Post: #1

I'm currently travelling at the moment and staying in a small town (15,000). I will be here for a couple months where I've been seeing this one girl for a couple months now. She is a great girl (relationship material) who would do anything for me. She just said the "L" word and I don't want to hurt her. I like her but I don't feel the same way where I want to see where the relationship will go if anywhere.

Cause I'm travelling... I've been going to other towns and banging other women there and coming back. The only problem is that there is another girl that is really into me, she has moved down to the current town I'm in (no notice, she just txt me) with the "L" word girl. I feel like I'm going to get busted any day now if I see both in the same small town!

I've read Rooshv article on dating more than 2 girls where I found it applies more to cities which I live in back home.

http://www.rooshv.com/girlfriend-cheating-tips

In a small town, how do I get away with it? I wouldn't mind dating other girls here too but I'm scared that I will get busted. Any tips would be great!

Post: #2

(06-06-2015 01:47 AM)Ausguy Wrote:  She just said the "L" word and I don't want to hurt her.

Youre going to "hurt" her one way or another anyway.

Fuck society do what you want

Post: #3

(06-06-2015 01:52 AM)Sharkie Wrote:  

(06-06-2015 01:47 AM)Ausguy Wrote:  She just said the "L" word and I don't want to hurt her.

Youre going to "hurt" her one way or another anyway.

Agreed with Sharkie. I'm trying to figure this one out myself, and I live in a major metro area, so I think we're both deluding ourselves as to whether the size of the community matters. I think it's more likely that we're both starting to slip into one-itis or laziness.

My recommendation? Just be honest. "I really like you too, but I'm not ready for something serious. I want to keep seeing you, but I think we should keep seeing other people too."

In that vein, try googling "Sex 3.0" and take a look at Roberts' book.

Post: #4

You have to make a choice. Are you going to be the guy who has access to more than one girl or are you going to be the relationship schlub?

This is very simple. If you want to date both, you see both and keep it on the DL. Lock down your technology (phone/computer) and don't bring them out in public where their paths (or social circles) may cross. There is no other way unless you plan to keep them under lock and key. What are you expecting to get out of this in the long run?

I realize you are traveling and seeing other women but I think you're overthinking this. What's the worst thing that can happen? You lose both? You apologize and move on with one, or both? You need to ask yourself what you really want and just do it.

Post: #5

(06-07-2015 07:20 AM)not_dead_yet Wrote:  

(06-06-2015 01:52 AM)Sharkie Wrote:  

(06-06-2015 01:47 AM)Ausguy Wrote:  She just said the "L" word and I don't want to hurt her.

Youre going to "hurt" her one way or another anyway.

Agreed with Sharkie. I'm trying to figure this one out myself, and I live in a major metro area, so I think we're both deluding ourselves as to whether the size of the community matters. I think it's more likely that we're both starting to slip into one-itis or laziness.

My recommendation? Just be honest. "I really like you too, but I'm not ready for something serious. I want to keep seeing you, but I think we should keep seeing other people too."

In that vein, try googling "Sex 3.0" and take a look at Roberts' book.

No way.

Major Metro Area Vs. Regional town?

Dynamics change completely. Living in a city you can avoid a whole day without making any personal contact. In a small town, you feel rude not saying hello to people you walk past on the street.

If I tried seeing two girls in my hometown, word would get around because every fuckwit went to school together, or works at the same place or goes to the same restuarant or cinema.

Post: #6

(06-06-2015 01:47 AM)Ausguy Wrote:  I'm currently travelling at the moment and staying in a small town (15,000). I will be here for a couple months where I've been seeing this one girl for a couple months now. She is a great girl (relationship material) who would do anything for me. She just said the "L" word and I don't want to hurt her. I like her but I don't feel the same way where I want to see where the relationship will go if anywhere.

Cause I'm travelling... I've been going to other towns and banging other women there and coming back. The only problem is that there is another girl that is really into me, she has moved down to the current town I'm in (no notice, she just txt me) with the "L" word girl. I feel like I'm going to get busted any day now if I see both in the same small town!

I've read Rooshv article on dating more than 2 girls where I found it applies more to cities which I live in back home.

http://www.rooshv.com/girlfriend-cheating-tips

In a small town, how do I get away with it? I wouldn't mind dating other girls here too but I'm scared that I will get busted. Any tips would be great!

Sorry man I was drunk yesterday and owe you a better response.

Honestly, it shouldnt matter so much.
But, it is always better to be clear to all parties involved that you are not being exclusive, you will have an easier time. Make it clear to any new girl that you bang that the two of you are not exclusive.

