Post: #1

Im an introvert with a lot of physical energy but very limited mental/social energy, if that makes sense to anyone. But when my social energy is drained, my physical energy is drained too.

This means that I always need to be involved in physical activities, which I got pretty well taken care of (lifting, salsa dancing and martial arts), but I burn out really quickly when it comes to social interactions. However when I need to (i.e, going on dates or hanging out with friends) I can turn myself into overdrive, and a lot of people takes me for some hyper extroverted type.

Recently Ive been meeting up with a few RVF members so Ive gone out a lot. Coupled that with having a new cool, extraverted red pill roommate, and having a desk job inernship where I cant move around, and I find my reservoir totally depleted.

Been in a pretty shitty mood lately where I dont find anything exciting anymore. I dont feel like going out dancing, training or lifting, or talking to anyone. I try to remember what I usually do to recharge but found nothing. Usually it takes something positive happening to me to get me back on track.

Somehow staying in and playing computer games make me even more depressed. I always have this nagging feeling that people are out having fun and Im just here doing nothing.

How do you introvert cats recharge ? I know this is extremely individual, but maybe I can find something I can use.

Post: #2

Just push through it. Nobody ever got over a bad mood by lifting less and not dancing.

Post: #3

Extroverts recharge through social interactions and introverts through alone time. There's really no getting around that. How much of an introvert are you, a pretty high percentage?

For alone time, try something like spending time with someone you're close to (could be a friend or a girlfriend). This way you're relaxed and in your introvert recharge zone but not actually alone.

My other remedy is watching something like Curb Your Enthusiasm (or Seinfeld ) for a few hours. This lets you recharge and actually keeps your social and conversational skills sharp (or even sharpens them).

Post: #4

Nature, hiking recharge me the best.

Post: #5

(05-12-2015 06:12 AM)presidentcarter Wrote:  How much of an introvert are you, a pretty high percentage?

Pretty high up there. I enjoyed spending the entire winter break alone on my campus junior year, all alone in the entire building and it was refreshing. Would like to eat alone for all my life if I could, but we all know that means no pussy/too extreme

I can and have pushed through my introvertness to socialize and usually even enjoy doing so, but this last couple of weeks have been draining and Ive been trying to say "Im fine" for too long, I need a break.

Maybe its time to call my best buddy for a beer alone.

Post: #6

Been in this position before. Every 4-5 months or so seems like I go through something similar. Here's what has helped me personally:

1. Echoing some of the guys above, lifting and running in particular have helped immensely. I don't usually do cardio as a part of my fitness routine, but for some reason running 2-3 miles when I'm down and out helps. No matter how much you don't feel like it, exercising is HUGE especially when you're feeling a bit burnt out.
2. Spending time by myself. I usually will either take a small mini-trip to a U.S. City or fall off the grid for 2-3 days. Take off work if you are able to.
3. Go for a long drive, reflect, write, etc. Writing has been key as well now that I mention it. Getting my thoughts out of my head and on paper has been a good exercise for me.

Post: #7

(05-12-2015 07:46 AM)Thatdude Wrote:  Writing has been key as well now that I mention it. Getting my thoughts out of my head and on paper has been a good exercise for me.

Totally forgot about this. Used to be quite a writer back in USA but since I came to France I didnt have a chance to write anything of substance, except some reports on this forum.

Ive been meaning to update my game log book for a while now but never find the time. This is it.

Post: #8

^^^ Definitely invest in a game log book.

That's how it originally started for me.

Now it's a 'life' log book. I don't make daily entries, I just pop on there whenever I have a reflection or some thoughts I want to get on paper.

If I add my totals over the past 2-3 years, I've written somewhere between 70-100,000 words.

It's always a good past time to go back and review your entries... Especially the game related ones.

I did dozens, dozens of nights out in 2013 and there's no way I can mentally recollect all of them. So I go back, and see what kind of mischief I ran into.

Post: #9

I like to recharge by learning something. Find a topic that you are interested in and just search on the internet and click links etc. It is sort of like a game in a way. But I get to do it alone and add some knowledge.

Post: #10

Are you really sure that you are introverted? It might not be scientific but have you tried some online tests to see if you tend to be introverted or extroverted?

It is possible for someone to be extroverted but still needing to be alone to recharge. 'Highly sensitive persons' normally need some 'alone time' while they could still be extroverted.

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4810794

Post: #11

read books

Post: #12

(05-12-2015 12:45 PM)Cheetah Wrote:  Are you really sure that you are introverted? It might not be scientific but have you tried some online tests to see if you tend to be introverted or extroverted?

It is possible for someone to be extroverted but still needing to be alone to recharge. 'Highly sensitive persons' normally need some 'alone time' while they could still be extroverted.

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4810794

Most Introverts recharge by doing leisure activities and hobbies they already know they enjoy. More specifically, quiet and rest is the best recharge (INTPs, INFJ, INFPs, etc. like books and reading). If someone has a low I number 20 and less out of 100, they are what is known as borderline Introverted and have a secondary preference for Extroversion. Those individuals might not need to recharge as frequently or for as long as other Introverts.

Some Extroverts require downtime to recharge like ENFJs. It's not a coincidence either that they are known for having small tight circle of best friends and internally classify all others as acquaintances even though they call them friend in the face. Some ENTJs require short downtime to reflect as well, when they attempt to party too hard, they may be the first to crash on a couch.

One notable Introvert (ISTJ) the Duty Fulfiller, comes built in with a secondary preference for Extroversion. They confuse any beginner or advanced MBTI typewatcher because they can appear to be two different people. Their naturally high drive and sense of duty, requires lots of interaction with people, which makes it seem like they are extroverted. Ask one if they are introverted or extroverted and it is not uncommon to hear them say they are extrovert or that they are neither. That type is pretty resistant to MBTI type talk as well, many think it's bullshit.

Outside of all of this, all other extroverts can burn the midnight oil and gain energy from others around them without needed hardly any true downtime.

Post: #13

I'm the same way. Walking around alone helps me recharge.

Post: #14

I find that if I take too much time to unwind that I sometimes get stuck in that total introversion tunnel and it takes awhile to get out.