Post: #1

Before I jump into it, my plan is to post daily on my game, because practice makes perfect. This means that many - most, even - of these reports won't be exciting to read, but after some time, we'll be able to see my development, and hopefully the exercise won't only help me get better but it will also help other newbs relate to my experience.


5 August 2017

I went to a street party with a group of friends. Two single girls, my guy friend, me, and a couple.

Before the girl I like arrives, things are all plutonic, the girl there likes me, but she is the “shy” type. Anyway, we all enjoy ourselves. I do minor kino on the one single girl that is around (she showed interest all night, though).

In comes the other girl. We all continue to have fun and do some bar hopping. At the end of the night, it is me and this second girl all alone. We are just enjoying each other’s company. In hindsight, this was the point at which I should have escalated things physically, even if just slightly, but did not. There was no touching at all. In my mind, the moment to do it was just before we got into her car, but when the moment came, it would have been forced, so I didn’t.

She still agreed to meet me for drinks next Friday.


6 August 2017

Because in the city I live in there is very little going on from Sunday to Tuesday, I decided to just hit my local bar and see if I get to game the bartenders. I certainly don’t plan on cold approaching in places where I will be recognized, honestly because I don’t trust myself enough.

But nothing happened, the bartenders could hardly hear my order if I didn’t shout, and it was just awkward.

Post: #2

7 August 2017

As said before, not much happening today, but I went to a spot I go back to a few times. I’m a regular, but not so regular that everyone knows me there, and for some reason I relax there and have less difficulties approaching.

With that, as expected, the place was nearly empty (it is a club/lounge), so I approached the two approachable women there (other than them, there were a few couples). These were not quality women – one was fat, the other a butterface – but there was nothing else at the time. I start the conversation until I don’t want to interact anymore.

After a while, another couple walks in, and this beautiful Latina is with the guy. I introduce myself to the guy, the guy starts talking to his friend and I talk to the Latina, who lets me know that the guy there with her is “like her best friend”. I take this as a sign, obviously. Conversation is good, but then it gets boring, we start talking about our vocations. I like talking about plans for life, but most people don’t, and I remember hearing/reading somewhere that I need to make sure I steer the conversation towards something fun or exciting. Cutting to the chase, a few moments before she left, she jumped the gun and said goodbye, hoping I meet her around there some other time. I didn’t insist on getting her number. In hindsight, this was a bitch move. Even if I thought it would have been a no, I should have gone for it. Or maybe, at an earlier point even, when we were talking about the places she goes out in, I could have asked to share numbers so I could invite her out with my friends. But I didn’t, because I thought she would shut me down so it wouldn’t be worth even trying. Bitch move.

After that, came back to my area, went to my local bar. Sat next to a couple, the guy was a beer fanatic, we talked about beer. I keep checking out this particular bartender (a 6) but never feeling like there is an appropriate opportunity to strike a good conversation.

PS: *platonic, not plutonic. It's annoying me that I can't edit that post.

Post: #3

Good job man, keep at it and you will get more good.

Put your mind and body out there and you will feel it shift, bit by bit.

You miss a way to open this time, you will not miss it next time.

Beer talk is good. Any talk is good. Be the man who can talk about any thing.

Post: #4

8 August 2017

Went to a local club, which was pretty empty when I got there. However, it did pick up later on, and it seems as if it is a place with some activity – which is hard to find on a Tuesday here.

First girl I approached, I simply asked if she liked the music playing (because they were playing stuff I particularly like). Conversation got going for a bit, then she excused herself to the toilets. I went to talk to the DJ, hung out at the DJ booth. A little after the same girl came back, I went back to her. Got talking for a bit, she went inside with her friend. So I left her for the rest of the night.

Brief bant with the girl bartender, then I just talked to a couple of dudes. Went inside, took a piss, then I saw a phat Latina in a group. Approached – “how are you? Enjoying your night?” and just whatever came to mind – she turns her head, then leaves to the other side of her group.

So, I am a lot less fearful of approaching than I was just even a month ago. There was this couple of girls that were out in the open that I didn’t approach, because I felt as if everyone would see me fail if I did. I say that to highlight the fact that I still give too much of a fuck, but I am okay with it, only because I am making progress in getting rid of those fucks to give as well.

