Post: #1

Hey guys,

I'm wondering what your guys approach is to accessing the top tier social circles. I'm talking the types filled with people who go vacationing on their yachts, models, actresses, athletes, etc. Obviously one way is to be one of these types of people, but if you aren't, how do you get access to this club's quality?

Cold approaching in high end malls or rich neighbourhoods is one answer of mine, but am wondering if there are other ways.

Become a chaffeur?
High end club promoter?
Model Photographer?
Get rich? (this one also seems obvious)

Didn't see a thread exactly like this on the forum, so am creating this one.

Post: #2

Money
Promoter/Club host
Luck

Post: #3

(07-06-2017 10:18 PM)Celestial Wrote:  Hey guys,

I'm wondering what your guys approach is to accessing the top tier social circles. I'm talking the types filled with people who go vacationing on their yachts, models, actresses, athletes, etc. Obviously one way is to be one of these types of people, but if you aren't, how do you get access to this club's quality?

Cold approaching in high end malls or rich neighbourhoods is one answer of mine, but am wondering if there are other ways.

Become a chaffeur?
High end club promoter?
Model Photographer?
Get rich? (this one also seems obvious)

Didn't see a thread exactly like this on the forum, so am creating this one.

From personal experience, making yourself available goes a long way. When I was in college, I worked like a mad man. I had multiple part-time jobs, one of which put me in front of a lot of inconspicuously rich people. Being affable and open to conversation led to them, at first, hiring me for help with various things like editing their dissertations, teaching them computer skills, renovating their yachts, etc. These were pilots, hospital cheifs, screenwriters, etc. Eventually they began inviting me to various get togethers, sailing trips, etc.

When I moved overseas, while I was working full time, I started tutoring the kids of well known artists, property developers, officials, etc. They started inviting me to gallery openings, company parties, yacht parties, and the occasional offer for trips (which I was never able to take due to my work schedule). All because I made myself available when someone said "Hey, I know someone who needs...".

I would say, though, that it's important to maintain those relationships after the work exchange ends, otherwise the invites will dwindle and eventually cease. But, by that point, you should have made enough connections within the group that you find yourself being invited into other circles.

Post: #4

Good question.
Been thinking about this (well breaking into better social/professional circles in general) myself.
Meetup dot com has been a good source for people who share similar interest. Just pick a hobby/interest and go with it. They say cycling is the new "golf," give it a try.

Post: #5

(07-07-2017 12:28 AM)DimeBait Wrote:  Good question.
Been thinking about this (well breaking into better social/professional circles in general) myself.
Meetup dot com has been a good source for people who share similar interest. Just pick a hobby/interest and go with it. They say cycling is the new "golf," give it a try.

People in high end social circles are unlikely to be found on Meetup (or indeed any web sites). They usually have enough people competing for their time that they seldom need to put in an effort to make friends.

Honestly, I don't think you can scheme your way into high end circles. You have to have something of value to offer. Like attracts like etc. etc.

Post: #6

I'll second what jselysianeagle wrote "You have to have something of value to offer.". What do you have to offer that will want high society folks to have you around? You want them, they don't want you for now.

Post: #7

(07-07-2017 12:44 AM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  Honestly, I don't think you can scheme your way into high end circles. You have to have something of value to offer. Like attracts like etc. etc.

Agreed.

I would also suggest to the OP that having 'something of value to offer' does not include spam approach daygame...

Post: #8

(07-07-2017 12:44 AM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  

(07-07-2017 12:28 AM)DimeBait Wrote:  Good question.
Been thinking about this (well breaking into better social/professional circles in general) myself.
Meetup dot com has been a good source for people who share similar interest. Just pick a hobby/interest and go with it. They say cycling is the new "golf," give it a try.

People in high end social circles are unlikely to be found on Meetup (or indeed any web sites). They usually have enough people competing for their time that they seldom need to put in an effort to make friends.

Honestly, I don't think you can scheme your way into high end circles. You have to have something of value to offer. Like attracts like etc. etc.

Right, so this is why I mentioned club promoter / rich etc, where you can provide lifestyle benefits / access to something for these people. I get that you can't scheme your way in (at least not for long), so the only question is what is something you can do to get in and stay?

