Post: #1

Looks like I'm gonna hit up Boston by myself tonight . I'm pretty tired of trying to get people to get off their asses and just be around people so , for the first time I'm gonna just do it myself .

My plan so far is to get to the Great Scott which is a music venue . Being a musician myself this seems like a good place to start, I know the busses run directly to the place and there's usually a good showing of people there . There will be music until late, most likely some shitty indie bands that suck but it motivates me to know that I'm 1000 times better than these mopes .

I don't have any set objectives, I want to play it by ear . I have a limited amount of cash ($40) and all I really want to do is have a few beers and chat with people . This really doesn't seem to be worth the money but I've already had a few beers and I don't want to sit in my house for the rest of the night . I also just quit smoking so I'm restless as hell .

I'm a little nervous , but I know once I get there and get through that initial feeling of "what the fuck am I doing" I'll be good . I'm open to any advice on going out by yourself, or any tips when approaching at music venues (they're fucking loud as hell) . There's also a girl who I recently hooked up with that doesn't live far from there that I have a pretty good chance with . She texted me "hey" out of the blue last night around 10 last night . So I figure if I spend all my money and can't get home I could just go to her house . Who knows, tons of possibilities I guess I'm trying not to think about it too much, bottom line, if anyone's got any advice or if you're familiar with Boston/Allston or whatnot , let me know .

Post: #2

It's invigorating. I realized that I'd gone solo more in foreign countries (mostly London when I lived there one summer) than I had at home in "my own back yard" and it made me realize I needed to adopt the same mindset I had when abroad. Adopt a smile and a I-don't-give-a-fuck attitude the minute you step outside your place. If you want, down a few drinks before leaving, blast some good music while your getting ready. Have fun.

Post: #3

Good luck mate - let us know how you get on.

Post: #4

I also recently started going out solo because all my friends are married/relationship or work early weekends and like presidentcarter I traveled alone and went out alone last year but wouldn't do it at home until recently.

I like to practice on girls in the street before I select a venue. They are more friendly and their bitch shield is down. Maybe find out where they are going. Who knows, if they seem to dig you, join her.

The key is finding a venue that is busy enough with not too many people sitting down that way no one will notice you are alone and if a girl asks who you are with, say you're friend is one their way or you just got here and your friend cancelled on you, your friend met a girl and left with her or you are here with a friend but lost him.

Good luck.

Post: #5

I find that even when I go out with friends you end up solo anywayz.
1) dudes don't approach and just stand there watching the DJ.
2) when u r with players they find girls

the only good thing about going out with friends is u r in social mood. If they don't do drugs off course.

Post: #6

As someone who often goes to shows alone (my local friends aren't into the same type of music that I am - they are uncultured buffoons), I thought I'd chime in here...

The best part about rolling solo to a music venue and gaming is the abundance of situational openers you can use (between sets of course). There's a lot going on at a good show. You could creep up to an indie chick and ask her how she knows the band. You can make fun of the bassist's hair (this can backfire if she's dating the bassist - it happens). Ask her if she liked the set. Make a bet about what song a band will close with.

Music venues also offer good logistics for putting in work. If the place is crowded, you have an easy excuse to groove up nice and close to her while she's making doe eyes at the lead singer. Point out how small his package looks smashed into his skinny jeans. People love to booze at shows, so if you decide to kick it by the bar, chicks will be cycling in and out between the bar and the stage area. You can run game in this situation much like you would at a club when girls are coming to/from the dancefloor.

Great Scott is a really small venue, and it's the type of place where bands will hang around after their sets to mingle. I always make sure to talk to band members and congratulate them on a good set - musicians like to have their egos stroked, so they're almost always receptive. If I'm familiar with the act, I'll talk a bit about how I heard about them. If they're new to me, I'll get some backstory from the band members. The key is to get a short conversation going with the musicians - girls will see this and think 1.) you know a bit about music 2.) you're an affable, friendly dude 3.) you may even know a band member (demonstrating some value). Any girl that was already curious about you will likely approach you and ask how you know the band. Tell her you knew them before they got popular and it's great to see their following gain some momentum. Part of you doesn't want to give up the band you used to carry around in your back pocket, but you can't help but be happy for them.

You're in. Do work.

Post: #7

(11-05-2012 04:47 PM)Armenian Wrote:  I also recently started going out solo because all my friends are married/relationship or work early weekends and like presidentcarter I traveled alone and went out alone last year but wouldn't do it at home until recently.

I like to practice on girls in the street before I select a venue. They are more friendly and their bitch shield is down. Maybe find out where they are going. Who knows, if they seem to dig you, join her.

