Post: #1

Given the epic flakiness of modern American girls I wanted to get some quick feedback from the forum readers. In Bang, Roosh wrote that it is best to end the first date with a simple "it was nice meeting you" to the girl if you can't get the bang. I have been doing the same thing ever since. The idea is that is creates some uncertainty that boosts your value.

However, this was several years ago and times may have changed. My question is this: is it now a good idea to try to set up a day 2 date towards the end of date one? Thanks!

Post: #2

I'm going to go with no. I think Roosh hit a critical point with that closer, it gives uncertainty. I feel like trying to jump on a second date immediately shows her that you're hooked, and therefor just as easy as every other dude she has orbiting her. I've always waited a day or a couple before trying to get another date rolling.

Post: #3

Thanks I do the same- and wait 2-4 days to hit her up again. I also will "seed" the idea of a second date. Usually at a Comedy Club that I like.

Post: #4

I don't think it's a good idea to try to plan a second date during the first one, as in set up a specific time and place, but it's ok to talk about common interests and bring up ideas of doing something together sometime in future to gauge interest.

Also, if I'm just visiting a city and meet an attractive girl there, I talk about meeting up next time right away and act more persistent/forward than I would at home, because my time on vacation is much more valuable and I need to know if I should expect to see that girl again or focus on other girls.

Post: #5

This comes across as super needy. Avoid like the plague. The bubonic one.

Post: #6

I've gotta agree with Vicious^. One of Game's biggest rules is don't seem like you're desperate or begging her. Stick with what you said in your second post. Wait a couple days and just kinda play it into another date. And if she isn't putting out by the second date, next her. Or hint at nexting her, she might take the hint.

Post: #7

Never plan second date on 1st date, and moreover, if a girl asks you to meet again right next day, politely refuse. I have made this mistake a couple times. If you plan a 2nd date, you'll come across as needy. If you agree to meet her two days in a row, you'll come across a man with no plans, or easily pliable. All bad outcomes.

Post: #8

(04-26-2014 06:03 PM)Vicious Wrote:  This comes across as super needy. Avoid like the plague. The bubonic one.

Agree with Vicious. Keep in mind your frame - everywhere you go, everything you do is more fun, more engaging, more interesting than anywhere she is. She is just 'tagging along' for a normal evening/weekend day with you, your life is always like this.

This baits her into wanting to tag along again, and makes her easier to bring back to your place.

Post: #9

NO ! Jumping the gun. With girls changing their minds on the whim, the last thing you need is her hamster spinning right after your date.

Post: #10

Yes, but only if you have just been inside her sweet sugar walls!

Post: #11

Should vaguely mention things like "oh yeah love that place...can't wait to head there/do that sometime" with no intention of following through. Get emotions & hamster spinning...and try for lay 1st date. 2nd date can always be determined through text, etc....if not..cya.

Post: #12

Terrible idea, don't do it.

Also, if I recall correctly, when girls themselves (unsolicited) suggest a second date at the end of the first it never seems to materialise, even if they seem genuinely enthusiastic.

Post: #13

Don't.

You have to have steel reserve in your principles.

Never let her know where she stands with you. If you care too much you aren't chasing enough girls.

Post: #14

I'm with savylurker, you can plant the idea for a second date, but ideally go for the bang. The second date should be at your place for dinner. I wrote up some easy recipes on McQueen's blog here if you need help. Casually talk about these dishes during the first date, and invite them over.

At the end of the first date, you can hint at eating together sometime. Followup a day or so later, but be sure to pick a day no more than 3 days in advance. Any more comes off as needy.

Recently I went out with a girl Friday and had her over for dinner (literally haha) on Monday. This shit's fun

Post: #15

Take girl out for your third date on the first date.

Wald

Post: #16

By now it's unanimous that under no circumstances is a guy to "plan" a 2nd date tentatively or otherwise, while on the 1st one

Recently hung out with a new prospect, and even though we both enjoyed the meetup I resisted the urge to look into the future far as anything concrete. By the end of the encounter, I knew she was into me b/c I struggled to get a word in to make my departure.

Only sent a text saying "Enjoyed meeting u" after we parted.

Every morning since (7 days and running), I've been getting a "Good morning handsome text"

Once you've shown a desirable woman that not only are you her match, but you won't chase then she can either
a) Miss out on the opportunity to get to know this high value man
b) Miss the boat

Guess which one they're likely to choose?