Post: #9

Political fundraisers with Members of Congress would be an angle. Start a PAC. Hell. Start a charity or nonprofit with a legitimate cause high profile people would rally behind. Then you get to attend high dollar events with these higher profile people or influencers. Also, charity event fundraisers or diplomatic events would be good if you have an in to an embassy. Just floating ideas from Washington experience. I can't speak for high end society events in NYC, LA or Miami.

Post: #10

(07-07-2017 12:44 AM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  You have to have something of value to offer.

Post: #11

In the UK at least, it is bordering on the impossible. Money alone won't do it. Coke definitely isn't going to cut it. I know one guy, a theatre impresario who has succeeded in cracking the high end social circles. But then he does own a very successful theatre adored by the upper class, and he is by nature a real gentleman.

For most people, unless you're born to it, it is off limits (again, here in the UK at least). The best you can realistically do is make it so that your children fit seamlessly. It can be a multigenerational process, so you'd need to be motivated by more than pussy to get there. If you're not aspirational in a dynastic sense, then my feeling is that most would be better off putting it out of their heads.

Post: #12

My experience:

Promoter: Even Rich and Wealthy guys have problems getting girls (despite their wealth). If you are a top promoter and extremely tight with the best girls in the area, you can get something they haven't been able to buy for themselves. This is how I got my "own boat" in NYC. He had a boat but because of the girls i was able to supply I could "use" it when I needed. I ran with a Wall Street guy in NYC and let him have the pick of girls from my Facebook. I could at anytime get lunch with him and say which girls would you like to meet this weekend and tell him ill get on it and see if she was available. I'd invite her to the party and hype him hard to the girls and there you go.

Word of mouth went around and slowly I became the plug for girls. Promoter game is some of the best game in world you can run.

Bottle game: In Germany I was able to get in with the richer guys by going to high end night clubs and running bottle game and inviting guys to drink for free at my table. Its not a cheap way to do it but it works. Unfortunately, alot of these guys party hard and do coke and im not down with that.

I guess you could also be the coke plug and get in to the circles but I don't mess with drugs.

Post: #13

Actually OP, you should have read up Distant Light's datasheets, posts, and blog. Dude posted a lot about this in different places (NYC, LA, Europe).

The question has been answered, you should search before making a new thread.

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Post: #14

Yea I've fallen off hard past 2.5 years...

Wifeylifestyle caused my life to collapse, social aspect was causinf issues so stopped meeting & inviting people...

Surely miss the life experiences BUT my stage/props are changing, I am addicted to fun & music atleast in NY is "shit-hop" and celebs (not as fun when around celebs, people spectate...3 girls I know got hit on by justin bieber...1 chick slept over at leo's apt which essentially we run in same circles as he's partied at my VIP host friend penthouse...1 girl dated tiesto who I met when he was single at club owner table...good energy/vibe)

Most of my connects are MARRIED or gf...One is engaged to VS model. What I dislike is that they're life is slowly collapsing. I am not a fan by any means of monogamy. Only original dude who wanted me to go to south of france is still killing it. Because he is from europe & his crew based in europe alot of models he know are UNKNOWN which euro models much more attractive/feminine.

The Key Is -
A. Immense Presence
B. "Man Who Knows Women" (On An Extreme Level)

Initially when my life was going out of whack...

Cold approached EVERY TALL WOMAN I seen anywhere at anytime. 1st girl I met was 6'3 swedish girl on the train never transpired to her coming out BUT. 3 months later any tall girl I seen KNEW ME and because of presence...LOVED ME.

I was pretty gunho about process as I offer no value other than FUN & the army of women I knew. Women GOT ME IN...

PRESENCE was the glue that made me become COOL with people & them wanting to align with me.

Disclaimer...I am not a good promoter, changes perspective to WORK. Kills my vibe & makes feel like I am dependent on women for money. The occasional "bring girls to x event" was good as it made me go to great things.

