Post: #1

I’m a rising junior in highschool I was wondering how to approach girls not necessarily for a relationship but for a hookup etc. and how would I meet girls from other schools and go to other schools parties as my party scene has become very dry many parents have become strict recently. I’m a upper middle level in popularity in my school I’d consider myself fairly attractive but I’ve never hooked up and I get very nervous around girls. Most of the girls at my school are not too good looking and I feel that there will be lots of social consequences with these girls. Thanks for the help it’s much appreciated

Post: #2

If you don't play sports, or participate in exteacurricular stuff you need some type of Bait:

-Assuming you've got your drivers license, offer girls rides.

-Weed, an alcohol are both timetested ways to build a social circle.

Post: #3

@CincinnatiKid

I play Varisty Wrestling and Lacrosse
And do you recommend that I get a fake to help with the alcohol?

Post: #4

How far do you live from the city? I'm guessing your in an isolated suburban area?

To get alcohol, just approach some old guy at a Gas Station with the money.

Post: #5

Don't focus on girls in high school. Have a good group of friends and hang out with them. Add girls to the mix for fun but they aren't that important. That bond you build with friendships is much more important, especially the guys you play sports with.

If people can't have parties anymore take you, a friend and two chicks on a drive, find an isolated parking lot and just act like high school kids there and have fun. You might both get laid, you probably won't but if you get better with women it'll set the foundation for when you're older.

Now for the girl specific parts just talk to girls you have classes with for practice. Just a little bit more each week and be cool. If you're cool a girl will end up liking you.

Post: #6

If your parents are super strict, best to focus on school bro.

Dont waste your time, but if you really wanna get laid, than just talk to the girls and try to be direct a bit.
They wont remember you when they graduate anyways.

Post: #7

Realologist and simonafc make some good points. You're a young buck and shouldn't put too much investment into girls right now (don't ever put too much investment into them). I'd recommend waiting until you're a freshman in college to hookup. Not saying that you won't get laid between now and the end of your senior year.

For now, hone your skills at being flirtatious (Check out a PUA on YouTube named 'RSD Tyler', pay attention to how he approaches girls and the energy he approaches them with). There's a wealth of information in the other 'game' sections but most of that is for guys a few years older than you who have more freedom because they're no longer at home with family. Learn to escalate from rapport to physical. Follow Roosh's 'The Program' here: http://www.rooshv.com/the-roosh-program (Keep in mind that this material is mainly for when you're older and may be out of reach, for now).

REJECTION. It's something that I don't see mentioned in the Newbie RVF sections enough. GET COMFORTABLE with REJECTION. Girls are going to reject you, it's a normal part of learning how to game 'em. Even the guys you see/hear/read about that are PUAs still get rejected but it's how they handle that rejection is what gets them laid. You have an advantage that you're in school and surrounded by a lot of girls (it gets better in college), and most of them are just as inexperienced as you are when it comes to dating because they also still live at home with family. Talk to as many girls as you can, each day. Don't even have to escalate to the physical, just flirt, tease them.

Lastly, you've come to the right place to learn game but remember that game doesn't just apply to getting laid. It's a MINDSET that can help you build in all facets of your life.

Best of luck, young buck.

Post: #8

Thanks I appreciate the time you took to write that out. I will defiantly look into the YouTube page you recommended and follow your tips

Post: #9

(08-10-2018 05:03 PM)HighSchoolDude24 Wrote:  Thanks I appreciate the time you took to write that out. I will defiantly look into the YouTube page you recommended and follow your tips

You're welcome.

Also, I forgot to answer your other questions about approaching girls from other schools because you say the pool of girls at your school is insufficient. Make friends with students from those other schools. I tried it a few times myself but only did that during my college years.

Find out where those rivalry school's girls go to hang out or even just go directly to their school during after hours. You're already a student, you'll blend right in. If any girl/anyone at those other schools asks why you're there, then just make up some plausible reason you're there (i.e. transferring schools/shitty teachers/better classes etc.,).

Post: #10

High School game lol.

I was so awkward talking to girls for the first time back in high school.

Remember girls wore those "shag band" things? Some stupid piece of plastic around your wrist that you were supposed to break and then you would have sex or something stupid like that.

I had spoken to this girl a couple times online but speaking to her in real life I was nervous as fuck.

She was quietly sitting with some of her friends at a table at lunch. I was 14. I have a strong memory of going over to lend her some CDs. (We probably spoke online about music, such amazing 'game' I had back then).

I was standing over her table when I noticed this shag band thing on her wrist, I think I may have asked her if I could break it: "Hey is that a shag band? Cool... can I break it?" lol... (I didn't know how to 'assume the sale' back then). She silently agreed and moved her arm over towards me.

