equally - the guy who is used to getting easy sex. Won't still be around waiting - three months later. And will certainly not be hanging around hoping to wife up the bitch because she is 'special' and made him wait.

Post: #22

(03-14-2014 08:58 AM)unbowed Wrote:  I've seen a handful of tatted up monochromatic short haired hipsters with massive stones on their left ring finger. Couldn't tell if they were being ironic with cracker jacks or submitting to the patriarchy.

Make no mistake, some guys are this thirsty.

Thirst is one Hell of a illness.

Post: #23

(03-14-2014 02:37 PM)kbell Wrote:  Why is that a favorite comment Flint? Its promoting more single moms.

I meant favorite in the sense of good examples how bad it can get.

Post: #24

The original story is amazingly accurate. They are drunk sluts, they do text during dinner, and it seems that EVERY girl in NYC has a gay BFF. And they hook up. A lot.

I'm not complaining about the last part. But I wouldn't marry it.

Post: #25

(03-14-2014 08:58 AM)unbowed Wrote:  I've seen a handful of tatted up monochromatic short haired hipsters with massive stones on their left ring finger. Couldn't tell if they were being ironic with cracker jacks or submitting to the patriarchy.

Make no mistake, some guys are this thirsty.

You see there engagement photos and it's hard to tell whom the bride and groom is... most look like teenage lesbian couples if the dude dosnt have a beard.

These broads say yes so they can get that selfie with the rock. I see hipster women using their kids as photo props these days also, with the tattoos are more a focal point of the photo then them with three child. Rock. Beta husband. Offspring. All props... She will trade all in when she is bored.