I'd advise NOT BEING A PROMOTER as you become constrained to politics & limited in connections. I used to play in sub niches of "models bottles", "high end hipster" (doesnt really exist anymore), "Cosmopolitan" crowd (above average mix of everything), "burner/hippie" crowd .

I observe alot on how currency works in hospitality/entertainment...

Put me anywhere for 1-month and I will have an unreal life...Prague was only time in 2.5 years I got to challenge myself...
- Invites to germany (music label guy) & poland (camera man) german guy invited me to private boat party
- Invited to a house party by film maker teacher...Her whole social circle were hipster film types, smoked weed...Initially I was to be a "present" for her BFF (tall decent) but had a GF...Intro'd my chinese boy to their attractive asian friend which I'm not too into asians BUT she was pretty.
- Guy wanted to have his driver take us around prague so he can show me the city (dude had a mafia vibe which I digged hahaha)

Between gf status & obligations with friends bachelor party I didn't get to go full DL mode. Maybe 2-3 days of running around lost amongst locals. (Total different side to prague)

Its all the same BUT high end clubs are like the BEST REALM to learn social logistics & how connections can open doorway to so many worlds.

That's why I like my philosophy & overall style as I am the only constant. Everything external is just lifestyle choices. This stems from...
A. I don't like most girls even if they're attractive
B. Impossible to fuck all the women who likes you
C. Women coming from so many avenues (Female friend brings a friend who must meet me...Connector friend with 4-10 girls...Promo friends with 20-25 girls)
D. Female friends are wayyyyy more fun than straight guys (dudes to fixated on catching tail...Most guys I hung out knew they could get something if they wanted)

I grew so much as a person and now all realms feel like a possibility...
- Celebs & Royalty (My least favorite realms, being incognito is best. Learnt from my #1 club owner, when he opened club in vegas he was chillin with kayne & jay z most outside industry have no clue who he is)

- Southerm Republican Party...Almost fucked a family member who blatantly said her parents would be pissed if I fucked her (her friend was mad drunk so let her be, lost phone)

- French High Society...Another daugther, super bitchy BUT for some reason we got along. Said her parents would be pissed she is messing with a black guy...Almost took her on her offer to go to some dinner with her fam just to create tension

- Black model I always thought was ugly...Met in person thought she was married so didnt fuck around BUT she ended up hanging around me for the night. Her feminine presence was UNREAL.

- Saudi Prince bodyguard invites me to table because of 3 girls I'm with (club wanted me to work for them, tried to connect with saudi prince BUT director of marketing for club jumped infront of me saying "no take my number" whoops his client)

This realm is looking for RAW FUN...Someone who looks beyond the illusions. I do best in a realm of good music and stunning women. Went to a brazilian model party my friend hosts (connected with VS models) and shit tons of girls were trying to flirt (I was killing time to meetup with a chica)

Shit is addictingly fun when there is GOOD MUSIC. Have seen the most stunning black girls. (Hate myself for blacking out on one of last nights I was single)

I wouldn't do it again in NYC though...unless high end scene did complete overhaul...Door policy is such a joke now. I'm sure private parties probably still has stunners...

Nowadays promoters us model apartments (shit sucksssssss) it's in NY, Miami & now LA (most of NY staff is in LA now)

If I were to do high end again I'd choose RUSSIA!!! (Young ones only, they don't age too well) Think soho rooms...

I'm sort of a hippie consciousness dude by heart so it's funny I love the SHALLOWNESS of "door policy" as it makes it easy for me to meet above average women in bulk, to sift through potential female friends & which chicks I'd mess around with.

My DREAM is to live different lifestyles in different cities and have multiple international homebases. Not for sake of sex BUT sake of FUN as sex is a given. Haven't thought about sex since early 2012, I just would have sex.

I like music/dancing/partying so when it comes to nightlife this is important. High end scene in US are too focused on "illusions" playing shit music so people can keep buying bottles.

Disclaimer...This Isn't Hard (Presence is more important & the line between ease & more effort) So many guys in that scene "bring girls" that's nothing given the right person living/working in the right environments...



