Post: #1

Just wondering.

How important do you think it is for a guy to give off an intimidating presence if he wants to pick up girls? Seems like it would help a lot.

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Post: #2

I reckon it would depend very much on what kind of 'intimidation' it is. You do not want to lose potential gravitas by acting like an aggressive fool. The best combination is to be intimidating, look intimidating, but then tone it down, bring some sugar into it when talking to women. Super-charged authority and gravitas.

Post: #3

I'm 6'6, 265lbs. Many people do double takes when I go out. Since my weight gain, I've had a bunch of women approach and ask me if I'm a pro athlete.

Some of the women I've talked to do mention the intimidation factor. I bring in self-deprecating humor to plow through it.

If a woman sees a man that has a very big human presence, intimidation sets in very quick.

I've had women tell me that I'm "a super big person." Some shut down immediately while a few are intrigued. The self deprecating humor works because they see me as a person that is invulnerable to pain.

Once they see I can make fun of myself, they will open up because they see a vulnerable side.

Post: #4

(09-23-2017 09:41 PM)Remington Wrote:  I'm 6'6, 265lbs. Many people do double takes when I go out. Since my weight gain, I've had a bunch of women approach and ask me if I'm a pro athlete.

Some of the women I've talked to do mention the intimidation factor. I bring in self-deprecating humor to plow through it.

If a woman sees a man that has a very big human presence, intimidation sets in very quick.

I've had women tell me that I'm "a super big person." Some shut down immediately while a few are intrigued. The self deprecating humor works because they see me as a person that is invulnerable to pain.

Once they see I can make fun of myself, they will open up because they see a vulnerable side.

How did you gain weight?

Post: #5

(09-23-2017 09:48 PM)Moma Wrote:  How did you gain weight?

I lift 4x a week. My diet consisted of the following:

Breakfast:1 cup plain greek yogurt, 1/2 cup dry traditional quaker oatmeal, teaspoon of honey, 1 cup greek yogurt to mix together. Delicious.

Lunch: 3 peanut butter sandwiches, snack bag full of carrots, banana.

Hour after workout and before dnner: Protein Shake and supplements. Magnesium Citrate, Optizinc, L-Arginine, and Fish Oil

Dinner: 1 Chicken breast, half bag green beans (bought at grocery store, metrics undetermined)

I felt like I didn't eat as much as I should, but I gained weight. Gained 15lbs in 3 months just from the diet.

Post: #6

^^

That sounds like a weight loss diet.

How many beers you doing...that's what adds to the weight.

Post: #7

If men fear you, women will love you. Simple as that.

Post: #8

Generally, unless you are so damn intimidating that no one speaks to you, it's never bad to look tough and masculine.

Post: #9

(09-23-2017 11:44 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Generally, unless you are so damn intimidating that no one speaks to you, it's never bad to look tough and masculine.

Well even Mike Tyson got pussy so I don't think the upper limit is worth worrying about.

Post: #10

Depends what TYPE of women you are going for....

Some women like dangerous men, others like comfort and safety.

Post: #11

(09-24-2017 12:06 AM)Steelex Wrote:  

(09-23-2017 11:44 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Generally, unless you are so damn intimidating that no one speaks to you, it's never bad to look tough and masculine.

Well even Mike Tyson got pussy so I don't think the upper limit is worth worrying about.

Well, when you're the Heavyweight Champion getting pussy is no challenge at all.

Post: #12

I think it's pretty rare for a girl to be sexually attracted to you if you're not in some way making her a little scared. The exceptions are leverage(fame, looks, status, money).

Post: #13

Part of it is not directing yourself physically toward her.

This is a deeply ingrained instinct in most of the animal kingdom. When two people meet then the weaker of the two will immediately attempt to determine first and foremost whether the person approaching them is a threat. This is done subconsciously at very least. A physically direct approach is also a threatening approach.