Two legitimate approaches in about fifty minutes. Probably could have done better if I pushed myself, but I had fun and I am okay with how things went.

Question for anyone willing to answer, but first the preface: that second girl that flat out rejected me smiled at first, and sort of gave me a chance, and then rejected me. Yes she was a bitch towards me, so how do you deal with that? As in, what chance would I have had to have kept her interested beyond the first contact?

Post: #5

Stop being the talking monkey.

For the next week, tell 7 women that you like them without speaking a word to them. You can use your smile, eyes, or lips. There can be no question in their mind that if given the chance, you would bend them over in their chair and fuck them right there and right now. If they don't get this impression, it doesn't count. If they don't smile back at you, it doesn't count -- fix your smile and stop being creepy.

Consider this your first and most important lesson on what matters and what doesn't. It will take some time and confidence to master this, but this will put you in a whole different level that verbal game will never be able to.

Post: #6

Roger on the task. Will I just know that they will get the impression that I'd fuck them right then?

I wonder what makes you say my smile is creepy, though.

Post: #7

A lot less activity on a Wednesday than I expected. I did two approaches in about hour and a half, which I am disappointed with.

First bar, no women except in couples. I don’t have the kind of game to steal a woman on the spot.

Go to another bar, sit next to a girl, small talk, but nothing comes of it (turns out she was with some guy). This is where being able to talk to the bartenders will start to come off handy. I don’t know how to without being awkward. There was also a pair of girls talking by themselves, which I should most definitely have approached. This is one of those open spaces bars, and it intimidates me – which clearly means I have to make more approaches in open space bars from now on.

Which reminds me, I left this second bar without doing what LINUX told me to do. I have no problem making eye contact, but I keep a deadpan face, which doesn’t exactly shout “fuck me now”.

Anyway, third bar was a sausage fest.

Fourth bar, this is now past the hour mark, three girls walk in. I approach the girl, doing what LINUX told me to do, getting the smile, starting conversation, but I don’t stay for very long. Found out it was her birthday, she was smiling, but I didn’t bring excitement or arousal to the conversation, so I bounced.

Which is something that annoys me about myself, and a big reason why I want to get good at this thing: I don’t have that killer instinct to get what I want, and I need to cultivate it.

Post: #8

10 August 2017

First approach, girl sitting and eating on her own. She wasn’t against speaking with me, but she was not very receptive, because her boyfriend was lingering around. Nothing came of it.

Went to another bar that, for reasons unknown, never fails to have approachable hot girls around. So I approached these two girls, because one of them was eyeing me as soon as I walked in. I got my drink, spent some time with them. One was engaged to get married, the other mentioned her boyfriend three times. I think that with better game, I could have pulled this other girl, she was my type and everything, and she gave enough IOIs to show she was attracted to me. I just don’t know how to make it happen like that yet. I did ask for her number, she said she couldn’t give it to me.

Oh, and the engaged girl absolutely gave me the smile, like LINUX asked.

Post: #9

11 August 2017

Went on that date with that girl that I did not escalate with last Saturday. This time, there was kissing and touching, but I couldn’t persuade her to come back with me. She is definitely the good girl type – I say that not to say that she is a Good Girl™, but that she presented challenges I did not know how to overcome (I am still new to game proper). I am definitely seeing her again, though, and I feel like I just have to not fuck it up.

Not much to say else here, the night went well. I can go into more detail if anyone reading this feels like there is something I should be mentioning. I suppose I should mention that I did quite a bit of venue changing. We did about four venues in four hours.

Post: #10

(08-12-2017 02:05 AM)Kapanda Wrote:  11 August 2017

Went on that date with that girl that I did not escalate with last Saturday. This time, there was kissing and touching, but I couldn’t persuade her to come back with me. She is definitely the good girl type – I say that not to say that she is a Good Girl™, but that she presented challenges I did not know how to overcome (I am still new to game proper). I am definitely seeing her again, though, and I feel like I just have to not fuck it up.

There are no good girls. Kill that idea in your mind.

The only thing this means is that you need to open more women. The more you open, the more you will learn.

No man truly wants a good girl, they want a girl that will be a slut only for them. But a girl will only be a slut for a man that earns it. Be that man.

Post: #11

12 August 2017

Something sort of weird happened today.