Female Friend Pic...Leo just chillin



Blast To The Past (Don't Remember Any Of This)


(First Girl Ever Said Fuck You...Hars Boundaries)



Day Party circa 2011



3-Way Makeout?? No Clue About This Night...From Pics seems like their was 3 other girls (2 who seem to be all over me) circa 2011





Don't even remember halloween...

Post: #15

Most only hear me talk about the social aspect as that is what was most fun IMO. Sex was like the sprinkles & hot fudge of it all...Downside, I was an irrational wreck as time went on (had an STD scare that lead to me abusing alcohol as an alternative as I wait for test results...Was intially misdiagnosed for gonnerhea and given a shot/pill which made me allergic to my carpet, went to hospital and everything...Only to realize I HAD NOTHING although for 6-8 months I was going INSANE raw dogging & rolling with lube)

Perfect example, left with a girl at my fav venue (so I assume she is very attractive) a chick ran up to me asking if we could fuck that night I said "maybe, lets enjoy the night first". Only to learn through a friend, she said that I left with a different girl!! Only collection I have is 2 random #s.

To this day I habe no clue WTF I did after I stepped foot in that club and woke up at 11am on the train headed home. (Did I mention I eventually lost phone...yea I lost 10-12 phones didnt backup pics or numbers. So essentially rebuilt my contacts about 8-10x hahaah)





My fav venue...100% Guaranteed to meet someone 6ft... (Place is closed)



Kirilwashere along with chainsmokers were all part of 1 of the same social circles as me...This is also when I hungout with my female friend who ended up becoming a pornstar last year. (Fun gal, always an invite to hit LA or Vegas)



Exhausted Interest In Scandivians



Tall Euro Girls though...Interest comes & goes #ClassicLook



Old Text Messages (Keep In Mind, beyond logistics I never texted, gone on dates or spoke on phone...Face 2 Face fun only)







Beyond all the sex, it was the social life & shared memories that were legend...

High end scene is just 1 of many social boxes, many people are stuck in it given their circles & jobs. I used to cold approach anywhere anytime and just add girls into my life...

Opened up so many potential possibilities & experiences. 2011-2013 was by far greatest times of my life.

It never hits me until posts like this or looking back I think "why the fuck did I stop I was so happy!!!!" The lifestyle fits my personality.

Only 5 regrets I have...
- Didn't get into IG, I'd have a HORDE of cool ass attractice women to roll with me anywhere I go
- Didn't backup pics/videos/contacts...While it made me become COMPETENT at my processes of building my lifestyle, in long term I would've had a GRAND SOCIAL LIFE. (First time I lost my phone I had connected with over 100 new women in less thamn a month THEN LOST PHONE AGAIN!!!)
- Didn't use facebook to keep in touch (most chicks had to ask me)
- I stopped living it up as it got too chaotic with bdays & in venue people always grabbing me...Std scare lead to abusing alcohol...Then found my 1st ever gf (will never do monogamy again, I was highly misunderstood at the start then social aspects causes issues so I never met or invited anyone for 2.5 exception of prague)
- THE WORST ONE...The day I said "I should slowdown". I was meeting 2-5 new potential social circles a week ontop of lots of girls. It was to the point where it wasn't uncommon for me to say "yo do x-now because in a few days you'll be forgotten, I meet too many people"...My life was growing very rapidly many times over. (To paint a picture, I took one of my old partners to a club, NOTHING I LIKED nor was music any good aka "shit-hop" BUT I seen a tall ass stylish chick...When I go to meet her ALREADY KNOW HER!! HAHAH never was into her like that so just an overall fun night)

What thia all has given me is the competent process & presence (all those experiences lead to continially growing my philosophy which is why social interactions are so important beyond just sex)

Process + Continual Growing Presence/Consciousness = Pricless

I have plans for next years NEW lifestyle, it's different from high end scene BUT i'll forever be amongst that realm due to friends...Who knows maybe 1 night I get the bug and decide to indulge again here in NY (Highly doubt that)

Prague was refreshing as it confirmed nothing about me was lost (despite me not even expressing any sexual aspects) JUST surpressed while in a relationship to eliminate potential problems. It's not FUN when girls just like you & you are with someone who thinks you'll just pounce on any opportunity...Even if I may have if were single. (Won't even get into the overall shitty/selfish dynamics of monogamy beyond sex)

Yes fucked tons of chicks BUT passed up wayyyyyyy more. (Maybe 4-5x as much) I'd go back and fuck more just to catch up on lost time past 2.5 years as I've only just maintained friendships and let everything dissolve for sake of keeping my relationship together...In the end, that didn't last as I don't have the affinity of a bf...