As with dogs, if you talk to them verbally but ignore them with your body language then they'll immediately feel more comfortable in your presence. This is achieved by facing bodily in another direction while turning your head to address them directly when required.

This allows them to feel comfortable that you're not a threat while you establish rapport. If you were a threat (or considered them a threat, inferring the possibility of violence) then you wouldn't ignore them physically.

This technique even allows you to find yourself on better terms with weaker males after a first meeting, which might not seem immediately relevant yet since it's often physically weaker males that determine our employment status then this technique can be a job-saver for jacked guys that often get hostile responses from beta male bosses.

Post: #14

who cares about size, guy with game gets girl

Post: #15

It's not that important. It's effective in the sense that girls look at how people react to you, and it is indeed one way to have people reacting to you. However it's far more effective to be the fun guy than the intimidating guy.

If you go out a lot, you get to know who is who around nightlife and there a lot of real criminals around because there's money to be made. These types are genuinely intimidating, not necessarily due to size or anything like that, they just have an aura. These people know everyone and have always got girls around them. Muscles and a scowl won't do that for you though.

Post: #16

Looks. Money. Status.

Post: #17

(09-23-2017 10:49 PM)Cane Toad Wrote:  ^^

That sounds like a weight loss diet.

How many beers you doing...that's what adds to the weight.

I have 3 beers on Friday, 3 beers on Saturday, and a cheat meal on Saturday for dinner. Usually consists of a full pizza or a ton of buffalo wings.

Post: #18

Remington, it sounds like you're really committed to fitness. I'm not sure if you have any symptoms of IBS or digestive issues but the wheat in your diet is going to wreck your gut health over time. I could do it through my 20s but by mid/late-30s I really suffered. My blood type is O and I'm not designed for agriculture-based foods. Even other types (A, B, AB) will suffer due to the highly modified forms of modern wheat.

You might check out "Wheat: The UN-healthy whole grain" on YT, a lecture from Dr. William Davis MD.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UbBURnqYVzw

And a shorter video:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pV-wbEEYcS4

Plus a broader video on 12 bad foods to avoid:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9WCzq-a1z7A

Post: #19

I have some expertise to offer. I used to look quite intimidating, partly due to factors outside of my control, partly due to choices in appearance. The biggest reason why I started picking up 3-4 girls a week during the night was that I made myself look less intimidating.

Bear in mind I’m not some professional athlete or some street fighter. I’m a normal looking dude. Except that I can come across as too intense

Looking intimidating is not useful at all. A woman needs to trust you. Looking strong and being capable is good and builds attraction. But you need to balance it with the right social skills, and that includes body language and your appearance.

This doesn’t apply when a slut is ovulating. But that’s 12 hours out of the month. I have gotten quite a few of those, they tend to seek me out. Getting a girlfriend that way is impossible because after her ovulation she wants someone less intense.

Hope this helps.

Post: #20

(09-24-2017 05:23 AM)burncushlikewood Wrote:  who cares about size, guy with game gets girl

Point of game is often to give yourself an "edgy" vibe, which is mildly scary

Post: #21

I think being unintimidatED is better than being intimidating.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #22

^this.

If something happens or someone gives you shit and you can just stay calm and stoic a little bit longer then most guys.. that works wonders with girls. It makes them feel like you’re in charge and that is what gets them off.

Post: #23

(09-24-2017 03:12 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  I think being unintimidatED is better than being intimidating.

Post: #24

Girls in the East seem to love us English guys because we are softer and funnier than their usual male stock. Denim shorts, black t shirt, shaved head and death stare might not be so attractive.

Post: #25

I would say it depends on your look. Sure, if you're that big ramy muscle machine type or better than average looking intimidating is congruent with your image and adds to it

But an intimidating beta/average guy might give off more of the "who does this guy think he is?" kinda reaction from chicks.

Similar example to grasp - Think of a cocky attitude on an alpha athlete vs on an intellectual nerd/more average looking guy - same attitude, different reaction.