The key is finding a venue that is busy enough with not too many people sitting down that way no one will notice you are alone and if a girl asks who you are with, say you're friend is one their way or you just got here and your friend cancelled on you, your friend met a girl and left with her or you are here with a friend but lost him.

Good luck.

This is bad advice. The key is to be as confident as you are trying to look. I don't make excuses; if I want to go out by myself, that's what the fuck I want to do. Don't make excuses, don't lie about friends cancelling or being on their way; be confident that you're doing exactly what you want to do. I have had girls tease me for a second at the outset, but when I turn it around ("why do I need a male escort to go out?") they let it go and the conversation is fine. As long as you're confident and partray it to others, you'll be fine.

Post: #8

the key to going out by yourself is to go where there are lots of singles. i go out by myself cause I don't have a lot friends, and it's hard as fuck to meet friends in a new town (depending on the town, you're in boston so it's gonna be easier).

DO NOT go where there are a bunch of friends sitting or standing at a table. You're gonna stick out like a big zit, and people are gonna be whispering, "what's wrong with him?" "he must be weird he has no friends." that shit sucks, and people suck.

go where there are lots of singles, and it's all good.

like in real estate: location, location, location

venue selection, venue selection, venue selection

Post: #9

(11-06-2012 12:14 PM)JohnKreese Wrote:  ("why do I need a male escort to go out?")

I'm stealing this. I often use this mindset and demeanor but I like the way you've worded this - though I might replace "escort" with "chaperone."

Well played.

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To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #10

Nice job! I went out solo for the first time in August and I was kicking myself for not doing it sooner. It is truly an eye-opening experience, and if you manage to pull or even get a number on your own at a bar by yourself, you feel godlike.

Now that it's getting cold I've gotten WAY too lazy about going solo, but I may start back up again to catch some desperate pre-NYE chicks

My advice is to root through these pages and get an iron-clad opening for chicks at the bar. The first time I went out I blanked completely and got so nervous that I ran some absolutely awful game. The second time I had some fallback openers memorized and felt much more confident and in control.

Post: #11

My problem is when riding solo, I can never find a girl who is alone or at least temporarily separated from her friend(s). Cockblocking ensues or the girl I am interested in will pass me to her less attracted single friend.
I am now looking for a wing man to entertain the friend.
Are you guys finding this as well? Maybe it's a Canadian thing as Roosh noted on his stint in Montreal.

Post: #12

(11-06-2012 05:45 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(11-06-2012 12:14 PM)JohnKreese Wrote:  ("why do I need a male escort to go out?")

I'm stealing this. I often use this mindset and demeanor but I like the way you've worded this - though I might replace "escort" with "chaperone."

Well played.

come to think of it, I normally use chaperone, too.

Post: #13

JohnKreese you have no idea how long I've been trying to find the perfect line when girls ask me that at certain venues. Either I would give them an answer that came across as rude or a little fabricated. That line is simple, effective, and direct. Its fucking gold!

Post: #14

(11-06-2012 07:33 PM)Armenian Wrote:  My problem is when riding solo, I can never find a girl who is alone or at least temporarily separated from her friend(s). Cockblocking ensues or the girl I am interested in will pass me to her less attracted single friend.
I am now looking for a wing man to entertain the friend.
Are you guys finding this as well? Maybe it's a Canadian thing as Roosh noted on his stint in Montreal.

Yup, SECOND THAT !!! I only ONCE encountered a girl out alone. Only once in three years going out. And they stay together, hell they even go together to the bathroom .

My experience about winging is that it's a preselection thing. The advantage about having a wing is not that he keeps the other girl busy because their interaction will break soon or later. The real advantage is that the girl sees that you are "normal" (you have friends).

Post: #15

Going Solo is magical. Most times I go with my cousin, or in a group, witch is cool. But way more lays when Iam out with my cousin. Any way I have went out a few times af home, and when Iam traveling I do it a lot.

Its good to know, where to find girls, since your alone, and won´t stick to some randoms, there just are showing you where to go. But its stille better, then walk around for hours, between shitty venues, then go and ask a group of betas where they see the most hot girls, and hope they wont go!

I had only semi succes in Berling, but found a nice Vodkabar, in the western area near kurfursten dam, some nice slavic girls. And secound night, after some propper shots, we went to the eastern area of the city, and i sleept in here apartment. I raw dawged here, like I do. And left before she woke.

Go Solo, have no regrets, play it like your Sinetra. They will belive you, and then fuck you. Hard