Crave uncertainty, overdose of fun & overall just freedom. I'm very big on "downtime", growing & learning. Social times are my time for PLAY and being "out". GF detracts "downtime" and 2017 only went out 3-4x. The least I've gone out in AGES.

Stay tune, as I can now refocus on projects i've had planned 3 or so years ago...Living/exploring different cities and building a lifestyle from scratch within each based on x-related interests unrelated to women. (Women will always be around so it's a given I'll meet some cool ass characters both men & women)

Imo...It's worth it, I've seen many friends grow as business owners, fashion designers, entrepreneurs, travellers, trustfund kids, etc.

P.S...I had no money back then, most think that was my IN. When literally it was my presence & processes. It's not common for a man to easily just meet hordes of women. What I did in 70 days took many guys 5-10 years. I LOVED THIS STUFF so it was nothing for me.

P.S.S...I had so much fun that even if I never had sex I'd say it was worth it BUT sex is just another expression of FUN & my o my I had fun. (More so been spoiled as normal social boxes don't have such collectice numbers of attractive women, especially since I rarely like em short)

Post: #16

Define what you mean by "High End"

Hollywood-Instagram Life is Super Pathetic. Pure exaggeration.

Do random things for people that don't cost you anything! Yes, Random Acts of Kindness is not corny. It's the Key to the Game.
Make yourself valuable to valuable people who value you for who you are.
Get quasi famous for something. Authoring a hard copy book is the new business card. People who know some one who knows you.. 6 Degrees of Separation is real.
Learn and know something about golf.
Have some experience in Business Administration.
Don't blow out your bank account aka Don't get Starfucked and over extend yourself.

Brass tacks... All social circles run pragmatically. The more you can help people be more socially valuable. The quicker you'll rise.

For Example, Being a Poker player is not enough. Being a really good poker player isn't enough. It's what you can do for your contact at that point in time.

For chicks...
- Don't lose connection with hot chicks that you went to high school and college with. They have friends. Hot chicks hang with Hot chicks.

Post: #17

As stated by the other members, provide value.

You need to be able to recommend a cool winery or restaurant. Better yet, you should know some of the staff at these place to make sure that any recommendation you give, they'll be well taken care of.

What about providing a business service for them and doing a great job? Putting yourself out there with confidence and then delivering the goods always buys you graces with the wealthy folks. They've seen lots of posers. Don't be a try-hard, focus on bringing something to the table instead of being a mooch.

If you get a contact of someone with money, ask them great open-ended questions about some of the challenges they've been facing. One of the best ways I've found to network with people with money and access is by showing genuine interest in what is bothering them right now. Relieve that pressure point through your own services, or refer them to an expert in the field they need help with. Always keep a stocked contacts list in your phone of "go-to" people that you can recommend. If a wealthy person has a plumbing problem, I know the best damn plumber that lives between LA and SF. He'll get their mess cleaned up fast, and at a reasonable rate with a great sense of humor and a 1-year money back guarantee on his labor. That referral is BIG VALUE.

One of the best ways to embed yourself into a social circle is to force yourself to get to know people outside of your profession. Once you can observe that they do great work, if a wealthy person needs a great interior designer, I know of no less than two in my area that can transform their house. Their retainer starts at $20k, but damn, do they do impressive work. I plug the designers that deliver, not just some design hack that doesn't know what he's doing. Get to know competent people (and be one yourself) and you'll become an invaluable resource to high-end social circles.

Post: #18

Great to see more posts from you Distant Light! Some of your earlier posts were game changers for me.

Post: #19

(07-07-2017 06:40 PM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  As stated by the other members, provide value.

You need to be able to recommend a cool winery or restaurant. Better yet, you should know some of the staff at these place to make sure that any recommendation you give, they'll be well taken care of.

