Post: #1

I often bring up sex with women I date. But I've read from several users on here with a high post count that one should "never sexualize a conversation, but wait for the woman to do this".

Do you agree with this? Why/why not? Doesn't this seem like a great way to get friend zoned? What is the alternative, just talk normally about your job etc and then lead her to sex physically? I do that sometimes too. Just haven't reflected over this since now.

Post: #2

I dont think its black or white.
A girl told me in a bar if I wanted to date her bla bla bla and I just said no,I just want to take you to my place and fuck you -- got the bang
With that being said if you told a newbie that and he'd just think "tell them you want to fuck them thats all" and thats how you get drinks thrown in your face.

There are alot of subtle nuances that goes into play in every interaction. Is it the first veniue? Have you tried light touches on her forearms etc and how did she react?
Hopefully you do not take out hardcore feminists out on dates and dont be afraid to call off dates if she gives hostile vibes.

Do things gradually to test the waters and its good to throw in a mix between sexual/humor. It wont do you no good to talk to her like its your coworker and cockblock yourself

Post: #3

If she's physically attracted to you, she'll usually do at least enough for you to get the conversation sexual.

However, you can't meet a girl for the first time who is on the fence about you and be like "My cock would just look fantastic in your mouth. I can see you gazing up at me right now, begging for another load" before she's ordered her first mojito.

Often it comes down to "good looking guy" privilege. When a good looking guy does or says something that's inappropriate, it's "funny" or "sweet" or "boys will be boys." When Johnny Fatso does the same thing, it's "creepy."

This is what Mystery refers to as "calibration." As your game gets better, so will your instincts. Some girls react really well to sexual comments, some don't. Pick up on queues as the night goes on and she's gotten a few drinks in her. It depends on the girl and how sexually attracted she is to you.

Personally, I never go too sexual, not even in LTRs. It's just not congruent with my personality. I might make a sexual joke here and there, but it won't be too overt. I've found that, especially in LTRs, women find that challenging, and often I'll get unsolicited sexual texts and nudies. For some reason, my lukewarm, ambiguous, lighthearted responses tend to ensure they're at my house a half hour later, naked and on their knees.

"Babe, I got new lingerie."
[Nudie]
"cool, it will look good on my floor"

In any event, there's no real "right" answer to this question, other than it depends on your personality, her personality, and your ability to understand social queues.

Post: #4

Also, my favorite interaction this week...

Hank: "This is a cool building. It was owned by [some family], and then in the 20s it became a brothel. The feds shut it down, and now it's a restaurant with a speakeasy. Sort of makes me want to order the clams... be a part of history, you know?"
Plate: "I haven't had sex since March."
Hank: "Waiter? I'll grab our check."

Post: #5

Yes, calibration is key, with the shy girls you've got to work up to it, a light sexual joke once she's comfortable and gauge the reaction, other girls will be giving you the 'fuck me' eyes from the jump so then you can go full-on dominance and start getting her wet then and there if that's your style.

Post: #6

Dependent on the situation of course, but I don't think it's a significant variable in getting the lay.

Post: #7

Voted yes, but don’t be a fumbling idiot. You have to be smooth. Then there are the guys I’ve known that walk up to every chick and open with “wanna fuck?”.

Post: #8

This is where experience comes into play. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Depends on the situation man.

You gotta have a bit of an instinct to really do well at this shit.