"I just got out of a long relationship and need some time to commit".
"My mom/dad/dog/cat/best friend just died and I need to deal with that first"
"Love doesnt have to be exclusive, only society tells us that."
"Im a hippie whos travelled ahead in time. We dont do exclusive relationships."
"Im a free spirit trapped inside the body of a <insert profession>. And I think you are too.."
"Im seeing other girls, just so you know"

Whatever vibes with your personality, you get the point. So that even if two of your chicks meet and talk, atleast they wont come to your house with pitchforks because you're a cheating scumbag.

If you feel like you want to keep this current girl around for a long time or get exclusive if you feel ready, you could go one of three ways

1) See other girls and pray you dont get caught
2) Stop seeing other girls in this town
3) Lie about an incident that had a profound impact on your way of life...something like
Go missing without telling her for a week (zero contact), come back unshaved, meet her at your apartment and hug her tight for 5 minutes without saying a word, then let go and avoid eye contact. Tell her you had a big personal loss that you dont want to talk about and that you question your faith in life, humanity, purpose etc. Avoid talking about said event, just talk about how the event made you feel. then ask her how shes been etc try and change the subject. She'll obviously keep coming back to it so after avoiding it for a few times, tell her that said incident has made you afraid to commit to anyone - her, your job, (if you have a pet, tell her you're thinking of giving it away), you feel like abandoning everything and going to alaska, or the desert (quote verbatim from the Alchemist, if you have to)... act a little detached, give her a side hug, stroke her back, slowly escalate to sex (or whatever stage you guys are at). Meet her next time and tell her you're doing better but still shaken up, never give out details of said event ever. Voila. Whenever she asks for commitment after that, tell her you're still in the deep, dark place and are scared of exclusivity.

But again, if you dont want to become serious with either of these two, then who cares? Just keep doing what you are, if you get caught, apologize and move on to fresher fish. Dont sweat it too much

Post: #7

Quote:In that vein, try googling "Sex 3.0" and take a look at Roberts' book.

Post: #8

You have other small towns 20-30 or so minutes away right?

One key is dating girls from places like that. They can't see you all the time cause it's a bit of a drive, they won't likely be hanging around the same places you hang around, you can spend time over there instead of in your area, etc.

Post: #9

Small towns are gossip machines.

You're only choice is to take girl 2 to another town anytime you go out.
Preferably a larger area within 45 minutes. The larger the area the more likely there will be others who look like you (deny, deny)

Girl 2 will eventually feel like you are purposely avoiding home while with her. At that point you make a decision which do I want more in THIS town.

Post: #10

(06-07-2015 11:53 AM)Sharkie Wrote:  But, it is always better to be clear to all parties involved that you are not being exclusive, you will have an easier time. Make it clear to any new girl that you bang that the two of you are not exclusive.

It's taken me some time but this is my game plan!

Girl 1: I do want to get to know her better. She is a real feminine woman with a hot petite body, cute face whom wants me to be happy and has puts me first before herself. She was getting a bit emotional the other night so I said "It's best that we be friends where I still want to spend as much time with you as I have been." It hasn't changed anything between us except given me a free "get out of jail card." if I'm busted!

Girl 2: I'm just going to bang her at my hotel and NOT take her out cause it dramatical increases my chances of getting busted by girl 1. I will tell her, "I'm not looking for anything serious right now but I do enjoy hanging out with you" If I run into her with Girl 1, she can't do anything about it!

Girl 3,4,5... : I have some other numbers which I will follow up at a bar close to home, that's dark and down an alley way (most people don't bother with alley way bars, they usually stick to the main road and plus less people around). Late dates is also a good option after 10pm during the weekdays. A message to girl 1 and seeing what she is doing beforehand will also keep me safe! A couple drinks may leads to going to another bar that's secluded/very dark and then back to my hotel. If I want to keep her around for another bang, I will advise the same as 'girl 2'.

I will also give taxi money every time to girl 2+ cause girl 1 lives close by. No girl can come into the Hotel without reception giving me a call first.

If girl 1 sees me with another girl (i have to avoid all physical contact with girl 2+ until back at hotel), I will say what I've been currently saying when I want to go out and party, "I've was bored behind home all the time so I went out and made some friends. This is my new friend..."

Going to other towns it's no problem but within the same town, it has to be behind close doors as much as possible I believe with less people (dark alley way bars). No day time meetups.

If I want to get to know another girl and take her out, it would be best to take her to another town as advise by one of the replies above.

I think I have my bases covered now?!

Post: #11

A great read!

What To Do When You’re Caught Cheating

http://www.returnofkings.com/35633/what-...t-cheating