What about providing a business service for them and doing a great job? Putting yourself out there with confidence and then delivering the goods always buys you graces with the wealthy folks. They've seen lots of posers. Don't be a try-hard, focus on bringing something to the table instead of being a mooch.

If you get a contact of someone with money, ask them great open-ended questions about some of the challenges they've been facing. One of the best ways I've found to network with people with money and access is by showing genuine interest in what is bothering them right now. Relieve that pressure point through your own services, or refer them to an expert in the field they need help with. Always keep a stocked contacts list in your phone of "go-to" people that you can recommend. If a wealthy person has a plumbing problem, I know the best damn plumber that lives between LA and SF. He'll get their mess cleaned up fast, and at a reasonable rate with a great sense of humor and a 1-year money back guarantee on his labor. That referral is BIG VALUE.

One of the best ways to embed yourself into a social circle is to force yourself to get to know people outside of your profession. Once you can observe that they do great work, if a wealthy person needs a great interior designer, I know of no less than two in my area that can transform their house. Their retainer starts at $20k, but damn, do they do impressive work. I plug the designers that deliver, not just some design hack that doesn't know what he's doing. Get to know competent people (and be one yourself) and you'll become an invaluable resource to high-end social circles.

This is something I've been thinking about a lot. Those with money really want to emphasise comfort and convenience, and knowing people who do good work can help them achieve that. Right now I know a solid, no bullshit accountant and a top construction worker who freelances with reasonable rates and no games. I think these are pretty useful contacts and it'd be a good idea to get more like them.

Post: #20

@Repo always glad to help

@cdr yep everything is "smoke n mirrors" just a stage & props for humans to interact, experience, learn & grow.

People forget WE ALL DIE...Your consciousness projects the interpretations & experiences of the data we call "our life". If you look at it from a video game simulation, were a bunch of fear/ego based people doing the best we can. Some are more caught up than others.

It's based on our awareness to filter the profitable & unprofitable...

A villa, yacht, jet set location, amazing food, etc is all just a "stage", it's nothing without consciousness & AWESOME we applied to the right consciousness.

Dudes with money who suck with girls, yea they can P4P or use their POWER. But it's not PERSONAL POWER...

Give me a villa, yacht, & jet set location and you got yourself amazing music...social chaos...sexually charged fun (Someone is getting naked) ...And overall a positive/loving shared experience.

It's just who I am...Similar to chicks always wanting to hang because as I would joke "I'm the DRUG".

Same could be said if you put me amongst an indigenous tribe...I will have a BLAST. This is why I'm not impressed/attached to the externals. In that sense I'm pragmatic.

Those IG girls flying around, gaining mass followers showing off their ASSests, and overall seem like the current "it girl"...Their own story has only begun, age & new women will spawn a whole new realm of "life lessons".

But on a "1st hand experience" level most are BORED out their mind.

And this is why I used to clean up socially...

Fearful people ACTING civilized, it's universal and depending on the social boxes it's more or less the same OR throw in some altered state drugs & escapisms to grease the wheels.

High end scene is unique in the "civil" aspect as it's supposed to be in the realm of LUXURY. Money, beauty, materials, power, fame, etc. (All stage & props)

What people truly want is to feel the rawness of BEING ALIVE. The genuine celebration of life...Won't get all hippie/woowoo hahaha.

@John is on point, many of those things I haven't brought up as it was a side effect for me. Building a lifestyle, finding homebases, connectinf people, etc...

Most obvious yet UNAWARE thing are "brands" and idea of "Pop Ups". People throwing these POP UP parties in all sorts of locations BUT you can see it at all the famous EVENTS (art basel, sundance, ultra, fashion week, etc)

Pop Up Party = Network Of Social Circles

It's like I literally invite all my friends & have them bring their frienda and call it DL Yacht Tour (40 Girls & 10 Guys on a 7 day island hopping bonanza)

You have a startup? Cool, my crazy banker friend will be rolling with his gf & her 3 stunning chicks. Soo, not only will you possibly meet a potential awesome lady, be on my yacht BUT can get a biz connect MAYBE even go to LA for his bday party.

