Post: #1

This girl I fucked last, whom I made squirt and pretty sure I did what I had to do for her to call me back kind of pulled away from texting. After I fucked her last week I went to Miami the following weekend. I texted her before my trip asking her availability(wrong move) and she responded with "I'm so busy with exams right now, I can't take off anymore days for work... ". I told her it was for when I came back Saturday. She replied with "ok lemme know and maybe we can plan something." so I responded with " ok I'm good for Saturday, lemme know. There was no text after that but the next few days while in Miami she was snapping my photos of her, just regular mundane pics of her, listening to music, filters and dumb shit. I waited a week and hit her up again asking how finals were going and we went back and forth. I left it at the and wished good luck with finals. I didn't ask for a meet up, figure if she wanted to fuck she will. She again snaps me tonight a stupid unicorn selfie. I'm an old man now, late 30s she's 10 years younger. Am I supposed to respond to her snaps? Lol

Post: #2

Usually, when a girl asks to snap instead of text she has a boyfriend or a husband. Snaps make it easier to hide things and send pictures.

But on the other hand alot of people around my age use snapchat to communicate anyway since they're always on snap and keep streaks as a hobby.

Post: #3

Thanks...
Should I snap back? Lol and if so how (old man game)

Post: #4

(12-19-2018 11:41 PM)Donfitz007 Wrote:  Usually, when a girl asks to snap instead of text she has a boyfriend or a husband. Snaps make it easier to hide things and send pictures.

But on the other hand alot of people around my age use snapchat to communicate anyway since they're always on snap and keep streaks as a hobby.

My vote goes for she has a boyfriend, hubby, or just is juggling dicks like many women do. You could always tell her to not "snap" you, and just text. Is she really worth all this though?

Post: #5

Nah it's not that she has a boyfriend, she just wants to fill the void with your attention. That's so typical for younger girls in the 18-22 range.

A girl exchanges time for attention and validation. Don't fall into being her texting buddy, only keep it for logistics. You're in your 30's so i don't blame you, but this is how it works.

You have to realize the snaps she sends with the shitty filters etc she's also sending out to many other guys. If you want to stand out from the crowd of orbiters she has, don't bother responding to them. It's a time waster. Keep up what you're doing, hit her up once a week to see if she's up for some fucking again.

Post: #6

(12-19-2018 11:37 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  ...she responded with "I'm so busy with exams right now, I can't take off anymore days for work... ". I told her it was for when I came back Saturday. She replied with "ok lemme know and maybe we can plan something." so I responded with " ok I'm good for Saturday, lemme know.

I wouldn't have followed up with with the bolded text, you don't want to try to set anything too far into advance especially with it only being a second meet up. Probably fine though since you haven't chased her hard.

(12-19-2018 11:37 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  There was no text after that but the next few days while in Miami she was snapping my photos of her, just regular mundane pics of her, listening to music, filters and dumb shit. I waited a week and hit her up again asking how finals were going and we went back and forth. I left it at the and wished good luck with finals. I didn't ask for a meet up, figure if she wanted to fuck she will.

Good move with not trying to schedule while she's in finals, when she says she's busy for a whole week then it's best to hold off for the amount of time she told you plus a couple extra days to make sure there's no trace of neediness.

(12-19-2018 11:37 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  She again snaps me tonight a stupid unicorn selfie. I'm an old man now, late 30s she's 10 years younger. Am I supposed to respond to her snaps? Lol

You can respond to them, but I wouldn't respond with any type of direct response to the dumb stuff she's sending you (saying something like "you make a cute unicorn")

If a girl is sending random snaps to me with no purpose most of the time I don't take the effort to reply to them...

UNLESS I think I can work her towards either:

A. A date soon (next 2-3 days)
or
B. Building comfort (with a cheeky response & light rapport)

I wouldn't reply with more than one or two playful or teasing snaps, and don't reply when you don't feel like it. Out of my plates that send me stuff like that regularly, I'll respond to probably something like 1/3 of the snaps.

-Side note-

Young girls like using snapchat to message guys because it shows when things are read and when you are typing.

