Post: #1

So, I had a date set up with a girl I met on tinder for to night. About 1 one hour before our date she text me this ( translated)

Hi! I didn't want to do this, but I have no choice.. Looks like I caugth the flu? I was hoping it was just morningsickness, but the fever tells something else? I really hope we can meet some other time.

Xxxxxxxx My dissappointment response.


I really hope that you would give me a chance, and meet me when I'm healthy again. It was absolutely not my intent to do this too you.

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I've never had this shit happen before. My flakes have been the morning before or days.

Post: #2

There's nothing to do, move on.

Post: #3

The worst thing was that I was on my way, and sober.
I don't predrink before dates. Ended up going out and had shitty night due not being amped up on some booze and music before.

Post: #4

Morning sickness?
Why get involved with pregnant chicks?

There's nothing to do, move on.
She might come back but seriously after that, who cares.

Post: #5

Think I'll give it another go, but I'll make plans like I was rolling solo or doing whatever.
What draws me to this girl, is that she looks like gf material. Her face isn't coated in make up, no nasty dyed hair, disgusting piercings, no tattoos.
She's a village girl, from a good family and 21yo (I'll be 27 this year)

Post: #6

just hit her up again in a week.

Quote:I really hope we can meet some other time.

Quote:I really hope that you would give me a chance, and meet me when I'm healthy again. It was absolutely not my intent to do this too you.

When girls have flaked on me (and meant it), they don't suggest we try meeting up again. A real flake (not interested anymore) response is either no text response whatsoever or BS excuse and that's it.

Post: #7

Good points made. But the real stinger is the time of cancelation. Could it be a shit test, to see if I would go ballistic.
My reply translated:

"Oh well, I'm already on my way. I'll do something else then."

Post: #8

Nordic player if you were spinning plates (not necessarily having sex with multiple women) and had various diversified interests, your ‘what do I do now’ question would be obsolete.

Post: #9

Always have a back up plan for the evening. That’s what I learnt while living in Tokyo, Japanese girls are one of the flakiest in the world.

You could either double book a date and then cancel on the one that has lesser prospects if both turn up or to have a legit back up plan on what you would do for the night if your date flakes. For me, I would check for events that’s happening that night that I could go to or where chicks would go. Don’t waste your time, plan ahead.

Post: #10

"sorry to hear. hit me up when you're feeling better"

Leave it at that.

Post: #11

IMO just move on, don't reserve her a spot on your waiting list.

Post: #12

Just thought I'd give an update on this one.
Texted her on monday, and asked if we should aim for the weekend. She texted that she's going home for easter, but we can meet Thursday, which was yesterday/today.
We met at one of my favorite spots, and I didn't game her at all. I kicked myself afterwards trying to figure out why things went so "bad".
The answere came to me when I sobered up. Attraction, I felt none of it.
When looking at her pics, I got the impression of a young, petite girl with a bit of a butterface.
When sitting next to her I felt tiny. She was way larger than what I had imagined. Age wise I'm 26, she's 21 and looked likw a woman in her 30's.
Date was short due to her having work in the morning.
I wasted my time and money. Fuck tinder, I'm back to ok cupid.

Post: #13

(03-23-2018 12:24 AM)nordicplayer Wrote:  Just thought I'd give an update on this one.
Texted her on monday, and asked if we should aim for the weekend. She texted that she's going home for easter, but we can meet Thursday, which was yesterday/today.
We met at one of my favorite spots, and I didn't game her at all. I kicked myself afterwards trying to figure out why things went so "bad".
The answere came to me when I sobered up. Attraction, I felt none of it.
When looking at her pics, I got the impression of a young, petite girl with a bit of a butterface.
When sitting next to her I felt tiny. She was way larger than what I had imagined. Age wise I'm 26, she's 21 and looked likw a woman in her 30's.
Date was short due to her having work in the morning.
I wasted my time and money. Fuck tinder, I'm back to ok cupid.

You just got sucked in by pictures. Plain and simple. Either do some CIA work and stalk the hell outta her insta or develop a intellectual connection

Post: #14

This was my first tinder date btw, and now I get it. Tinder is basically an excuse not to daygame, nightgame or approch in general. Now men who wouldn't dare approch a girl they like, can text from their comfort zone. You have about as many clues as you would approching on the street and no presence.
Ok cupid has been very effective for me tho, due to their matching system and profile layout. It's been spot on for me every time.