I pulled the plastic bracelet gently, thinking it would be easy to break. It did not break. I then pulled a little harder, nothing. I pull it really hard and it yanks her whole arm and body around painfully. Oops. She and her friends are just sitting there watching me struggle red faced. I realised this is plastic, I'm going to literally have to stretch this apart. I decide to start pulling with both hands until it breaks. Smooth. Her friends were total nerds and didn't say anything luckily. After that I think I apologised and walked off.

The akwardness was intense enough that I still remember this moment many years later. I didn't worry too much about it though and soon banged her and made her my girlfriend. My first attempt at sex with her was also pretty stupid.

What's the point of this story?

I don't know.

I think my point was in high school, a lot of girls are actually willing to overlook bad game because they also want attention or more and because they're naive and inexperienced also so they don't actually notice it.
This girl was very attractive and no one thought I could get her but she was not the most attractive and I was not going after the really attractive girls at my school. I think my anti game would have thoroughly repelled them. Anyway, if you have a solid understanding of attraction and game and decent looks, you will do well. And even if you don't you will do ok if you lower your standards a little bit.

Post: #11

Popularity in high school mainly revolves around drugs and alcohol. It's sad, but it's the truth.

When I was in high school, I was an extreme introvert, a "follower" who spent all his time smoking weed with his friends.

Like you, my high school was lame: full of stoners, ugly girls, and FOBs.

All my friends and I ever did was smoke weed. I was lucky to go to the occasional party, mainly because some of my stoner friends knew the "cool kids" from the other schools.

If I could go back, I would've tried connecting more with those "cool kids" when we were all smoking together. Maybe try to hang out together without our mutual friends being there. However, because I was so shy, I just stayed in my comfort zone, smoking with my lame-ass friends.

If you don’t smoke or drink, please don’t start. That shit can possibly ruin your life. I’m just saying that if you do, use it as a gateway to meeting cooler people from other schools. That way you can also meet hot girls and get invited to more parties.

Most people in high school either care way too much about studying, or don’t care at all.

Don’t be like them.

Socialize with everyone, focus on spreading good vibes, and if you smoke or drink, do it in moderation, and for the sole purpose of meeting people, rather than as a way of getting fucked up.

At the same time, devote some energy towards studying and earning top marks. Your last years in high school are the most important when it comes to getting into university.

If you earn top marks, you can get into a prestigious party university where you can live on residence first year, rush all the frats, and meet as many people as possible (while aiming for a smart, lucrative degree… preferably a STEM degree if you’re interested in those subjects).

If I could go back in time and tell my 16-year old self all of this, I would.

But I can’t...

So I’ll just tell you.

Post: #12

Yea sounds very similar to my situation. I appreciate the advice from your similar experience

Post: #13

I know the guys on here are saying work on your social circle and don't focus on girls, but you can definitely work with what you already have going on right now.

Think of what classes you have and the girls you're interested in in those classes. Put yourself in more situations to talk to girls throughout the day, try and work with girls on group projects and just work on your interactions with girls in general.

If you're a decent looking guy you'll start to realize what you're doing and gain confidence, you'll see what girls are receptive to you and what type you want to try to approach.

From my own experience looking back, just make sure that you have a positive attitude about what you are doing in school. I hated high school and although I was popular I was never really focused on being social, I stuck to the cliques that I hung out with and never really opened myself up to meeting as many people as I could have when I was in school.

Also, keep in mind that the girls you are talking to are just as inexperienced and awkward at this point as you are. You're not going to be able to get very much success limiting yourself to the hookup frame of mind though, you're going to end up in more of mini-LTR's if you want to be successful, although there will be opportunities for hookups (just be smart about it).

Post: #14

HighSchoolDude, I can identify with you as I've been through high school only a few years past.

First of all, as other guys have said - focus on establishing bonds with good male friends.
In a couple of years, you will see how good it is to have a few true friends who have been with you through thick and thin. Men you can rely on for your entire life, women come and go!

That said, don't allow yourself to be satisfied with the cards you've been dealt. The guys in your own class might be lame, dumb, betas or incels. Engage in sports, go out, meet a lot of people, and then make a selection. You will find that 1/10 of the guys you meet are going to be potential candidates; maybe even less than 1/10.

I have a couple of real friends dating back from elementary school, a couple from the various sports I did, and a couple from my highschool, but generally not from my own class. The best friendships are made either under duress, in some kind of trouble; or inadvertently, in a situation you find yourselves in and work together to find a solution. I struck a friendship with one of my better friends, a guy I barely knew from a different class, when I saw him get into some trouble in a nightclub. We were "brothers" from the same highschool, so what the hell, I rushed to his aid. He never forgot it and we are friends to this day.

Next, work on expanding your social circle.
Have few friends, but a lot of colleagues, acquaintances, call them what you like. These are the guys you can drink a beer with, share some highschool/college banter, but you wouldn't rely on them in a dangerous situation because you don't know them yet. Have 10, 20, or even 50 acquaintances. That way, you'll meet their squads, and you'll meet their girl friends.

