Post: #1

I got her number during nightgame last week. How should i handle this? I am not sure if she really missed my text, or maybe a test? I can try to date her this evening but its a high risk. She might be bussy or i Will look desperate. Anyway What to do now?

Post: #2

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Post: #3

Maybe im wrong, but i think you let pass too many days... she will catch interest for the next dick, if she hasnt already.

Post: #4

Yes pass too many time, partly because im bussy and partly because i want to reply always later than her. But what is the plan next? She is a solid 7 i want to have fun with. She is young and pretty.

Post: #5

Was the 'one night stand' comment a shit test?
If so, the mistake might have been immediately suggesting plans without diffusing the shit-test sufficiently ('you are so funny' wasn't enough)

Post: #6

Not sure if a test, i kissed her during the night and its pretty obvious that we like each other and are having Sex asap. You are so funny was the least thing i could say at that moment, just to get to the point of a date. Maybe i shouldnt even say something about it at all. What and when should i text what?

Post: #7

English is not her first language. I say be more flirty/direct. Also, OP establish a bit more comfort. Be more funny without being so SPERGy.

Post: #8

Guys do you have any text i can send right now? Could PM me as well.

Post: #9

call her

Post: #10

Yeah calling her today is the best thing to do.

Post: #11

+1 for call and chat, comfort game, chit chat then ask her out after 10-15 mins of chat.

Post: #12

So a guy here helped me to send some texts and now she stopped responding. What do you think is going wrong? The thing is english is not her first language (not mine as well) but it seems that she is having a hard job to communicate. Btw i didnt called her yet, i want to ask you guys if i should do this tomorrow?

Post: #13

She has personality, I like it. Seems you are done, move on, but send me her number first.

Post: #14

(03-25-2019 04:29 PM)Drax Wrote:  So a guy here helped me to send some texts and now she stopped responding. What do you think is going wrong? The thing is english is not her first language (not mine as well) but it seems that she is having a hard job to communicate. Btw i didnt called her yet, i want to ask you guys if i should do this tomorrow?

Jesus, what a mess. You need to go read the "What should I text next?" thread from start to finish.

A few things:

* FAR too much detail/words in your texts vs. hers.
* FAR too much cocky/funny for text. You have to tone it down some unless you're in person.
* Why did you not just invite her to meet up, especially if BOTH of you are not native English speakers?

Post: #15

I think it started bad from the beginning and now its really bad, why are you still wasting time after more than a week

Post: #16

I relied on msg's from someone on this forum but he didnt know the context as i know. I had to put more trust in my self and taking care of the messages. I count her as lost and i wont contact her anymore. Its funny that people start replying on this after i lost her and not before with practical tips. Anyway, this is how it works. Failure is just practice for success.

Post: #17

@luigi, could you say why it started bad from the beginning?

Post: #18

(03-26-2019 04:34 PM)Drax Wrote:  I relied on msg's from someone on this forum but he didnt know the context as i know. I had to put more trust in my self and taking care of the messages. I count her as lost and i wont contact her anymore. Its funny that people start replying on this after i lost her and not before with practical tips.

You can be negative about other people (that they didn't respond soon enough) or you could recognize that next time if you post in the appropriate thread you will be far more likely to get feedback (I linked it in my previous post).

The other thing is that you are not owed a fast response by anyone. Many of us are here to help but are within the constraints of our own schedules.

(03-26-2019 04:34 PM)Drax Wrote:  Anyway, this is how it works. Failure is just practice for success.

Yes, yes it is. That is a good mindset.

Post: #19

(03-26-2019 04:52 PM)Drax Wrote:  @luigi, could you say why it started bad from the beginning?

Just my opinion, not meaning to offend ok?

If i understand the situation and the initial messages, you met this girl on some nightclub and she gave you her phone, but when you wrote her she didnt have a clue of who you might be, am i correct?

She couldnt even figure out who you were until you identified yourself with your slightly excessive cockiness.

Then you propose a date, she says "upss i missed" 2 days later and doesnt try to fix it (proposing some other time or day).

I would have set "comfort" earlier, things look cold she will stop writing at any time. Lower your cockiness a bit and propose something (for the last time).

Whatever you do good luck.

Post: #20

First mistake is giving a shit about a number you got at a nightclub. Those are marginal at best. I consider any number I get during a weekend night to be a complete crap shoot. Most numbers are crapshoots, but those numbers I brush off completely like I would a lottery scratch off...

Second mistake is texting and and overgaming this chick. Any first interaction through text that isn't setting up a date is inherently bad. You can't build attraction with digital messages, you can only pique interest and she's already met you in person - so there's no point in gaming her in this way. Girls are driven by emotions, body language, and the subtilties of speech and vibe -- texts are way inferior toward this end.

Third mistake is assuming that a date needs to be scheduled far in advance or at a separate time from when you got her number. On the contrary, a better approach is to schedule a date at the bar that night if you assume no SNL. Skip the whole interchange of having to call/text and get her to remember you and put her on a spot for another meetup when she's already forgotten about you. If she really wants to hang again, she'll appreciate the boldness. If not, you saved yourself the anxiety of all of this.

Chicks at nightclubs are inherently flaky and you would be better to protect your time and go for a same night lay.