Post: #1

So I met this girl maybe 3 years ago, she was a vegan fitness model who gave me the BEST SEX OF MY LIFE, even till this day, it's the best. She was pretty soft and not ripped at all but still had the legs and ass of a goddess, and decent c cups for her 4'11 -5'1 frame.

Anyway, over the last year, this girl has turned 100% anorexic. Going from a solid 125 to 95 pounds maybe. Her mind is completely corrupted with liberal vegan nonsense to the point where she hates herself for being....human. She's a masochist and the last time we had sex (4-5 months ago) she turned me off by the amount of pain she wanted.

Ok with that said this girl is a genuine friend to me. I turned into a beta simp for her because I don't want her to kill herself. I feel like its a cry for attention. I don't care AT ALL if she fucks other guys, hell I don't even like her sex any more. I do small things for her just to keep her happy enough to the point where she doesn't kill her self. She treats me pretty bad, never text back, never wants to hang out anymore, etc etc. 5 of my friends, and people i know were killed this year I don't want to lose another one.

She's a friend, not just a plate but should I treat her like a plate?

Post: #2

Your interactions with her aren't going to make the difference.

See if you can find out who is close to her, family, friends etc. and talk to them about your concerns.

Treat it the same way you would if you see an old granny across the street crying or having a black eye every time her grandson visits with her. Do your due diligence on who you need to talk to, be Cautious, Diplomatic, Emphasis on presenting your message effectively.

Then mentally and physically walk away.

Anorexia is a disease that takes no prisoners. What she needs are experts who know how to treat this and family who can support her when she's not with those experts.

Trying to change or fix her as an ex/current-lay will do nothing except hollow you out with thankless effort and angst and leave you a worn out husk.

Might sound bleak but it pays to respect alcoholism, anorexia, the dangers of co-dependency for the cancers that they are.

Post: #3

From this thread to this one?. Something doesn't add up

Post: #4

(03-19-2018 11:51 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  From this thread to this one?. Something doesn't add up

Yea but she's a genuine friend to me. I've lost enough friends in the last year or 2 that its hard for me to sleep.

Post: #5

(03-19-2018 11:40 PM)Bienvenuto Wrote:  Your interactions with her aren't going to make the difference.

See if you can find out who is close to her, family, friends etc. and talk to them about your concerns.

Treat it the same way you would if you see an old granny across the street crying or having a black eye every time her grandson visits with her. Do your due diligence on who you need to talk to, be Cautious, Diplomatic, Emphasis on presenting your message effectively.

Then mentally and physically walk away.

Anorexia is a disease that takes no prisoners. What she needs are experts who know how to treat this and family who can support her when she's not with those experts.

Trying to change or fix her as an ex/current-lay will do nothing except hollow you out with thankless effort and angst and leave you a worn out husk.

Might sound bleak but it pays to respect alcoholism, anorexia, the dangers of co-dependency for the cancers that they are.

That's VERY TRUE! thanks for that. I've had girls who basically go through stuff like this but never one who I knew BEFORE the problems. She was the embodiment of femininity. I'll let her go. hopefully she doesn't kill herself

Post: #6

(03-19-2018 09:17 PM)Keepiticy2 Wrote:  So I met this girl maybe 3 years ago, she was a vegan...

Vegan girls are all (or eventually become) crazy.
Get her to start eating meat for at least 2 weeks straight.
Problem solved.

Post: #7

(03-20-2018 12:23 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  Vegan girls are all (or eventually become) crazy.
Get her to start eating meat for at least 2 weeks straight.
Problem solved.

I've noticed that lol

Post: #8

Sounds rough, but you can't help her, especially since it sounds like she isn't turning to you for help.

If you want to do what you can for a friend, I think that getting in touch with her family and.saying that she needs an intervention is all you can realistically do.

Post: #9

Treat her like a person but but DO NOT GET INVOLVED in her life and problems. Keep her as someone you know and thats it. Do not have sex do not connect or bond. Spend as little time as possible.

People like that are nothing but problems. Walking bombs waiting to explode. Trust me on this one. Beware of her. She can complicate your life like you cannot even imagine.

Post: #10

I like Bienvenuto & XXL's advice here.

You can care for fellow humans, seek help for her through connections you think you can trust.

But DON'T invest anything else in her - just because she was the best sex in your life doesn't mean a damn thing right now.

She's definitely a time bomb and is broken.

I hope she gets the help she needs and recovers from this - she doesn't sound healthy at all.


I've dealt with friends like this who were alcoholics - it's not pretty - no matter how you try to help them.

