Post: #1

Do yours differ? How and why, and do you make any attempt to reconcile the two with game?

Post: #2

(01-16-2016 11:44 AM)Gmac Wrote:  Do yours differ? How and why, and do you make any attempt to reconcile the two with game?

Good thread.

I'm more General Stalin-lite at work. I'm friendlier and generally try to keep things more light and surface level in my interactions. I don't let a lot of my personal opinions or world views interfere with my reactions and conversation with colleagues.

Off work I'm more brash, fun, DGAF, swear a lot, and will speak my mind more freely. I was in a touring hardcore/metal band for 8 years and also write and record my own music. People I work with can't picture it when I tell them about my life outside of the office.

I don't try to pick up girls at work so my work persona is generally absent from gaming women.

Post: #3

No, mine don't differ because there is just one default persona in me. This is the reason why my so called game doesn't differ whether I'm at work or after work. I might be little less forward or daring so to speak at work than outside of work but that's just common sense to me. My point is that I don't turn into a different person once I step into the office.

Post: #4

I wouldn't say I have two different personas, but at work I put my mouth's filter on.

I do make it a point to chat with others, including women, in the kitchen room. But I'm much more careful what I say there than when I talk with people outside of work.

Post: #5

Not anymore since I'm self employed.

I'm an open chauvinist, and I've found it's good for business.

Post: #6

I used to be myself at work and I noticed women were more aggressive and a bit clingy.

Sulking when I would go for smoking breaks and not tell them, getting jealous before we had hooked up.

Ended up banging 3 and hooking up with 5 in total;of which 2 left the company (1 the country) and the other one is currently my girlfriend.

Given this, no I am not myself at work anymore.

I am Switzerland, keeping my mouth shut, eye-fucking girls every now and then but mainly keeping to myself and focusing on work.

Only a few people know about my secret relationship, a year later.

Post: #7

Since I would rather be judged only for my performance, I try to maintain a level of mystery in my professional and private lives. That means no pictures in my office, or other traces of my outside dealings. It's up to them to fill in the blanks, no help from me.

In my professional circle, I am known as a bachelor who enjoys dressing nice, is an involved dad, and seeks out the pleasures of life. Pretty congruent with my true self, and since I haven't indebted myself to others, I don't feel the need to kowtow or fall into the typical herd mentality in the office.

Must say it's served me well to this point.

Post: #8

I'd say mostly no,

In my professional M-F job, I act about the same, since it's performance based (like MDP touched on).

My coworker next door and I often trade sarcastic jabs, our boss is a visionary, he speaks very bluntly and casually, I'm talking about cussing joking, talking about women, etc.

Clearly there is SOME professionalism working in a corporate environment. I'm apart of the youngest generation at the company, which is all guys, and there aren't any cute women either, all are way older and are actually pretty cool.

My weekend job, I'm pretty much the kaotic that's known on the forum, not to mention I give my coworkers game advice. The girl who works with me surprisingly agrees with alot of what I say - I'm obviously polite with customers.

Hell sometimes I'll fuck with them, saying we don't do refunds or exchanges, with a shit eating grin of course. I'll absolutely flirt with cuties that swing by also.

Post: #9

(01-16-2016 12:56 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  Not anymore since I'm self employed.

I'm an open chauvinist, and I've found it's good for business.

I like it. Give us an example or two. I am a proud sexist and chauvinist as well.

Post: #10

I would describe my work persona as safe, calm, rational, polite yet sharp. Nothing upsets me or gets under my skin. Emotions kept in check. Somewhat aloof. Frame (something which need constant tweaking). All this make my days easy and predictable.

Very important as I work in the Media, so stalls are set out early and people talk. It's a cutthroat and bitchy place dressed up as a warm cuddly, casual and friendly environment.

Outside, it can go up to 11, but even then certain things still remain in frame.

Post: #11

I do, but it's more of an effort to mask deficiencies in my relaxed personality.

At a bar or party, I am neither commanding nor able to rally anything. I'm social, but it's very relaxed. In terms of managing people it's woefully inadequate because people equate "tone" with urgency and my tone is anything but.

At work I try to maintain a serious with an undertone of humor. It's a lot like Robert DeNiro or at least what I think he's like in person. People act all "bro"y with me however and I think I come off as a frat boy. Regardless I don't have any of the same problems my original self made. With age I get the impression this will mold itself into something more refined.

Post: #12

I have developed my work persona by trial and error. My current work persona is the absence of a persona.

I come in, do my job and go home. I try to do my job well and deliver on my promises, but at the same time I'm not going to bust my ass working evenings and weekends. I don't have any close friends at work. I don't share my opinions about anything non-work related, and even when it comes to work related things, I think through every word I say very carefully.

Post: #13

Always warm and engaging, fair amount of gallows humor.

I don't work the room though. I see those guys, and it works for them, but I like to keep my business and pleasure separated, to paraphrase Biggie Smalls.

WIA

Post: #14

I work at an investment firm which is sort of a 'boys club', so we joke around a lot and it's pretty laid back. We talk about girls more than we probably should, so if anything my non-work persona is less loud, and the crude-jokes are toned down.

The work really does help me speak to girls though. After an entire week of joking around, socializing and speaking on the phone, I'm pretty much loosened up for the weekend.

Post: #15

I try to be more comforting at work than I am in person. I'm blunt and loud around my friends. I'm at my most real self when I'm around those guys.

Everyone at work comes to me when they are frustrated or feel stupid. My first task is to affirm to them that I'm here to help, that they aren't idiots for needing my help, that we're not judging them, etc. To be honest I probably try too hard to be likable at work, sometimes I wonder if it comes off as pandering. When the frustration boils over and complaints reach my superiors I fiercely defend myself, I cite a lot of facts that often "blinds them with science." The supervisors can't really understand any of it so they throw their hands in the air and drop the issue. I've never had to rely on technobabble to cover for my own laziness but I suppose I could if I wanted.

With girls I try to go for "charming scoundrel," it works okay in text but in person it only comes through about half the time. I need to work on pulling conversation out of my ass, its easy to conversationally paint yourself into a corner and come off as boring.