Post: #1

I've been on NoFap for over 45 days. My balls are heavy and I'm horny but can't approach. I've not been approaching for a while and I think I got rusty.

I went out today and I couldn't even say shit. I was too paralyzed to utter a damn word. I feel schoolwork has regressed me back to being a beta.

I've read Roosh's segment on dealing with approach anxiety and I still can't do it.

Any suggestions?

Post: #2

(11-13-2017 10:11 AM)Stonk Wrote:  I've been on NoFap for over 45 days. My balls are heavy and I'm horny but can't approach. I've not been approaching for a while and I think I got rusty.

I went out today and I couldn't even say shit. I was too paralyzed to utter a damn word. I feel schoolwork has regressed me back to being a beta.

I've read Roosh's segment on dealing with approach anxiety and I still can't do it.

Any suggestions?

Start small - but you MUST take some type of action. Today.

Post: #3

Do you have friends?

How old are you?

Do you go out?

Some context might help.

Post: #4

Yes, try reading some of the old threads from the start, like the approach thread.

Try talking to EVERYONE you meet, to just be friendly and get it in your head that it's normal to talk to people you don't know.

I ask for directions a lot running around New York, and sometimes use it as an opener.

You're in college? plenty of co eds around to talk to after class or before class, or anywhere where there is women.

Post: #5

(11-13-2017 10:11 AM)Stonk Wrote:  I've been on NoFap for over 45 days. My balls are heavy and I'm horny but can't approach. I've not been approaching for a while and I think I got rusty.

I went out today and I couldn't even say shit. I was too paralyzed to utter a damn word. I feel schoolwork has regressed me back to being a beta.

I've read Roosh's segment on dealing with approach anxiety and I still can't do it.

Any suggestions?

The above posters have already made some great suggestions.
I think that because you're putting so much emphasis on getting laid, it is causing you to be super-critical about taking the "correct" approach, hence the freezing you're experiencing, IMO.

I think the way forward is to focus on something that'll get you into an environment that'll have you interact spontaneously with women instead of having to cold approach. Maybe you could join coed groups for activities you enjoy, or even start taking dancing lessons. These things will get you more comfortable talking to everyone, including women.

Post: #6

Thanks for the suggestion guys.

@Heavy.

I have friends. But don't hangout much with them. Most are not in my mental percentile and think like babies.

I'm 18.

I got out.

Post: #7

Also, I have another question.

Other than Roosh's 'Pet shop' opener, is there another cool opener for street game. Where I stay, there are zero pet shops.

Post: #8

As I’m sure other better repped posters will say, if there are no pets shops pick something else! Use your imagination and your local knowledge to pick something that can follow a similar script. While I understand you’re new at this you need to be able to extrapolate and use your creativity a little if you want to be successful with women, reciting a script you read somewhere on line is not going to get you laid. Your smile, feigned confidence and presence will all you need is a way to engage your prey in conversation that seems halfway plausible.

The best of luck!

Post: #9

Good points guys made but if you think the pressure is high and you won't get anybody soon, bang a hooker to discharge your balls before you seduce a girl yourself (I know this is not the best solution but in better temporary solution than going back to wanking).

Post: #10

If I went 45 days without jerking off, I’d feel paralyzed too.

Post: #11

@Musampa.

Banging hookers is not for me. I never want to pay for sex.

Post: #12

@Linux.

Will wanking relieve me of the pressure?

Post: #13

(11-14-2017 08:54 AM)musampa Wrote:  Good points guys made but if you think the pressure is high and you won't get anybody soon, bang a hooker to discharge your balls before you seduce a girl yourself (I know this is not the best solution but in better temporary solution than going back to wanking).

We don't advocate P4P on this forum.

Post: #14

(11-14-2017 10:33 AM)Stonk Wrote:  @Musampa.

Banging hookers is not for me. I never want to pay for sex.

