Post: #1

A lot of players on this forum dont really date girls. They just go for the ONS or have one "date" and then drop the girl after the bang. But for those of you who date girls longer and maybe have multiple girls in a "harem" i have two questions.

1. What is the average length of time that you date a girl?

2. What types of dates do you do with these girls? You can start out with just drinks at the bar. Then later dinner at your place or hers. Maybe dinner at a restaurant, movie theater eventually. But then do start shelling out bucks to do new activities and stuff together to keep things from getting boring and maintain her in the harem?

If you had one girl, like a girlfriend, i can understand doing that. but with multiple girls its gotta get expensive.

Post: #2

Great questions, esp number one as I am curious to know this myself from other forum members.

As for #2 you cant beat having your own place, I like inviting girls over to "watch a movie" and its always the same movie and I make my move about the same time in the video. Movie + cool appetizers + alcohol = perfect "date"

Post: #3

I was dating three to four women simultaneously in my late 40s. I found a pattern and stuck to it.

1. Meet thru online dating site, ranging from OKCupid to AdultFriendFinder.

2. Date One was always for coffee at an upscale shopping center. If coffee went well, continue the date to dinner and perhaps a movie. End with kiss and light make-out.

3. Date Two was dinner and then a motel or her place. Every women who came back for a second date was DTF. I wanted to make sure they were GTG sexually and not bat-shit crazy before going to my place.

4. Dates Three and beyond ranged from "classic dates" that ended with overnights at my place or hers to simple "Let's go tear up the sheets."

5. I kept a rotation going. None of them had an exclusive run with me. Sometimes we'd meet during a weekday just for coffee or lunch, no sex.

6. I kept the online process working so that the rotation was replenished. As one woman would decide to move on, I had another one or two in the chute.

Post: #4

I'm more in harem mode. I'm finding it hard to go out and do anything but online game with all the school work I have piling up. I have one girl who is a 10 min walk, down to do anything at a moments notice. One girl I mainly just hangout with but sometimes we bang, one girl who i fucked last year. I don't talk to her but every time I see her we end up fucking, and another girl back in my hometown for those long weekend stretches without pussy. I'm looking to replace the first girl with a hotter girl, but have had no luck so far.

Post: #5

Times I've been with multiple girls they've known about eachother. Multiple FWBs if you will.

We would normally hang out a bit round each others flats, and tag along with eachother's friends clubbing (usually sneaking off early for sex).

Currently I've got 2 on the go who know about each other, but this is a slightly different situation because one is in my hometown and one is at my uni. I'll see whichever one is nearest regularly, occasionally ( < once a month) visiting the other.

Post: #6

My dream is to have like 3 or 4 non-exclusive girlfriends in their early 20s that know about each other. Once a week, they all come over together, we make dinner (they each brought a little something potluck style), bang (one or more of them), and go out as a group in my full-sized sedan. A different girl gets to operate the iPod each time. We go to the movies, dancing, or bowling and then come home and bang (in different configurations than before) before calling it a night. We yuck it up in public, and I do that little from-behind classic move where you help the girl roll the bowling ball--while putting your boner on her--with each one. Or, we dance as a group in the bar while each one tries to steal me away. No matter how hard sausage tries to peel off one of my girls, the effort is futile because they're so fucking in love with me. Mostly, I'm getting mad stares from the haters clutching their drinks tightly against their chests on the sidelines. The girls are cool. They're not attention whoring, just having a good time with me and each other.

Back home, each of them has a drawer in my antique dresser, so they change into sweats or boy-shorts or whatever they like sleeping in. We mourn as a group when there's a "break up" (a girl getting cut), but we go to work replacing her as soon as possible. I say the same thing every time, "no one is replaceable, but everyone's replaceable."

Is this beta? I have a feeling I can pull it off with two, but to get to 3+, I need deeper pockets.

Post: #7

Always watch movies and have dinner followed by deep conversation at their house. Some girls leave me because they want to go out and do things like boyfriend and girlfriend, some girls really appreciate the thought provoking discussions. Once in awhile I may hang out with them at an occasional party or bar.

