Post: #1

This all started around the start of August, I work in a contact center (I know depressing stuff). I had fancied her for a number of months, but until she was actually put into the same team as me, I never really got talking to her. After a few weeks of just talking generally, I got her number, I asked her out the following day by text and she said yes, and also said she didn't know I looked at her like that.


We went out for a date on the following Saturday after sitting with each other all week in work. On the date she spoke about her ex, she said “I love him but I'm not in love with him, I'm not attracted to him at all” This made me feel uncomfortable of course, I continued on with the date however. At a later point in the evening she stated that in march, she had been raped by another guy in work who she believed had spiked her. Despite the discomfort of this we continued for a few hours and then went back to her place. This escalated into sex then, and again the following morning.


When in work the following monday we arranged to have another night together in hers, again, we slept together. Through this she continued to speak about her ex and that she left him as she didn't have romantic feelings or attraction for him anymore. I also found out that she was on medication for anxiety and depression. I am aware that these are huge red flags and my intuition as the weeks went by told me to get the hell outta there.


I am 27 and she was 23. Anyway, this arrangement of me staying in hers for the night, then going to work together continued for 4 weeks. The end was in sight without me knowing went she sent a text to me after I had told her I wasn't happy about her still talking with her ex, she stated “I can confirm to you you're the only person I'm seeing. I'm also said before I'm not in a position to get serious with anyone, due to my physical/mental health, therefore, I feel this needs to continue as a casual thing. I 'm trying to let you know how I feel, which is completely messed up, because frankly, I'm damaged goods, and there's nothing I can do about it”


Fast forward a few days and I stay in hers before we go to work the next day, the following morning she was in a terrible mood from waking, I felt like I was walking on eggshells all day with her. Just before we went into work she stated “I don't think we should do sleep overs anymore, I like having my bed to myself, and I don't plan on sharing it again” This pissed me off as her tune had changed so quickly. We went out of town after work with some work friends, and later that day after pretty much ignoring me, she stated she didn't want things to continue as normal even on a casual level.

Later that night when we returned to her's. I told her that she was out of order for being aloof and moody with me all day, and after a bit of back and forth I went home.

What do you guys think of this? I feel that perhaps I was more into her than she was into me despite her initiating things. I have since left this job and I longer have any contact with her, which is for the best.

However, I am reflecting on this episode, I have a lot of resentment in regards to this, it has subsided alot as I have been journaling and reflecting on it. I think I was good and "nice" to her and was also fearful of her mood swings, my mother had very volatile moodswings when I was growing up, this, paired with a passive father, made for alot of fear for me growing up.

I still feel that I haven't faced truly faced my growing up situation, I tend to get involved with women who withdraw after a few weeks or months, and I become embittered in the fallout.

This is my first post here, I'd appreciate any advice or input in regards to this.

Post: #2

(12-09-2016 03:09 PM)Mick88 Wrote:  On the date she spoke about her ex, she said “I love him but I'm not in love with him, I'm not attracted to him at all”

she had been raped by another guy in work who she believed had spiked her. Despite the discomfort of this we continued for a few hours and then went back to her place.

This escalated into sex then, and again the following morning.

I'm not in a position to get serious with anyone, due to my physical/mental health

This is my first post here, I'd appreciate any advice or input in regards to this.

This sounds like a troll.

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

chick > slut > red flags > dickbrain > red flags > continued > advice > read RVF.

Post: #3

1 get a new job
2 don't bang co-workers
3 learn to meet girls that have nothing to do with your line of work
4 avoid chicks with obvious insanity and red flags until you have repented and banged sweet girls that don't have rape stories

Post: #4

(12-09-2016 03:09 PM)Mick88 Wrote:  "I'm not attracted to him at all”

Yeah she is, and she's probably still fucking him.

Quote:At a later point in the evening she stated that in march, she had been raped by another guy in work who she believed had spiked her.

I'm guessing by this you meant spiked her drink. In the future, if a girl ever tells you this, EJECT!!! What she really means is: "I had a drunken one night stand with a coworker that I regretted later." Does the guy still work there? Did he get charged and convicted for it? It's doubtful. This is the type of girl who will falsely accuse a man of rape.

Quote:I also found out that she was on medication for anxiety and depression. I am aware that these are huge red flags and my intuition as the weeks went by told me to get the hell outta there.

