Post: #1

I'm at my wits end... I am just over 40 and have had ED issues for years. Normally it has not been a huge problem, but this year, it is driving me nuts. I have attempted to follow some of the suggestions on this forum, e.g. stop watching porn, do exercise, stop masturbating for a period of time, etc. Sometimes it helps other times it makes it worse. But recently the ED has become a huge issue. 70% of the time I try to have sex I just cannot get hard enough or cannot stay hard long enough. Other days are fine. Morning wood is fine. I have viagra, just never dared to take it, because I read that people with Peyronie's Disease (curvature of the penis) probably shouldn't take it. But to be honest I am not sure if I have true Peyronie's Disease. My penis curves, but is it caused by the disease, I have no idea. Not planning on seeing a doctor for this, I can get Viagra OTC and planned to start with a very small dose to see what happens. I am not sure if Cialis has the same issues as Viagra or not, I have to check. But I am wondering if anyone in the forums has ED and takes Viagra with Peyronie's Disease with any issues?

I want to test it, maybe it will bring back some amount of confidence that I won't need to use it every time. That is my hope. I don't want to rely on meds. I have been feeling very horny recently, but even with working girls I am not able to perform at all. It is really frustrating.

Post: #2

It is your dick. Get yourself to a healthy body mass index, stop smoking, and see a urologist. A lot of penises have some sort of curve without it being pathological, but since this is giving you a medical scare you probably are not going to be comfortable until you get a medical answer. Actual erectile dysfunction tends to be connected to impairment of the circulatory system which is why ending obesity and smoking cessation are effective cures. If you aren't fat and don't smoke there could be something deeper going on.

A man's ability to get erections is an indication of his overall health. If you reliably get morning wood every morning, your circulatory system is likely fine. You just may need to have a lot of bareback sex with one girl to train your orgasm response to respond to real pussy.

In the event where a medical specialist diagnoses you with Peyronie's Disease meaning not just some penile curvature, but scar tissue build up enforcing the curvature... taking viagra, cialis, or another boner pills that forces erections by relaxing blood vessels could do some serious damage that further injures and scars your dick. Or maybe it could be just the fix the doctor ordered.

Not wanting to see a doctor because you have a sore throat is one thing, that could just be inconvenient. In your case, you are afraid your dick doesn't work and it is causing you legitimate distress. See a fucking doctor.

Post: #3

I don't smoke, rarely drink. I am not over weight - though have a little belly. My BMI is normal. I lift weights twice a week and do quite a bit of walking. I have just read that Cialis may be better and can work with both conditions. I have had this problem for at least 20 years. But recently it is effecting me more.

I can get an erection, just not every time, as I said, recently with a girl it is about 30-40% of the time only. With my hand, I can. In the morning it is natural, sometimes it is extremely strong. So there is blood flow for sure.

I only wear a condom, no barebacking. Also condoms for BJs.

From the information I just read, cialis seems to be good for Peyronie's disease, and some reports for viagra as well, but viagra seems has some negative things on it also, so it seems cialis is safer.

I understand your point about seeing a doctor, but either having them inject shit in my dick to get a boner or bringing a picture for them to see is a bit embarrassing. I know what you mean about causing more damage also. As I live in Asia, it's a bit..... uncomfortable. And I am not sure if Asian men have the same issue, so they may not be aware of it. I will consider to see a doctor, it's just suddenly becoming more of an issue...

Post: #4

Take 10mg of Cialis EOD.

Post: #5

With your elaboration, you even more clearly need to see a doctor. Cialis can actually be more dangerous because it takes longer for your body to clear it out, that's why it works for longer. If you have only ever worn condoms even for blow jobs, it could be your dick just doesn't know how to handle stimulation outside your hand. The fact you are getting girls leads me to suspect retarded ejaculation over Peyronie's which only strengthens the case for seeing a doctor at the very least to rule out Peyronie's. As insistent as you are on the matter of blood flow it sounds like a getting off problem and not a completely erectile problem.

Psych yourself up to see at least one doctor. The stakes are a few minutes of potential embarassment against your quality of life for the rest of your life.