I'm in a very similiar situation and at the same age but i'm on day 9 not 45. Good thinking, I nearly banged a €35 street hooker whilst drunk in Madrid but I knew deep down inside that it is not the solution to problems and I would have regretted it greatly. Read the forum and apply it everyday man, I had a girl in my bed last week just using what I read here (game is definitely real) - i'm still struggling with girls but I am miles ahead of where I used to be. Wherever you are make social connections, appear high value in real life and social media (for us teens a good instagram is a massive gateway, seriously, don't undervalue it) post things for girls to see which make you feel like a boss, hit the gym, look sharper than most dudes, get yourself a wingman, eat good. Use this tension which you have from nofap and transfer it to good use and keep nofap up.

Post: #15

Whats the importance of the worst she could do if shes not feeling your rap? My guess is jack shit. Youre more dangerous to her than she could ever be to you. Now go swoop that slut!

Post: #16

Although I haven’t been “gaming” lately, per se, I always look to the environment to start a convo just to keep my skills sharp. I have zero anxiety when I do it this way. For example, cute girl in front of me at Starbucks orders tea then I say, “is that flavor any good? What does it taste like? I’m coffeed out. Etc etc.” Ooening on props and situations are quite easy for me and should be for you too. Go strike up a convo w an old lady to start with if hats what it takes to get your brain in gear. Have u read day bang? Good book. Then let the interesting things slip out about you during the convo. If she asks you questions then take it up a notch “hey great talking w you. Wish we could chat but I gotta go. Give me your number and let’s grab coffee later” get a drink whatever. It doesn’t matter. I had a younger cutie give me her business card doing this a few weeks ago and I was seriously just practicing. Didn’t put much into it. The good news is that you’re showing up and taking swings at the ball so to speak. Don’t stop. Then you won’t get laid for sure. Go get a handie from the Asian spa and regroup. Blow a load. I know other might not agree but that’s just my two cents. Then show up again and keep going. You’ll figure it out man.

Post: #17

I don't think the intent of nofap is to have your balls burst and to be depressed.

I think it's more about not wasting energy and being testosterone up for the hunt.

For fucks sake get the load of dirty water off your chest and then resume gaming.

Post: #18

If you read the no fap thread you’ll see this kind of thing come up a lot. Guys on no fap will often if not always see their no fap glow disappear and hit a “flatline” of general low libido and lack of motivation.

Good news is it’s temporary and you hit an even stronger glow once it’s over.

There are things you can do to get over that flatline easier. First is sex.

How much ass are you currently getting?

Also, I’ve had some limited success using Victor Pride’s Red-PCT test booster (because as I understand it the flatline comes from your body starting a temporary decrease in testosterone in response to a lack of stimulation that evens out afterwards—think of it like price correction in bitcoinland). Red-PCT is meant to treat hormonal imbalance from post-cycle, and I’ve used it during flatlines and it’s helped a small bit.

But recently I’ve gotten into ionized zinc, which I feel is way superior to normal zinc supplementation because of the increased bioavailability. The ionized shit feels much better in my experience.

If it’s not a flatline you’re feeling and is simply life’s stresses getting to you, refer to the above posts. But definitely read more of the no fap thread and see if that’s what’s afflicting you.

Post: #19

(11-14-2017 09:31 AM)LINUX Wrote:  If I went 45 days without jerking off, I’d feel paralyzed too.

The guys going around touting no fap as some kind of panacea for any and all ailments men suffer need to have their fucking heads checked.

Post: #20

(11-17-2017 04:57 PM)Rhyme or Reason Wrote:  

(11-14-2017 09:31 AM)LINUX Wrote:  If I went 45 days without jerking off, I’d feel paralyzed too.

The guys going around touting no fap as some kind of panacea for any and all ailments men suffer need to have their fucking heads checked.

Right on. I always found their pov to be fanatical. Good intentions-- masturbation as a the only outlet for a man's sexual energies diminishes his personal power and makes for a weak man. But there's nothing wrong per se with masturbating in general.

Post: #21

Haven't been approaching? Man the fuck up and go get rejected immediately. Just go talk to people.
Have a beer first if you need to.

(The NoFap thing is a distraction IMO)