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Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
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Long story short, she asked her BF for a open relationship so she could be a sex tourist and bang other guys and says she was not worried about her BF cheating ... then her BF starts seeing another girl and now her hamster is going berserk .

BF says :"Youve tied my hands. If i tell you i forbid it, ill still be worried if youre being true to your word. By expressing that this is what you want, theres nothing i can do to stop you". Game of BF recognized;agree and amplify.

She had the intention to ride as much cock in those 3 months and failed...cause she thought she had a beta BF...who turned out to be an alpha.


This is what happens when you have feminism, you have women who think they can have their cake and eat it.

As a woman, you either be a slut or be a relationship ...you don't get to pick both.

"I won't be looking to fuck any guy I just see, just occasionally IF it happens." <--so much hamster, she wants to bang 4 guys a week.


Quote:Saw this in r/relationships. Was able to copy the text before it got deleted. I guess she couldn't handle the heat people were giving her hahaha


TLDR - Before my vacation i [F24] asked my boyfriend [M25] to open our relationship temporarily. Now hes regularly having sex with some girl in our apartment and im heartbroken

Im pretty fucking upset rigth now , Im going to do my best to explain everything thats happened.

Ive had an extended holiday (3 months) planned with my best friend (Tory) for years. We have always talked about it and my boyfriend (Daniel) knew we were going to do it. She finally finished college this December and we put our plan into action.

Another friend (Michelle) went on a similar trip years ago. She and her friend both had longterm boyfriends at the time, and they both ended up cheating on the trip. A while later their friendship fell apart, and they both revealed each others infidelity. It got ugly. Michelle and her boyfriend broke up, her (ex)friend stayed with her boyfriend but from the sounds of it their relationship was severely damaged.

At first i thought they were absolutely horrible for doing it, but after talking to her i could see their side of things - months of no sexual contact/release, being in a party atmosphere, of course there would be temptation. She's young, attractive and gets lots of male attention. The encounter was purely sexual, she was drunk, and they used protection. The next day the boy was out of her life completely and that was it. I vehementely disagreed with doing all this behind her boyfriends back though.

Talking with Michelle about a month ago, she asked what im going to do about Daniel. I honestly hadnt thought about it like that, i felt like i could easily go 3 months without having sex. And id never want to betray Daniel's trust. But Michelle made a good case for 'opening' our relationship while i was away - she said (paraphrasing): "Of course you love Daniel. But traveling is about experiencing new things, and that includes sex. Youll say it wont happen now, but you just have to trust me that once youre their youll feel different. Daniel is going to wonder either way if youre fucking other guys on your trip. Just be upfront with him and see what he says."

And so that night i talked to him about it. I explained that i wasnt going to be looking to fuck every guy i see that im attracted to, and that my love for him was as strong as ever, but i also wanted to be able act freely and party like other girls my age. It was more contingency if anything - i dont plan on fucking other guys, but if it happens it happens. A nigth of partying half the world away with people ill never see again shouldnt ruin what we had here. Id insist on using protection. And of course he would have the same opportunity as me, he would be able to freely see girls if he chose to. He wasnt happy, but said he understood. He said "Youve tied my hands. If i tell you i forbid it, ill still be worried if youre being true to your word. By expressing that this is what you want, theres nothing i can do to stop you".

Daniels a bit of a homebody - he goes out with his friends on occassion, but most nights he spends in our apartment playing video games or watching netflix. Given his lifestyle i wasnt overly worried hed be hooking up with all these random girls.

Me and Tory left on February 17. Its been eye-opening and a ton of fun. But its also been stressful. We havent done any partying, we talked to some guys one night but nothing came of it. Tonight i checked my email at an internet cafe and there was a message from Kay, a sweet old lady who lives above us in our apartment complex.

"I have debated for days whether to send this to you and potentially ruin your vacation. But you deserve to know the truth. Daniel has been seeing another woman since you left. There is no doubt that he is seeing her, she has come over most nights and I have heard them being intimate. You deserve so much better. I'm so sorry."

I thought i could handle this open relationship arrangement. I cant. This message shattered my heart into a million pieces. This isnt what i intended at all, i wanted the freedom to act in the moment. He is taking this as a free pass to regularly fuck some girl. And i have a feeling i know exactly who it is, a girl from his work who was always overly flirty with him.

I regret ever taking Michelles advice and opening my stupid mouth. I dont want him to fuck other girls, i dont want to fuck other guys. I want this slut out of my apartment NOW!!! I am a fucking wreck and need other womens opinions. Tory has been so unhelpful, basically telling me to grow up and that i got what i asked for. No shit?! People arent allowed to change their minds or regret their decisions?!

How do I go about contacting him and expressing that this needs to stop NOW without coming across like a crazy hypocritical bitch? And let him know that i will be 100% faithful on my trip? I dont even know how i am going to look at him when i get home. I am beyond hurt, this feels so wrong and so sick.

I am going to bed now to try and get some sleep, i will check and respond to all comments tomorrow morning. Thank you Sad

EDIT: guys, seriously stop it. I know i fucked up, i brought it all on myself. Kicking me while im down isnt helping. Im not asking for your opinion on my stupid selfish decision, im asking the best way to approach this and fix it.