Post: #6

BBinger, understood. I was thinking about the risk of Cialis also after I posted that, because it does stay in the body much longer. Online says 5mg is enough for sex 1-2 week, but yeah, it stays in the body for 36 hours which could have more issues, I agree.

But as I said it doesn't happen all the time, but the ED has been with me for 20 years. I just never talked to a doctor about it. I always figured it was just me and the masturbation and porn issues. I can change my diet more also.

Normally once I get inside the girl I can go for awhile, but this year I have felt even softening inside while having sex. I figured it was just age, but still wondering. But you are right, it could be something other than just ED.

I have had raw sex before, a lot, but most of the girls recently I am having sex with are working girls. I know this forum kinda frowns on that, but I have my own perspective and it does not relate to them just being easy, I can get normal girls, just choose not to. But the ED issue is not new tot his year. But I still remember last year I had sex with three girls in a period of 7 hours with little issue. The last one had to help me just a bit, but nothing like this year... Alright... I'll be on the lookout for a doctor in the weeks ahead.

Post: #7

(10-30-2018 02:42 AM)ilp Wrote:  Normally once I get inside the girl I can go for awhile, but this year I have felt even softening inside while having sex. I figured it was just age, but still wondering. But you are right, it could be something other than just ED.

I suspect you are far more likely to get relief from a medical consultation than you are likely to get bad news. You don't sound like a candidate for a pharmaceutical solution right now. There could still be something medical going on somewhere down the line, but the probable outcome where a doctor says "your dick is normal enough" could be just what you need to get to the next step.

Post: #8

Hold the phone.

Have you never heard of blow jobs?

Are you telling me your dick doesn't get hard when a beautiful woman is sucking on it? And I mean with no condom on, saw your comment about a blowjob with a condom on, that doesn't count.

Post: #9

BBinger, so then, in your opinion, what is the next step you are referring to?

Spaniard, I am aware of BJs, I just don't do them without protection. And yes, sometimes I still cannot get hard. I don't do BJs without a condom with those I don't know. I was with a WG today, really good looking, hand job for 30 minutes, got hard 3-4 times, inserted, then went soft, started over again, and finally my time was up, and that was that. I have had issues with uncovered BJs as well and also insertion and going soft even RAW. It is happening more and more than older I get, but the fact that it was happening even in my 20s raises some flags.

I think the most problematic thing is, I can get hard, but cannot keep it hard....

I have made an appointment with a urologist for this Friday. Gonna be an awkward day....

Post: #10

Take care of your vital bits. Don't be shy to seek care, it's nothing.

Post: #11

What's the point of getting your dick sucked if you wear a condom during it?

Post: #12

(10-30-2018 07:41 AM)realologist Wrote:  What's the point of getting your dick sucked if you wear a condom during it?

If I am with a prostitute there is risk of several STDs. Even though personal I feel they are cleaner than civies, but still. I don't mind wearing a condom for a BJ.

Post: #13

>>I have made an appointment with a urologist for this Friday. Gonna be an awkward day....

Doctors, like policemen, have seen it all. Your case doesn't even register as remarkable compared to what an average doctor has seen. Now guys with a penis injury because they masturbated using a vacuum cleaner, those are the ones who might find the visit awkward.

Personally, I think this is a case of psychological impotence. For whatever reason, you're just not aroused. But you need the doctor to first rule out physiological (bodily) issues. Then, with his approval, try Viagra/Cialis at home. Then try Viagra/Cialis with a working girl (with condom). Then Viagra/Cialis with a civilian (with condom). Then, when your confidence is back, you can experiment dropping the Viagra/Cialis.

Post: #14

(10-30-2018 09:51 AM)ilp Wrote:  

(10-30-2018 07:41 AM)realologist Wrote:  What's the point of getting your dick sucked if you wear a condom during it?

If I am with a prostitute there is risk of several STDs. Even though personal I feel they are cleaner than civies, but still. I don't mind wearing a condom for a BJ.

Apparently it DOES bother your body because you're not catching wood.

Post: #15

As I mentioned above, I can get hard, I just cannot stay hard. And I am not going to risk getting an STD for a BJ.