But wait...You meet a chick who knows a guy doing similar and end up getting an interesting idea because you're both drunk and she's revealing alot of info she probably shouldn't have. Nonetheless, it's a random golden nugget due to being in proximity.

That's how most these people navigate as MOST can't cold approach. Some feel their TOO COOL or TOO GOOD. Others just been social so much early on that it's not feasible for them anymore as OTHERS are introducing him to hordes. (For years, I technically never had to cold approach & in 2012 I did slow down IMMENSELY as I literally had no time to even look at my phone or pour my drink)

I regret stopping though, I shoulda stuck it out & got comfy because life would've been 1000x better (and wilder)

Ironically, all this reminded me of a major slip up I once did due to being drunk. My cousin is a local rapper & turned out a guy I always seen for YEARS. I randomly saw him after his disappearance turned out he was in LA and lived right down block from the club here in NY...

Turned out he was a producer for macbach music & wanted to hear my cousin stuff. I was too drunk and never took his info.

At the time I never really thought to connect potential business contacts...

To be fair, I always was more focused on the underlying human to human connections due to spiritual aspect of myself.

Post: #21

Supply quality blow around the clock.

Post: #22

Distant Light - you sound as the right guy to invite to a party, raise the mood, even organize a party with 40 girls and 10 men. For men with money it is wonderful.

However I don't think that most guys can replicate your success - the reason is that you are an extroverted, good-looking black Hipster-styled guy, who actually enjoys wild parties, loud music, dancing, clubs. The reality is that most men don't really enjoy clubs - they want the girls that are in the clubs. It is actually the women who enjoy more the music, dancing, the attention, the showing off of their "assets".

Still - props to you. If I had 50-100 mio. $, I would hire you instantly as my party-organizer-maestro for 100k+ and that would make getting laid so much easier for me - also the fun would be much greater.

Post: #23

@Zelcorpion agreed!!!

Although more of an introvert-extrovert, downtime is my haven for growth & outings to spread the love.

Agree most don't like partying "social boxes" BUT that's cool as proven by some clients within realms of (gyms, obstacle courses, dance class, mastermind groups, corporate events, daytime, social media, etc)

In past ALMOST was gonna do something similar with bottle buyers BUT club I wanted to most work for only paid commision om $5k+ and the lesser companies it's a bitch to get the cut without having firm connection with staff. (1 club that is a local based brand legit schemed their way out of paying me for a $4k table)

Working in nightlife would kill my fun regardless of the perks...

That said, due to conaciousness oriented side of me it makes things much more easier for me. I self-diagnose myself as a hypomaniac.
- Huge euphoric upswings (high of life is the greatest drug in the world, my lifestyle was based around accumulating memorable experiences & freedom...Reality is purely internal interpretation as I had even less money back then but quality of life was OFF THE CHARTS)
- Risk taker & hypersexuality...I call myself high functioning as I can kind of "keep myself in check"
- Downswing depression occurs when constrained (like monogamy) and when I had issues with renew ID along with STD scare (had allergic reaction played major role as I took shot & pill when I had NOTHING) leading to alcohol abuse (got arrested 2x due to blackout situations and lost 10-12 phones)

That said, I've explored myself so much that I know how to ride my bio-chemistry in harmony and I never feel NORMAL mentally.

More of a crash dummy in a simulation called "earth" learning and growing. This makes me seem insensitive as I see through the illusions & acting of life. Enables me to cut to the source & indulge.

However, past 2.5 years been having major mental issues due to monogamy. Literally has killed my life into the abyss, yet from consciousness perspective "lessons need to be learn" (yet I don't wanna learn I want to go back to my old free loving life)

Similar to doing your 1st OBE or aware of a "different reality"...Once that door opens you can never close it again. That's kind of like the social/sexual freedom & processes of "lifestyle" that can never be closed.

Imagine any environment you go to or interactios you have, you can see all the potential possibilities and how you can navigate/leverage shit. (This is why I wish I was single in prague, the experience woulsa been legend and I was only their for like a week.)