Tory says i should email him saying "what i said before about opening our relationship was a mistake. I havent slept with anyone here and i dont want to. Youre my parter and i dont want to compromise what we have. Please be faithful as I will be to you. I love you." Simply dont tell him about Kay's email or that i know there's another woman. Thoughts?
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The bid for an open relationship is always made from a viewpoint of a higher SMV. In this case that viewpoint turned out to be a false one.
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He was probably already banging the other girl on the side.

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I'm fairly sure this is a dupe, from like a month back.
Can't find the thread though

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(04-08-2014 09:18 AM)Mage Wrote:  The bid for an open relationship is always made from a viewpoint of a higher SMV. In this case that viewpoint turned out to be a false one.

I'd say that she still has higher SMV than him probably, but she completely misjudged his, going by her observation here:

"Daniels a bit of a homebody - he goes out with his friends on occassion, but most nights he spends in our apartment playing video games or watching netflix. Given his lifestyle i wasnt overly worried hed be hooking up with all these random girls."

She thought he was a typical video game loser addict that wouldn't be able to attract any girl. She was very wrong.

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RE: Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
Also, the guy is an idiot if he accepts her back.

Maybe just for a few hatefuck, but that is all.
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This modern, strong, independent and empowered bitch got owned
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The comments on that are great! Glad the girl got hurt. Also, I love how the neighbor claims the hamster deserves better. Maybe she should tell the neighbor this is happening because she asked for it.
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RE: Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
(04-08-2014 09:53 AM)Glaucon Wrote:  Also, the guy is an idiot if he accepts her back.

Maybe just for a few hatefuck, but that is all.

he should accept her back, in an open relationship with the other girl he's already banging on the regular.

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She only wants to be with him exclusively BECAUSE he banged the other broad. It's a great catch 22 situation

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RE: Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
I'd love to know what came of this.
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RE: Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
Definitely a dupe... possibly same first reply gif also.


Still, makes me happy to read it again.

But also somehow can't find the original...
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RE: Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
Quote:At first i thought they were absolutely horrible for doing it, but after talking to her i could see their side of things - months of no sexual contact/release, being in a party atmosphere, of course there would be temptation. She's young, attractive and gets lots of male attention. The encounter was purely sexual, she was drunk, and they used protection. The next day the boy was out of her life completely and that was it.

A false rape accusation would have fixed everything.

Quote:Daniels a bit of a homebody - he goes out with his friends on occassion, but most nights he spends in our apartment playing video games or watching netflix. Given his lifestyle i wasnt overly worried hed be hooking up with all these random girls.

Lazy attitude towards punctuation. 2/10 WNB.

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(04-08-2014 11:17 AM)LaserBear Wrote:  Definitely a dupe... possibly same first reply gif also.


Still, makes me happy to read it again.

But also somehow can't find the original...

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(04-08-2014 11:38 AM)Tigre Wrote:  
(04-08-2014 11:17 AM)LaserBear Wrote:  Definitely a dupe... possibly same first reply gif also.


Still, makes me happy to read it again.

But also somehow can't find the original...

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My bad. Did not mean to dupe.
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RE: Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
Yeah that other thread title was awful.

It's a great story, but I find it unlikely that it's true. A chick would go to Reddit to solicit advice for this situation? I think she'd continue following the advice of her friends, regardless of the fact that they were the ones who led her into this.
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RE: Girl asks BF for open relationship so she could be a sex tourist..it backfires on her
Boo hoo. You asked for it when you assumed he would sit at home, watch Netflix and fap it for 3 months. Sorry...it gave him the nudge he needed. The rest of the noise is just this:

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Dupe but it seems like a lot of guys missed it the first time. I'll let it proceed.

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Quote:She's young, attractive and gets lots of male attention. The encounter was purely sexual, she was drunk, and they used protection. The next day the boy was out of her life completely and that was it.

I love how they try to justify things. Especially the wearing a glove part.

Apparently it's only meaningful sex if it's bareback?

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Did they say where she was going?

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(04-08-2014 02:46 PM)Hotwheels Wrote:  
Quote:She's young, attractive and gets lots of male attention. The encounter was purely sexual, she was drunk, and they used protection. The next day the boy was out of her life completely and that was it.

I love how they try to justify things. Especially the wearing a glove part.

Apparently it's only meaningful sex if it's bareback?

Remember, blowjobs and anal aren't even worth mentioning either. It's practically not sex!!!
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We gotta find Daniel and invite him to the forum.
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(04-08-2014 03:18 PM)TonySandos Wrote:  
(04-08-2014 02:46 PM)Hotwheels Wrote:  
Quote:She's young, attractive and gets lots of male attention. The encounter was purely sexual, she was drunk, and they used protection. The next day the boy was out of her life completely and that was it.

I love how they try to justify things. Especially the wearing a glove part.

Apparently it's only meaningful sex if it's bareback?

Remember, blowjobs and anal aren't even worth mentioning either. It's practically not sex!!!

You can thank "Slick Willie" Clinton for that.

Here's a snapshot of the deleted reddit thread http://redditlog.com/snapshots/267357

Edit: This reminds me of the end of my longest relationship. The main difference was our relationship was toxic and coming to it's conclusion. She decided she was going to go traveling (freight hopping with scumbags). She told me that I could fuck other girls, just not "that one". So I fucked that one and told her about it over the phone. Put the final nail in the coffin when I called her a self serving cunt when she was gone 2 months longer than she said. Was this beta?

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