If she tries to only talk to you through snapchat she could be a little on the neurotic side, especially if she has strong attraction to you.

When a girl primarily uses snapchat with me I leave her snaps unopened for hours and take a long time to reply to discourage using it as a messaging platform.

Post: #7

She is trying to engage you with some "sexy" pictures.

Women are really, really bad expressing their interest. They have no clue how to do it.

Young women of this generation are, in addition to that, clumsy, socially awkward, and dumb. They have zero to none experience initiating or responding to real life sexual interactions and have thousands of programmed limitations, such as thinking that actually talking with words out of your mouth is harrasment.

Shes dumb.

You are wondering what to do.

Dont act like her. Tell her how the game is going to be played.

She can either play it, or walk away.

Post: #8

If he's late 30s and shes 10 years younger...that means shes late 20s still using those horrific fillers

Post: #9

I see more and more girls using snapchat almost exclusively to communicate. It's rare that I will be texting girls that are younger than 22, it's almost always on that app. I think it's because it has built in 'read' functionality, that shows she's ignoring you without being 'rude'.

Post: #10

Are you looking for a text penpal? Do you want to build an archive of her poetic texts?

Or do you want to bang her?

I learned the hard way to use texts only for logistics. Be grateful that snaps disappear.

Post: #11

Germanico has it right. You are the man. Lead the conversation to where you want it to go and let her know what's up. She likes you and wants something from you whether it be attention, another encounter, etc. or else she would not be hitting you up. She just doesn't know how to express it.

One of the best things I learned as working as a sales person is how to steer the conversation the way I want it to go (frame control in pua speak). Give them a choice making the one you prefer the obvious choice based on logical previous points in the conversation AND slightly spiking buying temperature , and they feel that they came to the decision themselves. Make the decision easy for her emotionally but so she can logically rationalize it so it lessens flaking and buyers remorse and she can feel good about her decision.

It is and always will be our job as men to lead the interaction.

Post: #12

And don't forget - texts stay on the other others persons device forever.

Do you want to have a "But you said XXXX; here is a screenshot" situation?

Post: #13

So new development... I hit her up a few days ago on snap. We discuss hanging out the next day but she's on meds so doesn't really feel well. She mentions she wants to see me and there is this movie that she's saving to watch with me. She sends me an ass shot later from a tanning booth. I text back... This is all through snap

Next day I send her a regular text joking about how it's Christmas Eve and I have dinner and that we both forgot. I get no reply, nothing. I'm wondering if it's because I didn't snap her...?

Post: #14

Man.

Girls always use the latest platform to communicate. From text/SMS to Facebook messenger to IG to Snap to whatever.

Play along and don't spend too much time online. Use it mainly for logistics, don't give her too much validation via virtual communication.

Post: #15

She’s got a boyfriend but still wants another bang

Post: #16

This is some millennial-level female game stuff.

Why does she even need to know you have a snap?

If the attraction is there, it is there. Think about it logically:

You get someone on the phone instead of via email to get better service. So, your game dealing with younger females is to be straightforward.

This is as simple as avoiding the whole social media circus and giving her a phone call at your soonest convenience. Sure, it will be uncomfortable, but take a lesson from the elders and go for direct, unabashed contact.

Post: #17

(12-26-2018 02:16 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  We discuss hanging out the next day but she's on meds

Just walk away.

Delete her number.

Block her on social media.

Thank your luck you got out before it was too late.

Post: #18

Laid off for about a week and simply gave a , "hey how are you".through her regular phone number and no reply. 24hrs later she sends a nude through snap... ?

Wtf...

Post: #19

(01-13-2019 05:32 AM)Manystyles Wrote:  Laid off for about a week and simply gave a , "hey how are you".through her regular phone number and no reply. 24hrs later she sends a nude through snap... ?

Wtf...

She sent that same nude to her other 17 guy friends.

Post: #20

Dude, I think many ppl here told you that she prefers snapchat because she has a boyfriend . It is so obvious now as in two occasions she didn't reply to your regular texts, but she replied to you on snapchat.
Stick to snapchat and ask her out one more time through snap.