Average length of time I'm with a girl ranges from days to years.

Its a good way for me to keep my art of conversation strong
its convenient, cheap, I get free meals, practice and pleasure.

Post: #8

Kinda what I'd like. MLTR / Polyamory.

I dont even have to compel them to hang with each other. Even if they are in truthful knowledge of the others and are fine with it great.

If they are friends.. better. Lovers.. wow!

Perfect LOVE filled Poly Amorous Life

(01-13-2012 06:17 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:  My dream is to have like 3 or 4 non-exclusive girlfriends in their early 20s that know about each other. Once a week, they all come over together, we make dinner (they each brought a little something potluck style), bang (one or more of them), and go out as a group in my full-sized sedan. A different girl gets to operate the iPod each time. We go to the movies, dancing, or bowling and then come home and bang (in different configurations than before) before calling it a night. We yuck it up in public, and I do that little from-behind classic move where you help the girl roll the bowling ball--while putting your boner on her--with each one. Or, we dance as a group in the bar while each one tries to steal me away. No matter how hard sausage tries to peel off one of my girls, the effort is futile because they're so fucking in love with me. Mostly, I'm getting mad stares from the haters clutching their drinks tightly against their chests on the sidelines. The girls are cool. They're not attention whoring, just having a good time with me and each other.

Back home, each of them has a drawer in my antique dresser, so they change into sweats or boy-shorts or whatever they like sleeping in. We mourn as a group when there's a "break up" (a girl getting cut), but we go to work replacing her as soon as possible. I say the same thing every time, "no one is replaceable, but everyone's replaceable."

Is this beta? I have a feeling I can pull it off with two, but to get to 3+, I need deeper pockets.

Post: #9

(01-12-2012 12:04 PM)lurker123123 Wrote:  A lot of players on this forum dont really date girls. They just go for the ONS or have one "date" and then drop the girl after the bang. But for those of you who date girls longer and maybe have multiple girls in a "harem" i have two questions.

1. What is the average length of time that you date a girl?

2. What types of dates do you do with these girls? You can start out with just drinks at the bar. Then later dinner at your place or hers. Maybe dinner at a restaurant, movie theater eventually. But then do start shelling out bucks to do new activities and stuff together to keep things from getting boring and maintain her in the harem?

If you had one girl, like a girlfriend, i can understand doing that. but with multiple girls its gotta get expensive.

1. Totally depends. I date them as long as it is a positive situation. If they annoy me for one second, they are gone.

Mini-Retirements and Mini-Relationships http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2011/02/min...ships.html

2. I do mostly dinner, drinks. Art gallery gigs. Lounges. Cooking at home with Vino. Beach. etc.

However, I like going out to dope restaurants and it builds my biz and reputation.

So even though it costs Cash, it makes me money in the long run.

Quote:"but with multiple girls its gotta get expensive"

Sure if you don't make it pay.

But there is a simple solution: Make more Cash.

Post: #10

Do you guys notice any kind of limitation on your concurrent harem relations? I seem to be able to only keep 3-4 girls juggled at once. After a while, that ship burns down and I build up a new rotation.

Post: #11

True players know you keep a girl around as long as she is of some use.

You should also carry different relationships with the girls on the team.

Some girls you can be cool with, some girls you can do social shit with, some girls are just jump-offs, etc.

Post: #12

(01-13-2012 07:13 PM)xmlenigma Wrote:  Kinda what I'd like. MLTR / Polyamory.

I dont even have to compel them to hang with each other. Even if they are in truthful knowledge of the others and are fine with it great.

If they are friends.. better. Lovers.. wow!

Perfect LOVE filled Poly Amorous Life

(01-13-2012 06:17 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:  My dream is to have like 3 or 4 non-exclusive girlfriends in their early 20s that know about each other. Once a week, they all come over together, we make dinner (they each brought a little something potluck style), bang (one or more of them), and go out as a group in my full-sized sedan. A different girl gets to operate the iPod each time. We go to the movies, dancing, or bowling and then come home and bang (in different configurations than before) before calling it a night. We yuck it up in public, and I do that little from-behind classic move where you help the girl roll the bowling ball--while putting your boner on her--with each one. Or, we dance as a group in the bar while each one tries to steal me away. No matter how hard sausage tries to peel off one of my girls, the effort is futile because they're so fucking in love with me. Mostly, I'm getting mad stares from the haters clutching their drinks tightly against their chests on the sidelines. The girls are cool. They're not attention whoring, just having a good time with me and each other.