Post: #11

So, a decent person helps someone in need, and you want to be decent.

I would guess that most of the guys telling you to keep your distance aren't being cold hearted, they have just had some experience with someone on a downward spiral who doesn't want to get better and will drag anyone down with them who they can drag down.

I have seen people who turned it around with help and patience from their friends, and I have seen people, most of them women, who were suicidal for years, or seemed to get cancer whenever they felt their power over others was flagging.

These women have created havoc in families, communities, lives, and have been able to keep it up for years. This is no joke. Absolutely tyrannized their friends and family for years, often destroying other people's relationships, and all because no one was ever able to say no to someone who is suicidal or who has cancer.

I have know handicapped people who did this too.

You have to be caring, but you have to be smart too, and watch her, and see if she actually wants help, or is playing the ultimate life and death card.

Give her referrals to suicide services in your areas, or hotlines, and if she utterly dismisses that, she is trying to tell you something. You don't want to be sucked into solving a problem you no experience or expertise in solving, and don't ask me how I know.

I have known several men, over the years, on different continents, different countries, good men, shirt off their back men, who endured nightmare women for years and years on end, all the lost sleep, broken promises, ruined holidays and celebrations, who finally snapped and they all said the same thing, to these women, after decades of failed attempts and threats of suicide.

They all were finally pushed to say, and believe me, you don't want to know you are capable of saying this, they all finally said, if you are going to do this, do it right, and if you don't know how, I will help you.

You don't want to be pushed to the point that you say something like this, and you are not Superman, you have to protect yourself, and you cannot take the weight of someone else's world on your back.

Don't let someone else's chaotic emotions overwhelm you and make you willing to do anything to make the bad feelings stop.

Hold your frame. Caring, kind, but with limits, with boundaries. Maintain your own poise and distance. Part of the reason this is tough because there will be white knights to attack you, and she will possibly marshal the forces of other people against you if you don't do what she wants you to do. You may lose some friends over standing firm over your values.

You are learning a tough lesson, but an important one. If you can find a good course to chart on this one, you will be inoculated against all sorts of emotional blackmail in the future. It will be a breeze.

Good luck.

Post: #12

Thanks for all the advice, she was a good friend before the sex and for a year after. However all of you are right. I will help in ways that won’t terrorize me. I’ve done a lot with no results I just needed to hear it from people more experienced than myself

Post: #13

So I've had a fair amount of experience with this type of girl and I am 180 degrees away from the majority of the gentlemen here.

OP - Did you cause this woman to go down the path she is walking? Did you goad her into an eating disorder? Did you carry her philosophically into the self-loathing end products of toxic feminism? (And, you claim she's anorexic because she is thin, but that is not a clinical diagnosis of anorexia nervosa.)

If the answer to those questions is no, then you have absolutely zero responsibility to save her from sleeping in the bed she so carefully made.

At every point in her recent life, she made her own, informed decisions about her behavior. Even now she has freedom to change direction, and has the information needed to do so. Her philosophy on life an humanity is a product of her voluntary choices. She is not the victim of a brain washing cult.

This morbid display of drama from her is nothing more than that. And the only thing that will come of it for you is wasted time and resources.

My advice is to wish her well, and then completely separate yourself from her. Let her manage her own life as she sees fit. Absolutely nothing you try will change one single aspect of her life now. But the feelings of failure from fruitless effort after fruitless effort may trouble you needlessly.

I know that this will not be popular advice, but I've been there.

Post: #14

Jeez - forget it.

She uses you as her emotional tampon while fucking other dudes.

Frankly she neither friend nor plate. She is nothing. You should not let yourself be pulled into the vortex of her chaos. She treats you badly and does not give two shits about you, so why should you?

Best sex is no excuse. She needs to get her shit together, but she will do that independently of you. Say sayonara to her for now and live your life - far away from her.

You show signs of oneitis and Captain-Save-a-hoe-itis. She is corrupted by the environmental madness and likely a bunch of other marxist crap. If she commits suicide, then you may even be blamed for it or end up in jail if she puts down your name. I would even put it somewhere on record via longer text, that you wish her good luck and you hope that she will deal with her problems in the future, but that you don't wish any contact for now. In our times you cannot be careful enough.

Post: #15

I get that. I keep stating she’s a genuine friend, we were friends before and after we had sex. She knows about the girls I sleep with. I’ll admit I might be captain save a hoe but she’s definitely not a oneitis. I don’t and never wanted a relationship, I could call her up right now for sex, I simply don’t want her to kill herself. Besides that you’re 100% right.