Post: #1

So I daygamed this girl a couple of months ago and she's been my main since then .

All other aspects of the relationship are fine , the occasional shit test does come up , but I've learned how to recognise and deal with them . I was actively gaming on the side at the start , but for the past two months I've slowed down on my approaches and I haven't had any new bangs .

Our sex life was pretty decent for the past few month but lately there's been a few interesting developments :

For the past week every time I've tried to bang her she's told me she's " not in the mood " and she refuses to give me a blowjob because I should " respect the fact that she's not in the mood .

Maybe I'm looking too deep into this but I'm thinking this is some sort of power play or major shit test for her to gain some sort of power in the relationship .

I'm sure this is not the only person this has happened to , how did you guys deal with this ?

I'm contemplating pretending to not be in the mood too and stop trying to initiate sex just to get her hamster running ...

Post: #2

If you dont have others you dont have a main one. You just have one

Post: #3

(08-31-2015 03:28 PM)Virtus Wrote:  If you dont have others you dont have a main one. You just have one

I'd rather not get into a discussion about semantics . I was obviously referring to her as my " main " to distinguish her from a " plate " , where the simple solution is to drop her and keep gaming .

Because this is my main girl that brings other things of value to my life , it's more of a case of LTR game . Which I'm still trying to figure out .

Post: #4

(08-31-2015 03:25 PM)Sensei Creation Wrote:  For the past week every time I've tried to bang her she's told me she's " not in the mood " and she refuses to give me a blowjob because I should " respect the fact that she's not in the mood .

She should respect the fact you need to plow some pussy.

It sounds like you settled on a girl who throws unnecessary shit tests at you and doesn't respect the fact you can leave.

So you should leave.

Edit:

'Senesi Creation Wrote:Because this is my main girl that brings other things of value to my life , it's more of a case of LTR game . Which I'm still trying to figure out .

Maybe that's why she feels like she can do this. Honestly, I'm feeling more and more these days like LTR and spinning plates are not very different.

Any girl will take advantage of the fact that you don't have options when she can, in some way.

These days, girls usually do it in a big way. If you act like you don't want to lose a girl, she'll pick up on it and do this kind of shit. What I would do is go to her house, and try to have sex. If she doesn't give you anything, don't talk to her for a few days at all.

In fact, go put in some more work and find a girl who brings more value to your life than celibacy. She'll give you more attention and stop playing games, or you had nothing to work with anyway.

That's my solution based on the little I know about your situation.

Post: #5

If you aren't having sex then she's not a plate or main she's a none Thats the only "semantics" at play here.

Classic oneitis. You said yourself, you let up on gaming other girls.

She aint puttin out because you let her get too comfortable in the relationship. You care more than she does. Period.

Your "mystery" is gone, and her "tingles" with it.

No tingles for her =no sex for you

Post: #6

(08-31-2015 03:41 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  If you aren't having sex then she's not a plate or main she's a none

Post: #7

If she is not giving you what you want out of the relationship then freeze her out and game other girls. Move her to the back burner she might come around she might not. She's probably banging someone else honestly. Only reason I can think of a girl not wanting to bang a dude she seeing.

Post: #8

(08-31-2015 03:28 PM)Virtus Wrote:  If you dont have others you dont have a main one. You just have one

Yeah the term "main" is starting to get misused here big time.

If the girl isn't putting out don't call her or return texts etc. Watch how fast she turns it out.

Cause.. If you have a bunch you just do that automatically.

Thread retitle: My girlfriend cut me off don't know what to do.

Post: #9

Pull a monster dick move that stings. If she has any inkling to still hang out, and REALLY wants to fuck, convince her to meet you somewhere, and stand her up. Blow off her texts, calls, and see what she does.

Instead of meeting her, go straight to a bar, and game girls. Maybe you lose her, but so what. Consider it your shit test to her. Then never idle shit down if she stays in for sex... just put her in rotation.

Post: #10

The reason why this is happening would be hard to zone out without knowing all of your specific situation, but one thing is for sure: This is happening because of something you didn't do right.

Keep in mind that maintaining a relationship is harder than go get a chick. Somehow you strained from being the Alpha that approached her. Since this is so case specific, I recommend that you watch The show of the late Patrice O'neal.

Watch the second episode since a caller called for your exact situation. I would gladly put the link up for you, but I'm currently on my mobile. Focus on the first 40 min if you're short on time.Try to be more like Rocko and this won't happen

Post: #11

It's simple enough she's trying to use her pussy over you for power as if you're married to her, you're not. If you tell her straight up logically it's not going to help. Denying sex like that after 3 months on a continuous basis is laughable. Perhaps she she's you as some sort of beta now.

Start to appear busy for her and I mean properly be busy gaming other girls let her be a little suspicious without giving anything away, women are curious creatures. See if she comes crawling back for you with open legs so to speak. If she does game on, if she doesn't find someone else who actually has passion for sex.

Post: #12

You go find other girls and don't see this girl till you bang a new one or 5

Post: #13

Agree with the others

Ignore her, go back to approaching find a new "main" and let her become the side dish if she wants

Post: #14

A story a long time ago: My target of epic hour-lasting boners blue balled me several times and in general did not put out easily. When I finally "convinced" her to become my girlfriend, honest beta I am, I told her I fucked two other girls in the mean time and that our sex life wasn't that great, but I "only want her."
One week later she called me again for a date.

She lost all power she had over me in less than a minute, and was not able to reclaim it with her pussy - ever. I would say I shattered her fragile ego into pieces at first, and she came back for more after rationalizing/hamstering that I was after her afterall & she>other girls.