In highschool, when you're a beginner, it's much easier to pick up girls you already know - hell, I picked up most of the girls during that time on those big house parties with at least three different squads who partly know each other. You don't need to bother with approaching yet, especially if, as you say, your options are limited.

When you start getting bolder, directly ask one of your acquaintances to introduce you to his pretty girl friend, like I did once, and it ended in a LTR.

Afterwards, go downtown, to the mall, frequent bars, and start approaching unknown girls. But that's already real game.

Then, I suppose you're from the USA, so nightclub game is not yet an option for you?
In my part of Europe, people start going to nightclubs at age 16-17 (and yes, drink alcohol there), so it's a bit different. Here, however, you won't get a lay at that age, as our girls are more prudish, but you'll approach a ton of girls, occassionally kiss one, and acquire experience.

Cultures, clubbing, going out etc. are vastly different between Eastern, Western Europe and the USA, so I don't know what are your general options. I know that Americans I meet are shocked and envious because we normally go out to nightclubs and drink at 17, but we are envious because you guys regularly fuck your girls at 17, which is an exception here! To each his own, eh?

Post: #15

Awesome thanks for the response. Yes clubbing is not an option but I may try the mall near me, any tips on how to do it, should I bring a friend? How do you suggest to pickup girls my age? Thanks again

Post: #16

Just go out and talk to girls. Strike up a conversation about something situational, or ask for her opinion about a a pair of sneakers or shirt if you're out shopping. Sit next to one on a park bench. If she's friendly and talkative keep the conversation going and let her talk. Speak about what you like and are passionate about. Find out what she likes.

What are your interests and hobbies? If you have one you can transition to making plans and hanging out more. This could be something as simple as your favorite movie or tv show.

Post: #17

No problem, bro.

You might try going solo, but at that age and experience level, I would recommend you bring a friend or two with you for starters. It's vastly different and, we can say, more innocent than "true" daygame when you're at least 21-22 years old, where you're expected to go alone and approach girls in parks, libraries, malls, everywhere.

Once you have several semi-decent wingmen, who can present themselves to the opposite sex without drooling or something (yeah, any normal guys will do for now), look for similar sized groups of girls. Avoid the arrogant, "glamorous", spoiled 17-year old bitches with makeup and high heels and search instead for groups of 2-4 relaxed, laughing, casually dressed girls enjoying their frappuccinos or whatever American girls do in malls...

Take the lead. You're the alpha of your wolfpack. Walk half a step ahead of your guys, and immediately strike a conversation with the prettiest girl in the group. And remember, be assertive. No questions, minimalize opportunities for rejection. Order them around.

"Hey girls, me and my buddies think you're cute and would like to meet you. My name is HighSchoolDude24"
"Where did you get that *Starbucks drink or whatever*? It looks great. Come on now, you girls take us to that place."

I must add, the way I see your highschool culture, you can't really game a girl that young when you're the same age. So, the best way is to start with a situational opener or something friendly and neutral. I don't think negging (like walking up to her and saying with a smirk "where did you get those shoes? They're so ugly, I must tell my sister to never go to that store") or a straight up sexual opener would work with American girls of that age.
That's why I recommend these simple openers, and not something more sexual/bold/romantic. I'm not American though, so if I'm wrong, guys from the States please correct me.

Just stay relaxed, open and don't overact. Women sense when you're trying too hard.
So make a casual approach, open them up, try to get one of the following:

- get them all to a coffee shop, start conversing as a group
- get a number from your girl
- agree to meet later for movies/ice skating/a visit to the swimming pool/a game of pool/bowling/whatever you guys do

If you get rejected, remember it's going to happen to you a lot, and you should never sweat it. You should learn and move on, as most of the girls WILL initially reject you no matter how attractive, charming or smart you are.

Post: #18

Got it. I’ll try it out in the coming week when I get the opportunity, thanks to both guys that commented above

Post: #19

Excellent! You should give us feedback, perhaps open up an approach thread like many other guys did, and use it as a sort of journal of your approaches, so that we can all analyse them and offer further advice.

One of the most important things here, which you have, is the will to learn and improve yourself as a man - that's great!

There is a very simple, one word motto which has helped me a lot, a Latin word. "Excelsior". It means "ever upwards/onwards". There is so much motivation and wisdom behind just that one word. Remember it. Keep going forward, keep developing yourself as a man, keep learning.

Post: #20

1.
Learn to play
1)Guitar (best) or
2)Sax or
3)Piano

That will be all the game you really need for years. For some forever.
Trumpet myself, but I grew up in a jazz heavy area, so that was effective too, but those will work worldwide.

2. You are at the perfect age to BURN INTO YOUR UNDERSTANDING FOREVER the following:
AVOID what we call One-it-tis. NO ONE girl matters much when you keep in mind ALWAY, there are plenty more!

3. The most powerful game, which can't be faked is this.
Don't give a sh1t what happens when talking to girls, just have fun. Girls are like any other deal. He who cares least wins, or at least has a huge advantage!

Bon Chance Young Jedi