Back home, each of them has a drawer in my antique dresser, so they change into sweats or boy-shorts or whatever they like sleeping in. We mourn as a group when there's a "break up" (a girl getting cut), but we go to work replacing her as soon as possible. I say the same thing every time, "no one is replaceable, but everyone's replaceable."

Is this beta? I have a feeling I can pull it off with two, but to get to 3+, I need deeper pockets.

from what I see PUBLICLY, even major stars have trouble pulling this off== George Clooney; Eddie Van Halen when younger, whoever star you want to name. You get the impression they don't even want to because they get married ( Except CLooney but he stays with a chick a while) . A hot bi wife with your mutual slut coming and doing you both seems the closest manageable thing thing... although I have heard of big-money Arabs hiring groups of girls for a year/2 years at a time.

Post: #13

IMHO, the advantage of the soft harem over "capturing new flags" is quantity and quality of sex.

I was havings sex two to four times per week, rarely with the same woman twice in a row. Call it three times a week, on average. That's pretty satisfactory for me.

The more I had sex with each women, the better it became. Quality steadily improved, as we became more familiar with one another.

And I had the advantage of a willing group to help me refine my technique.

Woman "A" might let me know that she liked to have her breasts touched in a certain way. No problem, add that to my play book for her. When I was with Women "B", "C", and "D" I'd try the same technique. Quite often, one or more of them liked it as well. My Sex Partner Score (SPS) with those women increased. Sex with them improved. My sexual satisfaction with each of them improved.

Before long, every woman on my "team" declared that sex with me was the best they'd ever had.

It also became easier to recruit new team members. As my techniques improved, first-time sex with new women improved. Pretty soon the reactions after first sex progressed from, "That was the best first-time I ever had!" to "That was the best sex I've ever had in my life!"

Post: #14

(01-13-2012 07:23 AM)DecoHappy Wrote:  Date One was always for coffee at an upscale shopping center. If coffee went well, continue the date to dinner and perhaps a movie. End with kiss and light make-out.

Date Two was dinner and then a motel or her place. Every women who came back for a second date was DTF.

The key to Date Two and beyond was the kiss and light make-out at the end of Date One.

A few kisses, letting her set the pace. When she sticks her tongue into your mouth, that's the clincher. Let her explore your mouth with your tongue, but only for a few seconds. Gently pull away, brush your lips across her ear, down her neck, and go for a slow sensual kiss to the nape of her neck. Use one hand in the small of her back to gently pull her pelvis against you. Her clit is probably buzzing from the neck kiss and now you press it against your body.

Release the neck kiss slowly and ease pressure on the small of her back. Bring your free hand up to cup her chin, brushing gently across her nipple on the way to her face. Hold her chin gently, kiss and hold (no tongues) for ten seconds, and gently release her.

She will probably be on fire for you.

I don't try to take her to bed right there. Instead, I tell her I had a wonderful time and would enjoy seeing her again. She will likely have wet panties and want that next date ASAP. Let her pursue you. Remember, you are the prize.

Post: #15

Guys, any word on what to do for Valentine's day if you've got multiple GFs?

Post: #16

(02-13-2012 02:04 AM)soup Wrote:  Guys, any word on what to do for Valentine's day if you've got multiple GFs?

You're in luck, there's an entire thread dedicated to this very issue:

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Post: #17

(01-13-2012 07:23 AM)DecoHappy Wrote:  I was dating three to four women simultaneously in my late 40s. I found a pattern and stuck to it.

1. Meet thru online dating site, ranging from OKCupid to AdultFriendFinder.

Is AdultFriendFinder legit? I thought most of those adult paysites were scams.