Post: #1

Looks like I'm on a roll lately with posting on here but I have had some more thoughts on some personal experiences that I wanted to shed some light on.

Have any of you noticed your ex girlfriends drastically change after you split ?

My most recent girl who I had a short relationship with back in the motherland, has changed massively. She was a cute, shy girl before and now she has turned into a model. I started noticing the changes while I was with her, she began to look a lot more attractive and begun to wear sexy clothes. Judging from her womaniese talk, I see she has increased her number of orbitors around her too. Very interesting.

On the other hand, I remember a girl previously who I was in a long relationship with a couple of years back, took a sudden nose dive when we broke up. Admittedly she broke up with me, but soon after she just lost her looks completely, dyed her hair a crazy colour that with her Balkan features made her look like a prostitute from Marrakech.

It made me wonder, I have seen the same thing happen with girls who went out with my friends, they either appear to lose their value or increase their value exponentially after having a break up. Take note these girls are all in their early 20s.

It makes me wonder, as there is a big energy transaction going on between people all the time. Sometimes this can be negative, you will find some people who use social dynamics to simply drain another's energy to fill this empty never ending hole. I knew of one guy who just had something off about him. He would constantly neg other guys around him including myself, like you would with some dumb chick. It was very odd and sure enough all interactions with him would leave you feeling drained.

Other times there is no difference just a mutual rapport being built that if anything makes you feel good, almost feels nutritional. This is why its crucial to spend time with people and associate with those who are of a positive mindset.

All in all, I think the interaction between a man and woman is really unique and if you have built an attachment to that person and vice versa. You can rub off on that person. As a man you have to be careful to keep your frame to ensure that they aren't simply taking your energy. Although naturally the woman is going to take a bit of you if she is always around and if the two of you are having sex.

This is just another reason, why having a strong buzz from doing whatever you are doing in life (aside from women) is going to render you as a flame for the moths (women).

It's a strange one, I haven't thought about it in too much detail, but would like to hear other opinions or personal accounts on this matter.

Peace

Post: #2

I think there's something in what you say.

Always stay away from negative people (it's one of Robert greene's laws in one of his books); they really do drain you of your life force.

I'm sure i read a study recently (or an article about a study haha) that said that we change to reflect the 5 people we spend the most time with.

Makes sense to me.

Post: #3

You know one of my ex's took a nosedive in looks, I dumped her cause she was sketchy. She immediately gets a new beta provider to support her.

1.5 years later she calls my work, shows up, and tells me she loves me, misses me so much. The only thing I can think about is holy shit she's hitting the wall fast.

Her face is not looking good, then proceeds to tell me that she started smoking ciggs, doing coke here and there (something she was against me doing). I never realized how negative she was with her views, temper tantrums, and emotions.

She wanted to hangout right after work aka DTF (she was still with her man), I had plans with a HB 8 i wasn't passing up.

She definitely drained the life out of me.

It's alot like the 80/20 rule, in this case make sure they're giving 80 and you're giving 20. The person who cares most in the relationship has everything to lose. IMO

Post: #4

(07-10-2014 03:04 PM)kaotic Wrote:  You know one of my ex's took a nosedive in looks, I dumped her cause she was sketchy. She immediately gets a new beta provider to support her.

1.5 years later she calls my work, shows up, and tells me she loves me, misses me so much. The only thing I can think about is holy shit she's hitting the wall fast.

Sounds like what happened to me. My ex-girlfriend recently said "I miss you" and wanted to speak to me again. I indulged her. However, I'm absolutely shocked at myself. A year ago, I would've begged and pleaded for this woman to come back to me.

Right now, quite honestly, I can't even be bothered to return her texts.

Post: #5

Years later when I run into an Ex, she'll tell me about something I said to her once that made some kind of profound impact, and how she sees the world differently.

It goes both ways. You can learn from your woman/girlfriend/FB/ONS if you want to learn.

You have to be open to it, and willing to do it.

Most guys, even guys with game, just aren't.

WIA

Post: #6

(07-10-2014 07:15 AM)Constitution45 Wrote:  It makes me wonder, as there is a big energy transaction going on between people all the time. Sometimes this can be negative, you will find some people who use social dynamics to simply drain another's energy to fill this empty never ending hole.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BaRjwsOKEyQ





RSD Tyler's recent video might be related to what you're mentioning. I found it interesting and useful.

Post: #7

The $10000 lamp that's been thrown in the trash is still worth $10000 even if the person who threw it out is unaware of it's value.