Post: #1

So last weekend i had a girl over, she seemed quite nervous at first, found out later she had only slept with 2 guys before. Both were her boyfriends. So she was quite inexperienced. When i pulled her home and we undressed, she wouldn't let me pull down her panties just yet and she kept saying some weird things. "Do you do this with a lot of girls?" i said not really no and she kept asking "so how many girls have you slept with?". I avoided the question and just told her it didn't matter. I didn't give her an answer. I have been thinking that it could have been a shit test? But im quite confused to why girls ask these stupid questions that don't matter. What exactly is she trying to get out of it?

I ended up sleeping with her but it took a bit of effort. I assured her shit like this is not a one-night thing with and that this was different bla bla bla and it worked.

Post: #2

It's not a shit test. It's self deception.

It's about her suppressing her conscience and convincing herself shes not a whore.

Post: #3

Most girls want a man that has a lot of options, but chooses to only be with her.

She has only slept with two guys before and both were her boyfriends. So on some level, she sees you as a potential boyfriend. Your sexual history is to her (correctly) a good indicator of your potential to become her boyfriend.

Think about it. Who has a higher probability of wanting a relationship - the guy who has slept with 100 girls or the one that has slept with five?

So that answers your question as to "what exactly is she trying to get out of it?"

That's not to take a position on whether it's right or wrong for her to ask questions like that, it's just the way it is.

I think you handled it well. I usually also say something along the lines of "it doesn't matter" when a girl asks about how many others I've been with. Sometimes I'll add, "I don't want to talk about other girls, let's just keep the focus on me and you."

Indirect and vague is usually the best way to handle these types of situations.

However, if you were about to hook up with a confirmed slut, you could actually give a direct and truthful answer. I've done this a handful of times and it usually just sparks a fun back-and-forth.

Post: #4

Next time say with a smirk 'nah honey, ur my first'.

Post: #5

(04-28-2019 04:50 AM)ATW in 80 Days Wrote:  She has only slept with two guys before and both were her boyfriends. So on some level, she sees you as a potential boyfriend.

Think about it. Who has a higher probability of wanting a relationship - the guy who has slept with 100 girls or the one that has slept with five?

When she says that, she has probably slept with 20 guys, and double that number of blowjobs and hand jobs that "don't count".

She doesn't want to feel one of a hundred, and slutty. She wants to feel like this is a magical miracle in the making, and "it just happened" - that's much better feels for her than being the 100th vagaina on a converyour belt through your bedroom, no?

You handled it well.

Post: #6

(04-28-2019 03:47 AM)lifecrisis Wrote:  So last weekend i had a girl over, she seemed quite nervous at first, found out later she had only slept with 2 guys before. Both were her boyfriends. So she was quite inexperienced. When i pulled her home and we undressed, she wouldn't let me pull down her panties just yet and she kept saying some weird things. "Do you do this with a lot of girls?" i said not really no and she kept asking "so how many girls have you slept with?". I avoided the question and just told her it didn't matter. I didn't give her an answer. I have been thinking that it could have been a shit test? But im quite confused to why girls ask these stupid questions that don't matter. What exactly is she trying to get out of it?

I ended up sleeping with her but it took a bit of effort. I assured her shit like this is not a one-night thing with and that this was different bla bla bla and it worked.

You've got to give a politician's answer--communicate what she wants to hear without lying. When she asks "do you do this to a lot of girls?" for example, just answer "only to the special ones" or whatever. Keep the information limited while giving the appearance of a satisfactory answer. You want to avoid seeming like you are dodging her question or lying outright, since this could increase the risk of LMR.

Post: #7

(04-28-2019 08:15 PM)HAcoreRD Wrote:  

(04-28-2019 03:47 AM)lifecrisis Wrote:  So last weekend i had a girl over, she seemed quite nervous at first, found out later she had only slept with 2 guys before. Both were her boyfriends. So she was quite inexperienced. When i pulled her home and we undressed, she wouldn't let me pull down her panties just yet and she kept saying some weird things. "Do you do this with a lot of girls?" i said not really no and she kept asking "so how many girls have you slept with?". I avoided the question and just told her it didn't matter. I didn't give her an answer. I have been thinking that it could have been a shit test? But im quite confused to why girls ask these stupid questions that don't matter. What exactly is she trying to get out of it?

I ended up sleeping with her but it took a bit of effort. I assured her shit like this is not a one-night thing with and that this was different bla bla bla and it worked.

You've got to give a politician's answer--communicate what she wants to hear without lying. When she asks "do you do this to a lot of girls?" for example, just answer "only to the special ones" or whatever. Keep the information limited while giving the appearance of a satisfactory answer. You want to avoid seeming like you are dodging her question or lying outright, since this could increase the risk of LMR.

Pretty much this. If she's turned on and wants to be with you, her brain will fill in the blanks that allow her to do what she wants to do.

Post: #8

"Only the ones I like."

Then plow through.

Or if you're bored, "Do you ask every guy this?" Then whip out the mental popcorn.

G

Post: #9

Admit nothing, deny everything, throw counter-accusations:

Accuse her, "Do you do this with a lot of girls?"

Just kidding buddy, sounds like you managed aight.

Post: #10

"Just the ones this morning."

Post: #11

Cue Cialdini - 'Only the hot ones.'