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Would You help your ex GF
I am in no contact rule with my ex GF for 2 months now. We broke up 7 months ago. Sometime she sends me messages on Viber which I ignore and never bother to reply.

Recently she asked me for help. A year ago I gave her Samsung S7 Edge phone as a gift on her birthday. Now she is sending me messages that her phone screen has some fault. She went to Samsung sales center and they asked for warranty paper or some invoice for this phone. She is asking me to give her warranty paper which I don't have. As phone is on my name under a plan with a telecommunication company, so I may have to go myself with her phone if I want to repair it.

She is calling me from last 3 days and sending continues messages which I ignored every single time. I don't want to break my no-contact rule.

Am I being an asshole by refusing to help her or should I just help her out on this occasion?

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07-15-2017 09:19 PM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
I don't think it's your problem any more.

Tell her you don't have the papers. I don't think that telling her that is outside of NC.

Surely she could pay to gt it fixed without the need for warranty papers. (Or buy a new phone)
07-15-2017 09:24 PM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
Without know any details of the break up or relationship, I can only say what'd I do with my last ex in this situation.

We ended things on good terms so I'd probably tell her to buy lunch and I'd go help out.

When we broke up, I moved out of state and she extended the lease at the place we were living. The internet was in my name and the cable company wouldn't let me switch it over to hers unless they disconnected service and reconnected it a week later. So I just kept it in my name and she set up auto-pay for it. I also had some mail that didn't get forwarded that she sent me as well as driving 2 hours to my parent's town to give me some things I had forgotten when I was home for Christmas.

Again, I can't really comment given on the little information you've given but if it were me I'd probably help her out.
07-15-2017 10:12 PM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
Depends entirely on the nature of your breakup. If it was a relatively mutual split then help her out.

If you came home and found her fucking a homeless man on your silk bedsheets then tell her to eat shit and die.

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07-15-2017 10:16 PM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
If she was out homeless on the street and she came to you begging for a ticket to be able to move in back with her parents, and you helped her, you'd be kind.

If you are going to fix her luxury items, you are being stupid. A person can live without a smart phone. You shouldn't be bothered by this.

If you want her to stop pestering you without violating 'no-contact' rules, you can ask someone else to pass on the message that you don't have any papers left for the phone.

You ask if you are being an asshole? I think she is the asshole for expecting her ex to look after her phone.

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07-16-2017 03:19 AM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
If you don't have the invoice then...you don't have the invoice. Tell her that. I would agree with other posters who said it's her phone and her problem now, only if it weren't for this little detail:

(07-15-2017 09:19 PM)Alick Wrote:  A year ago I gave her Samsung S7 Edge phone as a gift on her birthday. Now she is sending me messages that her phone screen has some fault. She went to Samsung sales center and they asked for warranty paper or some invoice for this phone. She is asking me to give her warranty paper which I don't have. As phone is on my name under a plan with a telecommunication company, so I may have to go myself with her phone if I want to repair it.

This is why you should never, ever buy expensive gifts to women. Not only because it's Beta, but also because you'll end up with a mess if you entangle yourself like you did by registering the phone on your name.
07-16-2017 03:45 AM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
Funny image, though.

I'm imagining some deadbeat bitch with barely a dime to her name sobbing over this incredible yet impotent portal into the world of selfie-media. Desperately praying to whatever THOT gods she worships to restore it to its former glory.

Some of these hoes...

I swear, you could run a pack of plates like a pimp with a bunch of iPhone7s that had remote access cutoff. The twisted shit a girl would do to keep access to her precious phone would probably make a seasoned drug dealer cringe.
07-16-2017 04:03 AM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
She's just trying to get into your life again...are you gonna let her? Also, why are you worried about 'being a dick' to someone who isn't a part of your life anymore?
07-16-2017 04:11 AM
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"Listen, baby. You and your S7 had some great times. Really. It was great while it lasted. But we both know there's no future for you with that S7 and it would be best for you and the phone if you parted ways...

You're a great gal, and I'm sure that you're going to find an even better phone in the fullness of time that will provide you with everything you want and need...

...in a phone."
07-16-2017 04:18 AM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
Seriously women will come up with all kinds of bullshit excuses for making contact, or just to get what they want. As even a semi game aware guy you should know exactly what the hell's going on here. Occam's razor....

Just be honest and say "I'm tempted to talk to my ex girlfriend again".
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07-16-2017 04:20 AM
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(07-16-2017 04:18 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  "Listen, baby. You and your S7 had some great times. Really. It was great while it lasted. But we both know there's no future for you with that S7 and it would be best for you and the phone if you parted ways...

You're a great gal, and I'm sure that you're going to find an even better phone in the fullness of time that will provide you with everything you want and need...

...in a phone."

Best reply...lol
07-16-2017 04:24 AM
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07-16-2017 04:24 AM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
Thanks everyone for input. As most of you suggested and what I was thinking; I don't need to respond to her. It's not my problem anymore. She can deal with a broken phone on her own. I know I don't want anything with her in future so don't want to open Pandora box by helping her this time.
07-16-2017 04:26 AM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
I'm curious. If your name is on the contract, does that mean you're the one paying for it? If she's paying for it, that means if she decides to stop paying, you're responsible for it. If that happens there's a risk to your credit score if bills don't get paid. Phone companies have way more legal power in Australia than they should have.

I agree with everyone else, it's not your responsibility to fix her phone. However, you've got to think about your own risks here. Depending on how hard it is to do it might be a good idea to transfer the contract over.
07-16-2017 07:15 AM
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RE: Would You help your ex GF
For such a bullshit reason, like a phone: No.

If the relationship was generally good and we just split, and if she really is in trouble, like getting sick or something: Yes.

So the answer is: It depends.
07-16-2017 07:28 AM
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I would use the opportunity to delink my name and other details from that phone, regardless of what that entails. Any phone registered in your name could, in the wrong hands, lead to all sorts of legal problems (at least where i live).

Let's try to avoid being too pedantic.

Breaking the NC rule is a small price to pay for avoiding future problems.
07-16-2017 09:45 AM
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Isnt the phone under your name?

So who pays the bill?

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07-16-2017 10:02 PM
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(07-16-2017 04:24 AM)weambulance Wrote:  [Image: 20a.jpg]

Maybe I'm alone here but to me the temptation to text an ex wasn't ever really coming from a place of horniness. More so loneliness.
07-16-2017 11:47 PM
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Yeah, she doesn't owe you anything, you don't owe her anything...

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If the roles were reversed, would you consider it reasonable for her to help you if you requested it?

Let that be your guide.
07-22-2017 09:27 PM
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I'd help an ex depending on the breakup.

There's a difference between catching her getting gang banged by a football team or mutually breaking up due to other reasons.
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