First week of May
I now live in a hotel in a Chinese city called Shenzhen for a few weeks cos of work. The night and day game are broken down into time when I am alone without friends or colleagues.
One night I number closed a Chinese girl at my hotel lounge. She’s my type but is leaving soon for holidays at another Chinese city. So there wasn’t any progress but still it felt good to number close a quality set and we created connection as we chatted for over half an hour. Hopefully she comes back to Shenzhen soon and we can reconnect.
A few nights later I am went out with an English girl I number closed at the club. She suggested red wine by the beach so for me it's game on, she didn't create so much eye contacts and social queues at the beach, but we chatted well into in midnight, which by then I tried to be touchy after three hours of talking, mainly by carassing her hands and touching he cheek, it didn't take long until she came over and kiss me. We started making out by the beach and then she suggested we leave. There was resistance when we waited for the bus, she said "mine is this direction, yours is that" but I just stayed on in the same bus station and waited until her bus came which I hop on with her. I stayed calm and didn't react to questions like "Oh, you are still around bla bla bla" so in the end she rationalize the whole process by saying "oh so you are sending me back", which I just smiled and say yes. When we got into her place, we had a bit more chatting and banter. The rest was history and I came twice that night. The next day was equally well which we had a few more chats, walked down the park at her apartment and I left her by late morning heading back.
I had a good night's rest and the second night after my close I invited Cantonese girl to my place. I played in natural by just leading her to the subway and she started starring at me devilishly and started questioning me when am I leading her, she kept throwing questions at me, accusing me of a player bla bla bla, but still following me to my place nonetheless. I could only smile and say "yea, I am bringing you to the hotel" half innocently and half with a smirk. Once in the room she continued throwing questions at me such as if I have girlfriend or wife. She wanted to make sure that she was not in the way of any relationship and was fine with an open relationship, after we established the idea that it will be an open relationship, we started making out and then made love. After sex, we chatted a bit more, had simple dinner and parted ways.
Lessons learnt
I am extremely lucky to get back into the game and close two girls in the first week of May. It also helped me boost my confidence of opening four sets the day after the second lay, confidence breeds confidence. I was confident enough to open a tall girl which speaks Chinese - I mentioned before I have anxiety speaking Cantonese to girls, some issues with my ABC identity, that day I could briefly shed this anxiety and opened her twice, she avoided me once and I continued opening her the second time. I also opened three sets that day so I am happy that the momentum kept going.
Apart from a girl who studied in England, I realized most girls were not warm to day game in Shenzhen and Taipei, in fact that girl who studied in England I could create the chemistry because she was sitting and waiting at the hotel. I don't think I should create this stigma that day game is harder, so I am just making a statement but will not reduce my day game frequencies.
Due to my own issues, I have the idea of "Oh she is from Thailand, she must be easier to game", "Oh she is from Hong Kong, she probably looks down on me on my broken Cantonese, or think I am a return FOB" internal issues like this make me stereotype girls, which is not helpful. I should treat all girls equal, as do I treat all human being.
i can become physical more comfortably, back then I used to worry that girls will worry about my sweaty and cold palms, I still have such issues, but by being clearerer with logistics and maybe slightly more at ease, I didn't break into sweat the few times I became physical and it allowed me to touch at ease. I know this is weird for guys who has sweat issues, I have had palmar hidrosis which is a sweat syndrom since small. I still wonder if it's my mental state that caused this since I was a kid, for example my palms now are slightly sweaty even though I am in an air conditioned room.
So far in May I have approached about four sets. A notable set is the tall girl I mentioned in Hong Kong, and also a Brazilian girl sun tanning by my hotel pool. Both were flakes and politely ignore me but it also felt liberating to not be needy and just smile and walk away.
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