Post: #1

Here we go...

#1

Quote:If you like someone, don’t be afraid to show it on your first get-together; aloof or reserved behavior conveys disinterest and can stop you from getting to a second or third date

“If you’re on a first date and you’re attracted to someone, the best thing you can do is show it with enthusiasm! Sometimes it’s hard to be enthusiastic when you’re nervous, but being reserved can come across as a sign of disinterest. So, force yourself to smile, make eye contact, ask questions and throw a few compliments your date’s way. The last thing you want is to miss a great romantic opportunity because the other person thought you couldn’t care less about seeing each other again!”
— Rhonda Findling, M.A., dating consultant (rhondafindling.com) and author of the bestseller, Don’t Call That Man: A Survival Guide to Letting Go

#2

Quote:Always keep your first few dates short and sweet to avoid veering into awkward conversational territory (or outright boredom)

“Scheduling a short date sends the message that you’re busy — which makes you interesting — but that you still really want to get together and are willing to make time for that person. And since you’re not dragging things out until the conversation gets dull and awkward, you can leave each other on a high note and walk away thinking, ‘This is cool, I can’t wait to see this person again.’ People don’t fall in love with each other on a date; they fall in love when they’re not together, but are thinking about how much fun they had later on.”
— Katherin Scott, dating coach and author of ABC’s of Dating: Simple Strategies for Dating Success!

#3

Quote:Keep the conversation comfortable by focusing on really listening to what your date has to say — a silent pause before responding conveys interest, plus it helps calm your nerves

“A lot of times, when you get nervous, you start thinking about what you’re going to say next and you wind up missing what your date is talking about. Don’t be afraid to give yourself a moment to process what he or she just said. A silent pause after the person has finished speaking still indicates that you’ve been listening, while saying ‘Oh, I know!’ too quickly makes the person feel cut off instead. Also, do whatever you can to avoid fidgeting — don’t play with your hair or chew gum. It conveys that you’re nervous, which makes the other person feel nervous and concerned about why you are acting that way.”
— Zohar Adner, NYC-based stress/relationship coach and author of The Gift of Stress - How to Act on the Urgent Message That’s Trying to Save Your Life

#4

Quote:Giving a specific compliment that points out something unique about your date will make you both feel good, which helps you and your date form an instant bond

“One key thing I emphasize to my clients is the power of the compliment. There’s interesting research that shows that a person who gives a compliment actually experiences the same rush of good feelings as the person receiving it does. It’s an amazing power that can really improve the night for both of you. When you meet someone, you’re probably thinking something like, ‘Gosh, your eyes are so blue,’ or ‘How sweet that he opened the door.’ Say it, and you’ve pierced his or her heart. It should be something that’s genuine and unique to your date — don’t compliment, say, his or her shirt (which anyone could wear) but the way that shirt looks with your date’s eyes. People love someone who truly sees them and comments accordingly, so let your date know you notice what qualities make that person special.”
— Tonja Evetts Weimer, M.A., MRCS, ACC, relationship coach, award-winning columnist and author of Thriving After Divorce: Transforming Your Life When a Relationship Ends

#5

Quote:Show genuine interest by asking questions and then actively listening to your date’s answers; this helps the conversation flow and feel more natural

“The biggest complaint that I’ve heard from women is that men don’t ask enough questions, or that they don’t listen. So make sure you’re asking questions about the other person, and when your date is talking, show you’re listening by nodding your head, making eye contact, and smiling — when people get nervous or are trying to concentrate really hard on what someone’s saying, they can forget to smile. The most popular person is never the most attractive one. It’s the person who really shows an interest in who he or she is talking to.”
— Gail Prince, M.Ed., singles coach and co-author of Love Signals! How the Dating Game Really Works

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Post: #2

Jariel your post is null and void since 4 of the 5 advice is from...women.

Post: #3

Five Top Dating Coaches Share Their Best Advice.... For Women

Fixed.

Post: #4

(05-04-2014 10:11 PM)Kingsley Davis Wrote:  Jariel your post is null and void since 4 of the 5 advice is from...women.

I think he meant to post it sarcastically, obviously the whole aspect of having academic credentials behind dating advice is a bit ridiculous.

Post: #5

Quote:The biggest complaint that I’ve heard from women is that men don’t ask enough questions, or that they don’t listen.

Because we don't really care.

Post: #6

I pity the fools that fall for this advice.

Post: #7

(05-04-2014 10:17 PM)runsonmagic Wrote:  Five Top Dating Coaches Share Their Best Advice.... For Women

Fixed.

Top Five Ways Not To Get A First Date Lay

Post: #8

They're all different variations of "Just be yourself".

Post: #9

Eh, mixed advice at the very best. Here's the lowdown:

Point #1 - Advice for dames, not guys.

Point #2 - Advice for guys, not dames.

Point #3 - Advice for dames, not guys (obviously)

Point #4 - Advice for dames, not guys (again, obviously)

Point #5 - Advice for dames, not guys.

The dating coach industry is primarily driven by women. A dame will pay for such services, so the dating coaches know their market. Men quietly visit the Manosphere to surreptitiously get their learning on. That's a feature, not a bug.

If a dating coaches dispenses bad advice, that person quickly discovers that the powers of capitalism quickly wrecks his/her business. Like the sexual marketplace, the dating coach business is ruthless.

Post: #10

Girls giving out dating advice is like a fish giving tips on fishing.

The tips are ok at best. But cutting a date short? That's not gonna lead to a bang. I'd add: Stay at the first venue for a bit, bounce to the second, then home, spending no more than 30-45 minutes at each place.