Post: #1

Hey guys, looking for some input on this. I'm in Thailand and it's a Thai girl if that matters.

I'm thing, I'm now actively trying to find a ltr, tired of banging new girls constantly.

So I started messaging with this girl two weeks ago. She's nice, all down, she says let's meet, go where ever do something together. I propose something close to mine and she says yeah cool let's go there. But she was leaving town for the weekend and works Monday- Friday so I say let's meet next week when she's back. Text her after the weekend if she wants to meet on Wednesday. She says she's busy with work and can't, but she will go out with her friends on Thursday and I can come to see her. I bring a buddy and we have a great night, everybody had fun and I'm impressed with her.

Text her the day after and says lets meet again in the weekend just the two of us. But she left town this weekend too. But we keep texting and today Saturday evening I say let's meet next week, when are you free? She asks where we're going and I say a place close to mine. She says it's too far and propose something halfway. I say I went to see her at the club, this time she should come to see me. She don't really give me an answer I get a bit pissed and text her good night.

How should I move on with this. The way I see it I've some options.

1. Hit her up again and tell her to come to see me and keep this as the only option. If she wants to see me, she need to come to see me.

2. Tell her to come to see me but if she doesn't agree we'll meet halfway.

3. Agree to go to see her where she says.

I know option 1 is probably the most alpha superdick move, but bare in mind I'm not just trying to bang this girl, I also want to give her a chance to become someone I'm seeing over a longer time. After new years I'm going to be busy and won't have all the time for the headache it takes of constantly pulling new quality girls.

Thanks in advance.

Post: #2

>Treating a girl nice because you want to be her BF
>Girl treats you bad because responds best to guys that treat her poorly

Never try to 'find' an LTR: if you are banging new girls constantly like you say, you should have girls to already pick from to fuck regularly.

It's impossible to not feel needy about this girl (she can sense it) when you're already thinking of her as your future girlfriend.

I can also say that having a girlfriend is a lot more of a headache than being single and going out when you want - but maybe that's just me.

Reframe your thinking. Telling you to pick one from three options on what to say once isn't going to help you.

Post: #3

I concur.
I don't know the dynamics of Thailand or anything but my advice: keep banging new girls and bang them out longer.
See how they treat you and get to know them. Pick the one that has the most desirable qualities you want in a girlfriend.

Post: #4

Generally speaking, if you have to ask a girl to be your girlfriend you're doing something wrong. If you push a girl for a relationship, you'll be written off as "needy" or "clingy." Instead, keep gaming her until she asks about the nature of the relationship. At that point, you'll be the one who gets to choose whether you want to upgrade her to "girlfriend status" or start phasing her out of the rotation.

P.S.: If you're looking to try to swoop a chick, don't agree to a group date. You're not looking to join a new social circle, you're presumably looking to get some ass, right? Don't make the logistics anymore of an uphill battle for yourself.

Post: #5

Thanks guys. I called her today and said we're meeting close to my place, she was down for it before so saying it's too far now is bullshit. She agreed, didn't tell if she'd have free time in the week or not if not then I said let's meet in the weekend. Let's see how it plays out.