And I have another issue now.. I went through all the cock photos I have and every single one of them is with lube/lotion. Nice and shiny.. and sometimes white... haha. My appointment is Friday... Do I need to take new ones, or does it really matter?

Post: #16

No no no. We DONT DO P4P here!

Fuck me, what is this place coming to???

Youre pretty much trolling here IMHO but here goes. You can get hard by hand, you have morning wood. Your dick works. Do you have a porn problem?

It could well be that you're just not going to be aroused by some slut who's only interested in your cash. I know I wouldn't be. Maybe you should find a nice girl who you actually enjoy spending time with and see where that goes? Bloody hell I sound like your mother.

Post: #17

(10-30-2018 12:05 PM)ilp Wrote:  As I mentioned above, I can get hard, I just cannot stay hard. And I am not going to risk getting an STD for a BJ.

And I have another issue now.. I went through all the cock photos I have and every single one of them is with lube/lotion. Nice and shiny.. and sometimes white... haha. My appointment is Friday... Do I need to take new ones, or does it really matter?

If you cannot stay hard, you might have low Testosterone issues as well. 10mg of Cialis or get your blood work done and get on TRT. You could also do both and really kill the problem.

Anything else you do is likely mental masturbation. It's your time, up to you.

Post: #18

Roberto, not trolling, and everyone has their opinions. I kept this out of the game forum for the exact purpose you are complaining about. I have a different perspective on P4P than you do. But let's leave it where it lies. And just for the record I don't only sleep with WGs. I am capable and do sleep with normal women.

TravelerKai, I am curious about your statement about mental masturbation... If the term is exactly as it sounds, this sounds to me like psyching oneself up to get laid, but way overly? Not getting an erection during the thoughts, but the thoughts persist enough to keep the hormones up all day, and then when it is time to do the deed you cannot get aroused enough to get an erection because you have been thinking about it all day??? That has happened to me a couple of times this year. I try to prevent myself from masturbating so that I have enough stamina for the girl, but then end up thinking about it all day. Whereas if I masturbate once, it releases the chemicals and then I rest, then sometimes I am able to perform again after 12-24 hours with a girl. Is this at all what you are talking about?

The fact that morning wood is strong, I would think I have no testosterone issues, also during the day I can still get hard. I do think there are some performance issues attached to the psychological aspect of actually being with a girl. Thinking too much about the act itself perhaps before it starts, I am not sure.

Seeing the doctor today in a few hours.

Post: #19

(10-30-2018 01:43 AM)ilp Wrote:  I'm at my wits end... I am just over 40 and have had ED issues for years. Normally it has not been a huge problem, but this year, it is driving me nuts. I have attempted to follow some of the suggestions on this forum, e.g. stop watching porn, do exercise, stop masturbating for a period of time, etc. Sometimes it helps other times it makes it worse. But recently the ED has become a huge issue. 70% of the time I try to have sex I just cannot get hard enough or cannot stay hard long enough. Other days are fine. Morning wood is fine. I have viagra, just never dared to take it, because I read that people with Peyronie's Disease (curvature of the penis) probably shouldn't take it. But to be honest I am not sure if I have true Peyronie's Disease. My penis curves, but is it caused by the disease, I have no idea. Not planning on seeing a doctor for this, I can get Viagra OTC and planned to start with a very small dose to see what happens. I am not sure if Cialis has the same issues as Viagra or not, I have to check. But I am wondering if anyone in the forums has ED and takes Viagra with Peyronie's Disease with any issues?

I want to test it, maybe it will bring back some amount of confidence that I won't need to use it every time. That is my hope. I don't want to rely on meds. I have been feeling very horny recently, but even with working girls I am not able to perform at all. It is really frustrating.

Take it this is trolling, but if it isn`t; Peyronie's is usually resulting from sexual trauma, so if you just have a curved penis (congenital) than this is not the issue.

I would try dietary changes like a higher sat fat Paleo diet to address ED. Good fats from such a diet, included some added fats like extra virgin coconut oil etc, will have a positive effect on your T levels, and usually libido as well. All hormones in the body are formed from fat, and T is formed from saturated fat for the most part.

