Post: #1

So..You know why im here , A person who have got approach anxiety. I was thinking about a new way to approach , but i don't know if that is going to work because of lack of experiences and approaches in general, And i need someone to lead me on. Rather than hitting on the girls directly , complimenting her, touching.. etc.. I would open her with im just up to making friends , I do X and Y , And im new to this area , and then reassure her with we are just going to be friends. I thought that it will be an easier way to get her number rather than hitting on her directly especially when im not that good in looks , and i can't make sure i could tune my voice in the right way , say the right thing, and probably she will flake 90% of the time. so instead im gonna just get her to think we are friends only and then after that try to change that 'friends thing' if I meet her again. So im thinking its just going to be a bait to see her again atleast and maybe I find later she is into me after a couple of texts , so things change, Or maybe things go wrong and she finds the 'friends thing' an excuse for me to not escalate. One of the questions I want to ask. Could that turn into something in the future ? I mean could it lead to us having sex ? or its impossible. Also if its gonna work better than hitting on her , throwing compliments why don't men usually do that.

Post: #2

So-called "snake seduction". Very unmanly. Actually, pathetic. Lack of understanding of man to a woman psychosexual dynamic?

Post: #3

I mean even if you understand her psychosexual dynamic and everything.. if you are not that good in terms of looks , or sexy enough for her , she will flake.

Post: #4

Don't put yourself in the friend zone strait up FFS.

Try online dating if you are scared of approaching and rejection.

Post: #5

I think you should start a "First 100 Approaches" thread or whatever. Don't worry about your looks, your only psyching yourself out. Gain some experience and try out a few different things (being direct or being indirect). You can report back here with actual experiences and other members can give you advice on what to work on.

Post: #6

(07-27-2017 07:29 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  Don't put yourself in the friend zone strait up FFS.

Try online dating if you are scared of approaching and rejection.

I made an account on tinder last week , added 3 of my best photos and swiped about 30 girls or whatever the max num of likes in an hour but I didn't get any match.. I think this will never work.

Post: #7

I need to try what I've just posted as soon as possible and see the result.

Post: #8

When talking to women you find attractive, don't hide your dick.

Post: #9

(07-27-2017 08:52 PM)Nick98 Wrote:  I need to try what I've just posted as soon as possible and see the result.

If from the beginning, you shoot yourself in the foot, by stating you're not a sexual being, you'll have EXTRA efforts to put on, when you'll try to come back from "gay friend" to "potential lover".

I think you should describe us multiple encounters you had with women, to see where it went wrong.
Maybe you scared the cat, by coming off too strong?
Maybe it was something totally different?

Post: #10

(07-28-2017 01:51 AM)Latan Wrote:  [quote='Nick98' pid='1619948' dateline='1501206728']
I need to try what I've just posted as soon as possible and see the result.

If from the beginning, you shoot yourself in the foot, by stating you're not a sexual being, you'll have EXTRA efforts to put on, when you'll try to come back from "gay friend" to "potential lover".

Isn't it better than the effort you put to approach more women and get rejected by all of them? I have mentioned in a post before that a girl who is bellow 5 lowered my self esteem because she rejected me. Approaching is a tough process for me. At the end you will get a girl to like you but think about it.. how many times you have to go out get rejected and move on. Specially for a guy like me who gives a fuck about everything. Not the type who walks and doesn't give a fuck whatever happens with a girl at all wich is way better. This shit is going to ruin my day. . You guys gave great advices but im waiting for an answer to the thread's question.

Post: #11

(07-27-2017 07:18 PM)Nick98 Wrote:  So..You know why im here , A person who have got approach anxiety. I was thinking about a new way to approach , but i don't know if that is going to work because of lack of experiences and approaches in general, And i need someone to lead me on. Rather than hitting on the girls directly , complimenting her, touching.. etc.. I would open her with im just up to making friends , I do X and Y , And im new to this area , and then reassure her with we are just going to be friends. I thought that it will be an easier way to get her number rather than hitting on her directly especially when im not that good in looks , and i can't make sure i could tune my voice in the right way , say the right thing, and probably she will flake 90% of the time. so instead im gonna just get her to think we are friends only and then after that try to change that 'friends thing' if I meet her again. So im thinking its just going to be a bait to see her again atleast and maybe I find later she is into me after a couple of texts , so things change, Or maybe things go wrong and she finds the 'friends thing' an excuse for me to not escalate. One of the questions I want to ask. Could that turn into something in the future ? I mean could it lead to us having sex ? or its impossible. Also if its gonna work better than hitting on her , throwing compliments why don't men usually do that.

Dont do that, it will most likely not lead to sex, probably just worse confidence.
If you want to approach the girls in the streets, start with baby steps.

At first, just find a girl you find attractive/cute and compliment her.
"Hello, i just wanted to say that i think you are very beautiful, have a good day, bye"
Do that a couple of times until it doesnt scare the crap out of you. Then do the same and take it a bit further. Maybe after you compliment her and she says thank you, you ask her about her day.
Continue to add until you are able to hold a short conversation and then ask for her number.
At least that worked for me, good luck.

Post: #12

Get in the habit of talking to random people you meet throughout your day. get it in your head that it is totally normal to be talking to people you don't know. You need to get good at having a good ramble, the way to do that is to practice.

Talk to the person next to you while you are waiting in line, or at the bus stop, or on the subway, or where ever. Be genuinely interested in what they are saying

Post: #13

No.







Personally I have only been friends with girls after I fucked them.

That is the only friend-zone that is good - or the one where you are utterly sexually uninterested in that person.

Post: #14

(07-28-2017 02:13 AM)Nick98 Wrote:  Isn't it better than the effort you put to approach more women and get rejected by all of them?

What is your end goal?
Preserving your own ego / image, or nailing women?

Putting yourself in the friend zone won't hurt your ego, as you won't get rejected.
But what's the point?

Rejection is part of the Game.

Post: #15

(07-27-2017 07:18 PM)Nick98 Wrote:  So..You know why im here , A person who have got approach anxiety. I was thinking about a new way to approach SNIP

There is no new way, just stand up, walk up to a girl a talk to her... It'll make your balls grow so big that you'll have to buy new pants

(07-27-2017 08:52 PM)Nick98 Wrote:  I need to try what I've just posted as soon as possible and see the result.

Nop, you should have tried and report, that's why we already know nothing productive will come out of this...

Hope things will go your way.

Post: #16

(07-27-2017 07:29 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  Don't put yourself in the friend zone strait up FFS.

Try online dating if you are scared of approaching and rejection.

This

Post: #17

Do you actually have friends? Why not social circle game while you work on your cold approaches.

Post: #18

A dude using friendship for sex

=

A chick using sex for friendship (a slut)


They're both kinda gross.