To paint a picture...I'm used to getting peeps laid indirectly (sometimes directly instigating when it's clear the parties need a NUDGE done this for gays, lesbians & straight)

Last time out with my crew...Ended up meeting this cool chick who was BUGGING OUT. (Love when people just let loose not acting civilized) Short interaction leads to her giving me her card to go to an after party later. PERFECTO!! My last night out with my boys...

Later after smoking, I realize she is with a group of 8-9 girls. PERFECTO!! I'll indirectly get my crew laid were hitting this after party. Music is on point so spontaneously dancing only to end up having a "moment" dancing with some chick in their group...Her friends are all like "uh-ohhh" egging things on as some fun/sexuality is about to be expressed.

10secs in I catch myself...I have a GF, this chick has nice tits & I'm chartering "old social ways" territory...

So I just stop and go to other area to chill, as my gf was to meet us and I don't want issues of girls coming back to me to have fun.

It's really retarded BUT end result, rest of night is spent just chillin with my boys who are fucked up...Occasionally bugging out with my other 2 boys when a good track comes on.

Fun...Yet PREDICTABLE, didn't speak to much of anyone rest of the night.

In other realities or altered states almost EVERYTHING is uncertain from my low awareness in that realm so it's a HIGH when shit come up. That's how my physical life used to be...I show up and all this crazy shit happens, I have no clue who I'd meet, who I'd fuck or where my life will take me.

This is what made lifestyle AMAZING. So many crazy random stories came from embracing the unknown. Not something that can be bought, it's earned through your consciousness "personal power".

Due to such application of consciousness in my life and LACK OF KNOWLEDGE on societies part, I by default can never be understood as my mind works in an eccentric manner. Reason I not a coo coo bird is because everything about exploring consciousness for me is logical, experience is king, honest objectivity of the subjective states/experiences, probabilities, good intentions & dissolving fears/ego.

Most people rely on faith, judgments and overall jumping to conclusions. Sadly, that's how I got into monogamy...My potential horrors were based on logical POTENTIAL POSSIBILITIES based on how I am & my experiences.

Irony, I was right about it...All the way down to "I'd want to commit suicide".

This is why I now strongly dislike anyone throwing around the whole "I got a kick ass gf...blahblahblah"

Either they're...
- Delusional (Like I was)
- Low Sex Drive and/or lacking a sick social/sex life
- Bio-Chemistry makes them fall heavily in the realm of monogamy, low key, safe roles, etc

Beyond PERSONAL GROWTH...There is zero reason to be in a relationship. Everything you THINK you can benefit from could be done in other ways from many sources.

Monogamy = Shrinking your reality frame. Suicide occurs when all that you can see in your reality is YOU & PROBLEMS. 2 comes right after 1. You're on fine line of suicidal based reality frame.

Old single people die quicker than couples because of their interpretation of lonlieness while couple atleast has 1 other...

Due to how I am, how mind works & overall projection on earth. It's impossible to be lonely as "alone" is a space for downtime, then I inteeact with others on a broad scale. (Like on this forum, 1 platform)

Monogamy is a selfish act, plain and simple. Don't care how cool or awesome the girl is.

There is a reason why we all must die, it's a reset for our consciousness to continue growing. You ain't growing optimally when your world consists heavily of 1 girl. (and vice versa) more time is spent in drama moee than growth.

2011-2013, I grew RAPIDLY, I learnt what true love to life as a human was. My reality reflected that and those I came in contact with. Majority of people who so called "blew me out" were merely people who were UNAWARE on a consciousness level what I was about. (Hence why I became so potently consistent)

In my mind I have 7+ billion family members and I love em all even if SOME requires tough love as I know were all on our own path.

Post: #24

Distant Light - Sounds like you got some serious high energy that propels you to talk to everybody, that's something I've been working on and am seeing progress but doesn't mesh perfectly with my natural personality. Anyways solid logic you're dropping, much appreciated

Post: #25

@Distant light

Glad to see you around, I enjoy your unique perspective on things.

Do you think someone could break into the high end scene the way you did (no connections, limited money) without the outrageous dancing energy you project? Or do you credit that for how you could draw in all these women that you leveraged to get into the scene.