Post: #1

Yesterday I was sitting at a bar eating my lunch. This chick sitting at the bar as well is with a couple of her friends laughing, drinking, and having a good time. This girl at best is a "3" and very much on the heavy side.

She looks over at me and says how much she's jealous that I'm eating my burger and how she can't have one. Immediately, I blurted out "why because you're on a diet?"

Now nevermind the fact that she is on a diet, but what I said just came out so naturally that I didn't think twice about saying it. Afterwards I was pondering whether or not I should have said it. I mean on one hand if she was a hot chick I would have found something more meaningful to say, on another hand I remember that it's actually kind of rude asking a chick if she's on a diet. But heck I didn't care because she was a fat cow and it's not like it could have been some kind of secret.

I'm certain that she basically was trying to engage me into conversation and I kept blowing her off because quite frankly by Sliders was more interesting than her. Even after I brought attention to her obesity to everyone in the bar by asking her what I did she still kept coming back wanting to converse. *sigh*

Anyhow, I'm wondering something. I know there's a double standard and if she would have been hotter I would have entertained the moment. However, should I have not had asked her if she was on a diet (with a megaphone voice) like that. I almost have to chuckle because it reminds me of how Billy Bob Thorton is trying to enjoy his lunch in Bad Santa.

Post: #2

That's still awesome though... I'd be willing to bet other women noticed and would "publicly" be offended by hearing a guy say that to another woman - but inside be thinking "he has balls" and isn't afraid to be a man.

Were you eating lunch with friends or on your own? I hate eating alone.. but here I am today in a small town working with nobody else around on the same lunch schedule as me.. Could be opportunity waiting in a pub/bar/restaurant.. but I don't like sitting there alone to begin with.

Anyway, kudo's to you, my friend... as far as I'm concerned anyway!

Post: #3

as long as it was said without malice, then its fine. I mean, it didn't have to be a cruel remark.

Generally I try to treat everybody the same, like a sister or brother, because being a talkative welcoming person 5% of the time makes you look needy when you go into 'game' mode - you have to actively 'turn on' the charm. You shouldn't have to 'turn on' whatever you do just for a hot chick, it should emanate from your pores all the time. Thats what makes a man a great seducer - the natural doesn't turn it on - its just him.

I think this is really an inner game question.

Post: #4

(01-21-2009 01:08 PM)Trotter Wrote:  Yesterday I was sitting at a bar eating my lunch. This chick sitting at the bar as well is with a couple of her friends laughing, drinking, and having a good time. This girl at best is a "3" and very much on the heavy side.

She looks over at me and says how much she's jealous that I'm eating my burger and how she can't have one. Immediately, I blurted out "why because you're on a diet?"

Now nevermind the fact that she is on a diet, but what I said just came out so naturally that I didn't think twice about saying it. Afterwards I was pondering whether or not I should have said it.

It wasn't improper for you to have asked if she was on a diet. She basically invited the question by her remark about not being able to have a burger.

Post: #5

A fat chick makes a comment about someone else's hamburger??? Maybe she is self-loathing and wanted you to make fun of her. She gets off on that probably