Post: #1

I have 2 nephews aged 7.5 and 9.5 years old.
Yesterday i took them to a free outdoor festival in a park in the city with bands and DJ's playing on stages.There was a playground/flying fox with loads of kids running around.I let the boys go loose with the other kids while i drank some beers with friends and chilled out.
Every time i checked on the boys the older one was surrounded by girls and seemed to be holding their attention and generally just being a boss.
It was actually really impressive how well he was holding it down.
My sister turned up and we had a wee laugh about how much of a player he was already, she told me a couple of weeks ago while at a friends house with her kids that he got snapped out under a blanket in a wardrobe with a 12 yr old girl.=legend
Apparantly he is the man at school and has like 5 girlfriends and even has girls five or six years older than him that go out of their way to say hello and talk to him on the regular.

So i got to thinking:

How does a kid that can barely stay still for five seconds command that much attention from girls?
(he had a gaggle of little chicks following him everywhere yesterday)
What is it that he is doing that makes girls wanna be around him?
(surely its not just his good looks,he can be a retard like most kids his age)
Will his game carry on through to adult life or will the peer pressure of being a teenager create approach anxiety and other issues for him to overcome?
Can i subtly help him out without it seeming like im trying to live vicariously through him?
Obviously i would wait for them to get a bit older before "teaching" them anything but they do not have a dad so im pretty much the only male role model in their lives and they have started asking me about puberty and shit.
And finally can i learn anything from him or not?

It does seem a bit lame to think i could learn anything game related from such a young player but he is totally owning it and barely cares or knows what he has going for him.
His little brother is on the rise too, they will be slaying as teenagers im sure of it.

Post: #2

interesting idea. Maybe it's the lack of inhibitions and natural playfulness of children?

Post: #3

(11-20-2011 06:24 AM)Anon-A-Moose Wrote:  interesting idea. Maybe it's the lack of inhibitions and natural playfulness of children?

Oh for sure, kids instantly connect with other kids in an environment like that but im curious as to weather my young gee can maintain his natural swagger with women until it matters.
He is a bit of a natural at anything he tries and he plays rugby,skateboards and does karate and a few other things so i doubt he will be increasingly socially inept as he gets older, quite the opposite i predict.

Post: #4

I'm 5 years older then my brothers so I watched them as they grew up and studied the differences between them and me. I never had many people talk to me and was pretty lonely if not for a few odd ball friends that didn't fit anywhere and became my friends. By bros on the other hand had a lot of guys and girls around and were natural athletes at many things. I am too but I don't have very good social skills.

They ended up being able to get any girl they wanted. One bro dates girls he likes for a year or 2 with no play on the side. The other consistently bangs good looking girls. He's pretty much a natural pick up artists who does it all effortlessly. Unfortunately that just about all he does.

Post: #5

I've noticed this too with kids. Some of them just have natural charisma, charm, and are fun to be around. It could be genetics, environment, or both.

I think social skills and and out-going personality can be inherited. Of course, some of us were born into environments that helped developed our game. If you are really lucky, you are born with great genetics (looks, personality) and also into an environment that encourages and develops your game.

Some are not so lucky, and they really have to work hard and focus on correcting weaknesses.