She "forced" me to have sex before weekend trips I made, so that I don't bang others in the time I am away from her.



If you want to go the easy route, find another one.

Post: #15

How is this still a problem for you? You're not married to her and I don't believe you promised her exclusivity so why aren't you simply dropping her and working other leads? If she presses you for why you don't hang out with her anymore you can simply say "You need to respect that sex is an important part of any relationship I'm in". This is said more for your own enjoyment than getting her to make a change.

I dated one woman about a year ago. We had sex on the third date and for the fourth date I stayed over at her place and she kept trying to resist having sex with me. Finally she relented and off handedly said "you can't expect this (sex) to happen every time you know." Suffice it say that was the last time she ever saw me.

Post: #16

(08-31-2015 03:25 PM)Sensei Creation Wrote:  So I daygamed this girl a couple of months ago and she's been my main since then .

All other aspects of the relationship are fine , the occasional shit test does come up , but I've learned how to recognise and deal with them . I was actively gaming on the side at the start , but for the past two months I've slowed down on my approaches and I haven't had any new bangs .

Our sex life was pretty decent for the past few month but lately there's been a few interesting developments :

For the past week every time I've tried to bang her she's told me she's " not in the mood " and she refuses to give me a blowjob because I should " respect the fact that she's not in the mood .

Maybe I'm looking too deep into this but I'm thinking this is some sort of power play or major shit test for her to gain some sort of power in the relationship .

I'm sure this is not the only person this has happened to , how did you guys deal with this ?

I'm contemplating pretending to not be in the mood too and stop trying to initiate sex just to get her hamster running ...

'Next' her and move on.

Why waste your time on her when you can be with someone else who isn't going to act like this?

Post: #17

She's banging someone else.

Post: #18

(08-31-2015 03:25 PM)Sensei Creation Wrote:  Maybe I'm looking too deep into this but I'm thinking this is some sort of power play or major shit test for her to gain some sort of power in the relationship .

I doubt she's playing games. If she really wanted sex, she'd have done it.

More likely, the attraction she feels for you has dropped.

Maybe you can figure out what's gone wrong. Assuming it's something under your control. Then you can improve yourself, fix the root cause and her attraction goes back up.

Or you can just have a blunt "do you really want to be here?" "do you want to see each other less?" kind of talk. Your unspoken frame for the conversation is that you won't consider having a gf that doesn't want to fuck you.

If she wants to go, just let her go and work on getting the next one.

Post: #19

It sounds like this girl isnt into you. Usually at about the 60-90 day mark, if she is really your "main", she should be falling in love with you. Not cutting you off and potentially ruining the relationship. It sounds like she's just over this. Ignore her and go find another one. If she pings you again, see if anything is there. My guess is she is just done.

Post: #20

In my life women I had been banging regular when they no longer want to ride you cowgirl style it is because they got laid somewhere else with someone else - a drunken beach party with her wild party girlfriend egging her on to bang for a better room, to bang for drinks and a meal - or to bang the wingman so the wild girlfriend can go off with his buddy or just to bang to get her slut on.

Way I always dealt with this sex witholding bull shit was to get new tang to bang and made sure the new tang was hotter, taller, thinner, prettier face and blonder than the old steady riding cowgirl - nothing gets you over an old cowgirl like a better sexier harder riding new cowgirl.

The old pussy would usually call after 4 weeks or so not believing that she was traded for better tang to bang... usually lead to some wild revenge sex but since I could no longer trust her it was soon history (can you trust any creature that almost bleeds to death once a month and lives?).

This is why when I find one with mother of my future kids potential we have the hand maiden talk, the prenup talk and the Sicilian divorce talk... It works no divorces, no alimony, no child support and no wasted money on bridezilla weddings.

What I have learned is there are no unicorns - the ones who seem like unicorns eventually burn off their fake unicorn costume and their inner fire breathing dragon lady emerges sooner or later and if you drop your armor (stop gaming even if "exclusive") for even a second that's when they take their opportunity to burn you crispy.

Time to game for new tang and next.

Post: #21

I got blueballed by a chick once. She left me with a boner, rolled over and tried going to sleep. So I slid my hand onto my johnson, went to town on it for a couple minutes, and blew my load all over her leg. She never pulled that nonsense again.

Post: #22

Go Dark Triad. Shoot a video of you banging some hot slut. Email it to her and then go radio silent. Email subject title: Thank you.

Post: #23

(08-31-2015 11:27 PM)amusedmastery Wrote:  Go Dark Triad. Shoot a video of you banging some hot slut. Email it to her and then go radio silent. Email subject title: Thank you.

That's one of the most blatantly try hard transitions into going "radio silent" I've ever heard.

The concept of being aloof or going radio silent is to do just that, not spend more time showing her how she's on your mind.

Post: #24

(08-31-2015 09:22 PM)magellan Wrote:  I got blueballed by a chick once. She left me with a boner, rolled over and tried going to sleep. So I slid my hand onto my johnson, went to town on it for a couple minutes, and blew my load all over her leg. She never pulled that nonsense again.

I do that too, but I come on their faces instead of their legs.

Post: #25

(08-31-2015 03:52 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  If the girl isn't putting out don't call her or return texts etc. Watch how fast she turns it out.

Cause.. If you have a bunch you just do that automatically.

Thread retitle: My girlfriend cut me off don't know what to do.

(08-31-2015 07:37 PM)Menace Wrote:  She's banging someone else.

Forum heavies are savvy as usual. Either she's just playing you (in which case el mechs advice will result in her getting back in line), or she is actually getting with another guy. Either way, do as el mech says.