Post: #1

I have a girl that I know for a couple of years now and we've been seeing each other for a couple of months now.

For the sake of the argument lets say that I already correctly established that she's relationship material so that I don't have to explain in the details my reasons for that.

She's pushing that she wants to be in a exclusive relationship or that this doesn't make any sense for her since she doesn't want just casual relationship. Since I know her for a couple of years I know from experience that she really acted like this in the past with other men and I entered in this whole situation knowingly that she would want this.

I personally want to be in a relationship too and the next move towards that, in my opinion and understanding of the situation, is to explain to her some adjustments to her behaviour she would need to do so that she could fit in my in my social life, my family and work in a way that I want to. More or less I want to explain that we need to work as a team in this relationship and if she's not ok with that that she's out of the game in two seconds.

I personally think that she is and that she will be more than willing to do so that is the only reason I even consider telling her this. I think the grounds of any healthy relationship should be brought from ground up, and not the other way around and this would be my way of saying this.

In a nutshell, I want to hear your opinion on this matter and some experiences you had with this type of scenario.

Post: #2

I dont think you need to say anything at all. Just show her a good time. Keep it light and fun. Put on your best performance. In fact, dont say anything at all, and take it really slow. A girl only really has the right to ask for exclusivity, when you are having sex. Before that, no way. If she asks, after you have sex, then yes, comply. And if you want to keep her, truly comply. For now, this is the romance phase. Just have fun, and show her a really good time. And don't talk endlessly about yourself, hold your cards close to your chest. This will drive her nuts and drive up her interest in you. Show your boundaries too.

Post: #3

Vaun already made some great points. The only thing I'd add is maybe make an effort to get to know her friend circle in the early phases, in case you haven't already.

Relationships are not always smooth, and her close friends are the folks she'll turn to for advice during the rough times. Knowing her close friends will give you an approximate picture of what to expect from her.

Post: #4

I would advice to state your expectations clearly beforehand. Just basic things about your lifestyle, free time, habits and everything important to you that relates to sharing life with different person. Even simple stuff (for example, eating lots of meat, no pets in house, no smoking, etc)

Better state it now and enter relationship on your terms than to negotiate later fighting for power.

Post: #5

I want to suggest that apart from not saying anything, don't give your word on commitment.
Let her "deduce" it on her own.
Women love to chase the uncertain alpha.

Also
Make "regular days" - days which the date is implied (Friday/Saturday and mid week).

Good luck