"Our results indicate that in men a decrease in dietary fat content and an increase in the degree of unsaturation of fatty acids reduces the serum concentrations of androstenedione, testosterone and free testosterone." https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/6538617

Post: #20

Johnny, it is not trolling, and I am sort of getting tired of hearing that word in my thread.

There was no sexual trauma to my dick, I have had it since I can remember. If there was trauma it was when I was really young... can't remember, way too late to think about that now.

After the doctor's visit, it's been confirmed that it is Peyronies. My curve is over 30%, only treatment is surgery which I am not about to do. He said provided there is no pain then let it go. Doctor said I can try viagra 50mg to start. Also said I can try Cialis, but recommends Viagra first just simply because of the half life is much less. He also thinks the ED could be more psychological than pathological.

I opted not to do the testosterone test because I will have a full body check up later this month and will just do everything together and then bring the report back to the doctor if any issues. I will ask for the additional testosterone test during this time.

As for Paleo, why not Keto? I can add coconut oil or some other good fats.

And thanks for the report, I will give it a read.

I would like to try to stay off taking drugs if I can.

Post: #21

Congratulations on going through with the doctor's visit. That wasn't so bad, now was it? So now you have solid facts to work with rather than bro-science about coconut oul and whatnot.

>> He also thinks the ED could be more psychological than pathological.

Yes, and a mild case. 50mg Viagra will turn a weak erection into a strong one, thus giving you your confidence back. In the long run, you need to figure out why these girls don't excite you that much, because that's the real issue, in my opinion.

Make sure to fully hydrate while using Viagra, otherwise you'll get a splitting headache. Urine should be clear white before taking it, in other words.

Post: #22

Props as well for consulting the doctor. Sounds like you have a plan of action and confirmation from a medical professional that a little bit of pharmaceutical help might be the answer.

In general overmedication is a bad thing, and I personally don't have strong opinions on the diet matter though some people have big improvements with specific diets so they will have to make the case for them (but with straight keto diets outside of epilepsy and some other neurological disorders keto genesis can lead to a lower baseline energy level in the mid to long term). If you have a specific problem and a medication addresses it... that's what medicine is for. The way the medical profession exists ideally is to give you the outside opinion that "yes, there is a problem" and hopefully "this intervention can alleviate the problem." Sure some people take this to the extreme and drug their kids into being robots, but if the intervention improves your quality of life you should give it a try.

Testosterone replacement is trickier because it's plugged into a feedback loop where foreign testosterone is going to suppress your own production of testosterone, which means if that is an issue lifestyle changes ought to be the first course of action considered. Giving viagra a trial is maybe a week to figure out if it works. Testosterone replacement is at least 3 months to get onboard (though some benefits may happen within the first day) and 6 months to get back to normal off of if you want to go natural. In your case the unnatural chemical viagra is easier to trial and drop if necessary than the natural testosterone is.

Post: #23

Weighing in and hopefully adding some value to the thread:

1. I'm not really sensing a "I'm gonna wreck the next decent pussy that comes in my direction until she can't walk" vibe from your post. I'm of the strong opinion that medium-heavy lifting for men in our range will get and keep that vibe for you. If you've never had that intense feeling of wanting to hunt for and physically dominate a women sexually, ask yourself why. My guess is that you don't keep your T-levels up high enough by lifting and/or engaging in highly competitive activities (for me, it's recreational ice hockey).

2. Adopt a "No Orgasms Without a Woman Physically Present" Policy. Period. Full stop.

3. Limit your use of the blue pill until you get the proper Sexually Dominant Man mindset. When I use the blue pill, it's mainly when I expect to banging some younger woman all night and I make a bet with her that I can make her tap out. Making sexually overly confident women submit is tons o' fun.

4. If you're in this game long enough and banging scores of high n-count women, you're going to catch something. Bank on it.

Post: #24

(10-30-2018 02:17 AM)ilp Wrote:  Also condoms for BJs.

Post: #25

Find yourself a hot little 18 year old vagina and watch your problems magically disappear.