I did my first approach, a group of four that was part of a group of about 8, or something, there for a guy’s birthday. Started talking, went okay, not great. The girl that took most interest in me turned away, left me there sort of as an island, got awkward, walked away.

Did my second approach, the girl was in there with her boyfriend.

Hopped to another venue, and the weird part is that I got approach anxiety like I did in my first few approaches ever. In hindsight, I think it is because some of the girls from the first venue were there as well, so that threw me off, and I think I started to feel as if I would get judged.

Tried to see if a venue change would help. Went elsewhere, made one other approach where girl gave me a strong IOI. Didn’t really go anywhere.

Then my hour was up, so I came home.

I didn’t feel like going out tonight to start with. Then, when I got massive anxiety issues, things just didn’t go my way. I feel as if I let myself down.

Post: #12

(08-12-2017 05:19 PM)WilliamDoor Wrote:  There are no good girls. Kill that idea in your mind.

The only thing this means is that you need to open more women. The more you open, the more you will learn.

And I said as much.

Kapanda Wrote:I say that not to say that she is a Good Girl™, but that she presented challenges I did not know how to overcome (I am still new to game proper).

Post: #13

Come to think of it, my problem this last night was the weakness in my approaches. I was almost asking for permission to talk to these girls - not verbally, but in my demeanor.

Post: #14

^Body language is key. Put off a strong vibe with standing tall, shoulders back. Your confidence will continue to grow. Stay positive and keep up the good work. Keep us posted.

Post: #15

Because of certain priorities that I have left unattended, I decided not to go out much this week - possibly Friday only. I engaged in this gaming journey with the lofty hopes of gaming at least an hour a day every single day, and I am already stumbling. But I will pick myself back up, and be more disciplined moving forward so this does not happen again.

It has only been a week, but I am already very grateful for the attention and feedback you guys have afforded me.

Post: #16

The whole 'no gaming for a week' went to shits really quick. I have been doing some gaming, just not going out to meet women as I have been planning on doing.

I just had a girl in my bed, there was touching, but no kissing. I tried a few times different ways, but I didn't get through to her. She was comfortable to the degree that she was in my arms, I could light kiss her arm, embrace her and stroke her, but nothing further came of it. I don't even feel mad about it. I went for it as best as I knew how to.

I will get back to proper reporting tomorrow.

Post: #17

So, I live in Houston. Floods were happening, so everything has been shut down for a while (plus, life happened before that, but I am conscientious that I have to prioritize game, if I am serious about getting good at it).

Today was the first day out for me, though yesterday places started to open (which I was not expecting).

Went to meet some friends out for some drinks, ran into two Brazilian girls speaking portuguese, so I busted out my skilz, got their number.

One is sexy, the other is not. My plan is to contact only the attractive one. Is this the right approach?

Went to another bar, made two more approaches. One went into conversation, the other went nowhere. Neither one went too deep. I have this tendency to act a little timid, which kills attraction. Like before, I was given a good chance, but I just wasn't making anything happen. I wasn't too pissed at myself, because I am trying to implement new habits, which takes time, but I did notice this tendency of mine. Another one, which I catch myself doing away with, is putting my hands in my pockets. I do that all the time, it shrinks my physical frame, and it feels weak. Throwing that aside as well, and getting comfortable with standing with my hands at my sides.

Then, this chubby chick came to our small gathering, and me, being horny as fuck, tried to game her too. Her man was right there, so nothing came of it.

Then I came home.

Post: #18

(08-31-2017 01:37 AM)Kapanda Wrote:  One is sexy, the other is not. My plan is to contact only the attractive one. Is this the right approach?

How can it not be? The alternatives; don't make any contact or contact the ugly one.

Post: #19

Or contact both

Post: #20

I went out to see if I could get some action going. Ran into a friend that was in a big group with a few girls. I thought we were set to get it going, but he introduced me to some of his guy friends, and that was that. Then he seemed adamant in having one-on-one convos with me.

Got chatting a bit with my local bartender, which should make things less awkward when I next see her. She has a big ass.

Post: #21

The girl who I went on a date with, we were supposed to go out last Friday when the hurricane hit. Didn't happen, so I tried to get her out this weekend, she first delayed answering, and when I pressed her she declined. Clearly, she is fucking someone else.

