Post: #1

I'm sitting at a café near my apartment earlier this afternoon. It's a sunny, mild day in Bangkok. I'm enjoying just sitting there. I'm waiting for my date to arrive. I order a hot lemon tea and sip it slowly.

My girl shows up in a frilly white dress. Very sexy. But her unannounced friend is with her. She's older and much less attractive. Over the hill, actually.

Some voice deep inside of me says "you should be angry now. She's changed the terms of your meeting. This constitutes deceit. Bail, Vincent!". But I'm in a good mood and I feel perfectly calm (or complacent?) so I stay seated in my chair.

My girl sits down next to me. She's all of 45kg, with jet black hair and lustrous dark skin like she just got back from a 2 week vacation at the beach.

She says she's half Chinese, half Thai but she looks almost Pinay with those big black eyes looking at me widely. The forbidding mamasan is sitting across from me, scrutinizing my every fucking blink and brazenly girl coding with my girl even though it's obvious I can see what she's doing.

My girl keeps deferring to her older, sterner friend. Her body language is tempered by the reactions of the mamasan, who probes me with an arrogant tone: "why did you choose to meet her at a café right near your place?"

So I could do with her what you'd like done with you, you nosy, covetous cunt.

"Do you always bring your bodyguard with you on dates?" I say to my girl, trying to lighten the mood. She laughs. A beautiful giggle. God she'd look good on her knees in front of me...

Of course, at this point I know with 100% certainty that there's no way I'm pulling this honey-skinned hunny back to my apartment with her glowering friend sitting there and running interference.

We're not even 5 minutes into this interaction and I already know exactly what's coming. I also know that what I should do is say "bye", and leave right away.

You see, after several annoying incidents in the past, I've made it my custom to simply walk away without saying a word if a girl arrives with a friend (or several). Seriously, I'll blow right past them and out the door without so much as a smile.

It isn't even an issue of being an asshole or anything like that, it's an issue of not allowing myself to invest ANY emotional energy in a situation that can bring me no value whatsoever.

Besides, I have more than enough abundance to not have to waste my time with these kinds of rigged scenarios.

So why did I keep sitting there today? Because I lost sight of good form, that's why. I tried to put whipped cream on a big pile of dookie. Good players know better than this.

Bad seducer!

So the girlies order some crappucino sugar shakes (is there even any coffee in these fucking things) to the tune of $10. This is $10 in Thailand, mind you.

Neither of them even feign an attempt to reach into their bags for money. And like an out of control drunk, what's another fuck up? I feel around in my pocket for the money adjacent to my now flaccid wang and absent-mindedly throw a bill on the billfold.

You're welcome, hos.

I've always had this thing where when something infuriating happens, I don't get angry right away. There's a delay and 15 minutes later I blow up. My dad's the same way. It's like when an earthquake hits miles offshore. Everything looks fine and then a tidal wave comes and demolishes everything in sight.

My body was already warm from the lemon tea. Then I started to feel the heat pulsating in my face and the sweat trickling down my arms from my armpits, smelling vaguely of cortisol. My jaw started clenching and I felt myself on the verge of picking up my teapot and shattering it against the wall with a look at both of them that seems to say "that's what I think of you and your friend."

And then all of a sudden I heard a voice inside whispering to me...

Psst! Vincent....It's your fault bro. Take responsibility. She tricked you but you could have walked out. Instead you stayed and kept investing in the situation. Leave now, think it over, and for fuck's sake, don't repeat the same mistake ever again. And remember, you have 100 more numbers in your phone. ...Jackass.

Thanks, voice of reason. Why do you always sound like a dad? One that actually knows something about getting laid, that is.

I stood up, $10 broker, and politely made my exit. I got home and texted my girl against my better judgment. But fuck it, I needed the closure.

I'm dissapointed in you. I came to meet you but you trick me and bring your friend. I want to connect with you but you can't relax and be yourself becasue she's watching you.

I'm sorry if I mad you feel bad. I already told you it's on the way back home. How could I leave my friend alone?

It's really not true if you said it wasn't me bcz I always be myself and I don't need to pretend even I'm with my friend or without her. Vincent: Bullshit.

Sorry once again and thank you very much. x

Don't message me anymore.

So fellas, in case it isn't abundantly clear: walk away from this situation right away.

Because if you stay and implicitly agree to the unannounced addition of a 3rd party, you're rewarding a girl for deceitful behavior. It's quite clever on her part, actually. Although I'm not sure what good it does her if her goal is to actually connect with a man (if it is).

All you do is cede power and you're left resenting yourself (and her and her friend) for it. Walk away and immediately divest yourself and your precious emotional energy from this bogus group dynamic. Or put another way, refuse to invest any energy in it, tempting though it may be.

