Post: #1

How do you stay hungry - that it automatically pulls you to the gym, to eat right, to approach woman etc. rather than you pushing yourself all the time?
Especially when you have reached your thirties.

Post: #2

this is the thing i am also coping right now....

Post: #3

(06-08-2011 06:10 AM)Chase Wrote:  How do you stay hungry - that it automatically pulls you to the gym, to eat right, to approach woman etc. rather than you pushing yourself all the time?
Especially when you have reached your thirties.

Have a goal in mind. Tap into the competitive nature of your manhood. Find friends that achieve more than you.

Find a guy that always fcuks the type of women that you fcuk and ideally if he looks worse than you i.e. less good looking, shorter, pudgier, not so smooth of a talker (in your opinion) and then you know that the only difference between you and him is application.

That should be the drive that sparks you to make the change. Automatically, the fire should come from within you...

Post: #4

Stop the porn. Starve yourself.

Low testosterone perhaps?

Post: #5

(06-08-2011 08:54 AM)Moma Wrote:  Have a goal in mind. Tap into the competitive nature of your manhood. Find friends that achieve more than you.

I have a few such friends. I have clear goals for fitness and game, need new professional goals and the will to follow through. In addition, reading lots of success stories, blogs, stuff like 'High Heels and Dirty Deeds' - but they can be demotivating, as well.

Quote:Find a guy that always fcuks the type of women that you fcuk and ideally if he looks worse than you i.e. less good looking, shorter, pudgier, not so smooth of a talker (in your opinion) and then you know that the only difference between you and him is application.

Agreed.

Quote:Stop the porn. Starve yourself.

I actually use porn without jacking off as a motivator. Stopping it altogether for a while...

Quote:Low testosterone perhaps?

Got tested a couple of months ago. Within the normal range, but at the low end of it. Supplements like tribulus, maca did not make a significant difference. Trying Tim Ferris' ideas from his recent book to raise your t levels, can't say much about it yet. Off to the gym..

Post: #6

I think you have to stop viewing these things as "work" as well. If you looked at approaching women like it's your favorite hobby you shouldn't have to "force" yourself.

Post: #7

I'm having problems with this myself. Sometimes shit doesn't seem like it's worth the effort...

Post: #8

The thing about the feeling of motivation is that it is temporary. You've got to do the work even when you're not having those motivational highs. You can't be dependant on your feelings.

Post: #9

Do you lift weights?

Post: #10

(06-08-2011 06:10 AM)Chase Wrote:  How do you stay hungry - that it automatically pulls you to the gym, to eat right, to approach woman etc. rather than you pushing yourself all the time?
Especially when you have reached your thirties.

Hey man! Bringing the age factor in there is nothing more than a stupid demotivator. The average lifespan in most western, developed countries is 70+. You've got a looooong way to go.

When I first went out to meet women, I dragged my feet through it for a long time too. I didn't want to face the fear and/or put my personality on the line.

Here's the thought process that changed that:
One day I saw a hottie. I was on my way to catch a bus and she was walking the opposite way. Like I always did, I ignored her and went on my way. A few steps later, I stopped. It was a moment of decision: either I approached or I didn't, but there was a sense of finality - as if that decision would forever determine the course of my life where women were concerned.

Every time you have a decision (do I go to the gym, do I approach, etc.), the choice you make is something you'll have to live with for the rest of your life - because our lives are composed of such choices. Imagine what you will think about yourself when you're 50 or 60 when you're in lousy relationships, are outta shape, and have no money. Fear that day and you will have all the motivation you need.

I turned to look back at the girl... she was now about a block away. I looked at the bus stop; I was tired and could be home soon if caught that bus. I RAN, caught up with her 2 blocks further from where I saw her. I got her number; she flaked. Since then approaching has been so much easier. I still have nights where I totally don't want to do anything. But many more of my choices are leading my life in the direction I want than they were before.

Good luck.

Post: #11

(06-10-2011 12:03 PM)Jebrit Wrote:  Imagine what you will think about yourself when you're 50 or 60 when you're in lousy relationships, are outta shape, and have no money. Fear that day and you will have all the motivation you need.

This motivates me to do a lot of things, actually. Wish I could keep it going consistently...

Post: #12

I take one day during the week and just loook at myself in the mirror after a shower. Stand there in you boxers, all defenses down in your most vulnerable. Look at yourself, assess yourself. Find every little flaw and know that you can fix them. Know that while its easy to let them rule you, that you can rule them by simple means of diligence and hard work.

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