Listen to your gut next time.

Quote:"I'm also said before I'm not in a position to get serious with anyone, due to my physical/mental health, therefore, I feel this needs to continue as a casual thing. I 'm trying to let you know how I feel, which is completely messed up, because frankly, I'm damaged goods, and there's nothing I can do about it”

Stay far, far away. Jesus, this wasn't just one or two red flags. The entire playing field was covered with them. This is like continually jumping into shark infested waters.

Quote:What do you guys think of this?

Continue reading the forum, listen to the advice found here, and find some good books to read. You are on the fast track to getting badly burned if you don't start trusting yourself and recognizing potentially dangerous situations.

Quote:I think I was good and "nice" to her and was also fearful of her mood swings, my mother had very volatile moodswings when I was growing up, this, paired with a passive father, made for alot of fear for me growing up.

It sounds like there are some insecurities you need to work through. Focus on bettering yourself. As a man, you should be fearful of no woman. Your mother obviously had a negative impact on you. Work through that shit through counseling, working out, traveling, reading, and writing. You will probably get some harsh advice here, but power through it and you'll come out a better man.

Post: #5

Anytime a woman mentions she was raped I run as fast as I can. Pussy isn't worth sitting in a jail cell. Also, never stick your dick in crazy.

Post: #6

Anxiety and depression drugs= red flag , especially when she's 23. Did she grow up in a warzone and witness atrocities? No, just her life choices catching up with her.

She wanted a fling, wasn't serious and ejected. Were you serious about her? Move on.

Post: #7

Quote: I'm guessing by this you meant spiked her drink. In the future, if a girl ever tells you this, EJECT!!! What she really means is: "I had a drunken one night stand with a coworker that I regretted later." Does the guy still work there? Did he get charged and convicted for it? It's doubtful. This is the type of girl who will falsely accuse a man of rape.

Yeah the guy was still working there when I left for a new job. I asked her if she had went to the police, she said no and couldn't give a reason why. I smell bullshit.

Quote:Anxiety and depression drugs= red flag , especially when she's 23. Did she grow up in a warzone and witness atrocities? No, just her life choices catching up with her.

No she didn't grow up in a warzone. She ticked a ton of the slut signs too. She told me she had slept with 7 guys. Times that by 3 and it's north of 20. I think shes a BPD or bi polar. Highly unstable woman. Uses cock to medicate it along with the happy pills it seems.

Quote: It sounds like there are some insecurities you need to work through. Focus on bettering yourself. As a man, you should be fearful of no woman. Your mother obviously had a negative impact on you. Work through that shit through counseling, working out, traveling, reading, and writing. You will probably get some harsh advice here, but power through it and you'll come out a better man.

Your right man. I have a knack for being attracted and attractive to women like this. Its a recurrent pattern for me.

I was on a work night out with my team, which she was in. At the end of the night she latched onto a random guy and walked off with him. When she walked past me she gave me a vindictive/triumphant look.

Unfortunately, I was really drunk and called her a slut. This led to her assaulting me, she scratched my face up something fierce. I took the bait and that's how it ended. I didn't give a shit anymore the anger was building up in me throughout the weeks after it ended, her and her hamplanet crew in work were behaving in a way with me that could be considered bullying.

I luckily had a new job by this stage so I told work that I quit the following monday morning. This chick had told me stories of her and violence previously, so I don't feel surprised that happened.

What advice would you give a guy like me who always gets women who are like this? Unstable, unavailable and prone to be manipulative in a big way and violent to top it off?

This one was a carbon copy of the first woman I ever slept with, right down to appearance. I've only really recognized this.

Post: #8

Mick88 Wrote:What advice would you give a guy like me who always gets women who are like this? Unstable, unavailable and prone to be manipulative in a big way and violent to top it off?

The first step is admitting you have a problem. You know such women are poison, you don't need us to tell you what you already know. When you start seeing those red flags, eject. Unless you're just a glutton for punishment or something, don't waste your time fucking around with crazy bitches. Especially, when there are so many non-poisonous girls out there to be gotten.

Not to get all Freudian with you, but it sounds like your attraction to that type of woman stems from how your mother was. People have a tendency to live what they learn, so unless you want a repeat of what happened with your own parents (emotionally unstable female/ passive/enabling male), you've got to break the cycle.