Somebody will say "yeah but, I've managed to get laid by playing this game before." Maybe so, maybe so. You can also manage to catch a fish using the wrong bait on occasion. Doesn't make it a wise course of action.

I've come to the conclusion that if a man wants a lot of ass, he has to be systematic and ruthless in the application of tried and true, proven principles that have been verified by players of all stripes through the ages. Ad libbing contrary to solid fundamentals in fighting is how you get your ass kicked. So it is with swooping.

If this post saves just ONE guy from having to go through this crap unnecessarily, I'll consider it a big success.

Post: #2

I find it very awfull for you that this happened. But I thank you very much for sharing your experience. While i was reading your article I decided to make a plan in my head. The plan is this:

If in case this happens to whoever again, just do this:

When the girl comes with her unannounced girlfriend, just act cool. Go sit down and drink something BUT DON'T PAY YET. Let them order a drink too, so you all drink. Make sure you are in a place where you have to pay AFTER consuming. After you have almost drunk your drinks, fall in with something similar to this:
'' Oh, shit! I forgot my homekeys(or something else important) in the car! Wait here I will be right back!''

They will say okay. After that: go away and never come back. The best thing is not that they will be waiting for you the whole time, but that they have to pay for their own drinks AND your drinks, while you are away so they have no other choice than paying. She obviously will be mad and call you out for it, how you respond on that is your own choice. You can ignore here or tell her that she is the one fucking it up since she brought a girlfriend with her that she didn't unannounce.

This plan is magical. Something i'm going to do from now on everytime a girl fuckes it up by bringing an unannounced friend with her.

Post: #3

Threesome game activated

Post: #4

Good read.

I've been put in similar situations before. I just kept plowing forward escalating, kino etc. I've never had a girl bring an old broad with her. Usually it's her best friend. I usually take that to mean it's an audition for the role of boyfriend. Providing you've banged her already.

Post: #5

The only correct response when duped like this by a girl.

Post: #6

I would have tried to get out asap without making a scene at my regular venue.

You could have salvaged and told her that something came up and you had to go but could meet up for a drink later.

Been polite and avoid drama and writing butt hurt texts to a girl.

Post: #7

Good call, Soup.

Next time I'll make up an excuse, get out of dodge and see if I can reschedule the meeting on my terms.

Post: #8

It seems like this kind of situation has come up before in the forum.

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Is this a cultural thing specific to Thailand/Asia?

Post: #9

Thanks for the read man. It's fucked up that this kind of thing happens to the best of us. I run into this all the fucking time but it's more like she tells me ahead of time she's bringing a friend. To which I will joke around 1-2 lines about wanting to see her alone, but if I show up and her friend is there I leave.

You were way too nice there bro. I mean, if her friend was being a decent human being then fine, at least you can have a conversation just like with any body on earth, but she's acting like a cock-blocking ho you should walk out and let them pay for the shit. They were asking for it.

Anyway, I'm curious as to why girls do this? Free drink for their friend? Approval? Need to feel safe. In none of these scenarios can you salvage a desirable outcome, so there's really no point in staying.

Post: #10

(03-23-2014 09:55 AM)Sombro Wrote:  It seems like this kind of situation has come up before in the forum.

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Is this a cultural thing specific to Thailand/Asia?

Yes.

It was probably a normal thing to have a chaperone a couple generations ago, but now it is mostly used to leech drink/money/food out of the unsuspecting foreigner under the guise of "I am a good girl and this is how good girls date in Thailand". Don't fall for it.

Post: #11

(03-23-2014 09:55 AM)Sombro Wrote:  It seems like this kind of situation has come up before in the forum.

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Is this a cultural thing specific to Thailand/Asia?

It's happened to me in the states. It turned out well enough, but I was throne for a loop for sure.

WIA

Post: #12

Why not just say:

"Oh hey, I didn't think you'd meet a friend on your way. Why don't I just let you two catch up and maybe we'll meet up another time?" and politely excuse yourself, and mentally write her off? Confrontation is going to just make her think you're butthurt about it, since she's got plausible deniability about why she brought her friend in the first place.

Post: #13

I had this happen to me in Thailand and just walked away after telling the girl that I didn't come there to see her and her friend.

Another thing I did was meeting at a park with a girl and her friend ($0 cost to me), then meeting with her next time without a friend. I didn't sleep with that girl, unfortunately, but that's because my logistics and game were effed up at that time.

I also bought drinks at clubs for the girl I was after and her friend to neutralize the friend as a potential cock-block. It worked for me.

I would say there are no strict rules, so when I find myself in this situation, I decide on a case by case basis. It only happened to me in Thailand and Colombia. I don't think I would put up with something like this in the West.