And I know that this is because my behavior is too docile, not forthcoming of a man. This is what I need to work on the most.

Post: #22

3 approaches in about an hour again, seems to be the sweet spot.

First girl, she was talking to the bartender, I just sat right next to her. We started talking. Cute, she also bartends(is this a word?) down the street to where we were. A weird thing happened: the bartender she was talking to went around the counter to pull her away from me. That was a first. Got the vibe he doesn't like me. He also seems gay.

Second girl was the bartender. Nothing was happening there. Third was a couple of girls, which I just approached, but I didn't follow through. They were in their own world.

My understanding is that Houston will be significantly less lively due to the hurricane aftermath. A place that is usually to busy for a bartender to give a fuck about what I am doing had just about a handful of patrons this time around. Can't let it knock me off my game, though.

Post: #23

Another thing I should note is that there were two approaches I chickened out of. One was a group of what seemed to be three teenagers walking towards my general direction, and another was a couple of girls talking inside this coffee place that I saw as I was walking past. I could have gone in and approached, but I felt afraid.

Post: #24

Was out with a buddy today, went to the first place, approached a girl, she was there with her boyfriend. Second girl, whatever. Third approach was a group, I opened, we had a conversation, but I felt like the girl I was into was not into me. I bounced. Second place, the first approach I made, the girl was nervous. The second time I had a chance to talk to her, she was somewhat unresponsive, and her friend signaled to the negative. My question: should I have continued gaming her? She was clearly attracted to me.

That was not even the worst of it (though I bet to the experienced crowd, they have heard this sort of thing more times than they have dollars in the bank). My second approach in this other place was to a girl that was right up my alley. Cute, curvy, beautiful smile, and fantastic conversationalist. She had an educated opinion on everything I mentioned (she even knew people who had graduated from the same program I am studying). My friend was already telling me that if he needs to catch an Uber, he would be totally cool with it. On the ride back, he told me how receptive she was being, etc. Anyway, I left to go to the toilets, and when I had returned, they were not there. I usually like NOT telling someone that I am going to the toilets, because it is a clear show of interest if they are there when I return. Come to think of it, my big mistake was not telling her that I was just going to the toilets. I fucked up.

Now I'm back home with blue balls. It sucks because I was particularly interested in this girl. Fuck.

Anyway, I did a third approach in this second place, to these two young girls, one was attracted to me, but it just wasn't working. Really, it was mostly because my mind was on that previous girl.

And in the first place I went to, I saw a bartender from another place I used to frequent that shut down. Actually, she saw me and came up to me, then told me that she now works at this other place. Definitely chasing this lead some time later on.

Post: #25

I haven't posted the last few days, not because nothing has happened, but because nothing of note has happened. The most notable thing that happened was a girl who gave me her number on... Sunday?... said she was available today then canceled on me. It was a weak number to begin with, she probably gave it to me because she was physically attracted to me.

Monday was a gathering of graduates at my school, and I purposefully restrained myself so not to start any damaging reputation. I still approached whoever I felt attracted to. There was this girl who gave me the eye, I approached, but I let it run cold towards the end of the interaction. One other girl asked me for my number.

Today, went out on my own again - my preferred method - and I was talking to this woman who was somewhere in her early thirties. Has a boyfriend. The way we got talking was by second introduction from another stranger, which warmed thngs up well.

Anyway, I suck at this thing, I am aware. But I am really enjoying this, more than I have enjoyed anything else in recent memory. All of this is just so absolutely enthralling: the rush you get from facing your fears, the highs from recognizing attraction, recognizing mistakes and correcting them, recognizing good moves and incorporating them further... I tell you what, it's been about a month and a half since I last had sex, so this may be a time bias presenting itself, but running game has got me more excited than the last few times I banged. As I think to myself about this, I am realizing that this is more a critique on the quality of women I have been banging than anything else. There was this one girl that I let slip through my hands, we banged a few times and she would get me hard on sight. That was definitely more exciting than game itself.

I am actually a little worried that I am enjoying this process too much, because I have always thought I would start a family at some point. Who knows, maybe once I get proficient at this, I will get bored and settle down. But if my passion for game doesn't wither away at some point, I don't see how I will be starting a family at all.