Post: #1

Met a girl over a month ago, who i took out we made out but never fucked. She was odd about it, said she didn't want to fuck that night because we spent too much time drinking and we shouldn't gotten to it quicker. Feisty type of chic. But she said we should "get straight to it" the following night. (even offered to pay for hotel, as I live w the rents and she refuses to go to a home w parents in it) She flaked. Then called me to reset, whereupon she flaked again. I kind of feel like she still wants o fuck, but needs the right type of aggressiveness to get her out. It's been a solid month since I spoke to her, as I felt if I called or texted another time it would seem desperate.

I feel if i text the right thing now, I'll get her. Just not sure what that might be. Would direct help? "hey we never...finished up, lets meet up" or something more subtle...?

Post: #2

Forget about her.

Post: #3

If you're concerned about looking desperate non sequitur text messages can be great since they make it look like you're not initiating. She may have flaked because of the pressure that you introduced by saying you should get right down to it the next time. Keep it ambiguous next time.

Here's the relevant post:
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/07/30/n...itur-game/

Post: #4

(06-27-2011 01:22 PM)Geronimo Wrote:  Forget about her.

I'm currently busy with a columbian chic, I'm not spending any time thinking about the one I posted about (Turkish), but i figured, its worth one last shot...

Post: #5

(06-27-2011 01:24 PM)Caligula Wrote:  If you're concerned about looking desperate non sequitur text messages can be great since they make it look like you're not initiating. She may have flaked because of the pressure that you introduced by saying you should get right down to it the next time. Keep it ambiguous next time.

Here's the relevant post:
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/07/30/n...itur-game/

no, no. she said that to me. in person.

Post: #6

(06-27-2011 01:18 PM)evanb Wrote:  Met a girl over a month ago, who i took out we made out but never fucked. She was odd about it, said she didn't want to fuck that night because we spent too much time drinking and we shouldn't gotten to it quicker. Feisty type of chic. But she said we should "get straight to it" the following night. (even offered to pay for hotel, as I live w the rents and she refuses to go to a home w parents in it) She flaked. Then called me to reset, whereupon she flaked again. I kind of feel like she still wants o fuck, but needs the right type of aggressiveness to get her out. It's been a solid month since I spoke to her, as I felt if I called or texted another time it would seem desperate.

I feel if i text the right thing now, I'll get her. Just not sure what that might be. Would direct help? "hey we never...finished up, lets meet up" or something more subtle...?

I wouldnt send a direct text referring to hooking up. Forget about that.

Send in restart text that shows you are not invested neither making an effort. Refer to something harmless she might have done - or you know she likes - in the last month. Make it end with a question but do not invite her out. Then wait.
If she responds go from there.

I want to stress it is crucial your text shows little effort on your behalf. If there is a chance to rekindle what you had is definitely not displaying major interest.

Once I had a buddy in a similar situation: he fucked this girl he barely knew but afterwards she went cold. She started flaking on him until she reached the point she completely stopped responding.
He tried polite calls, extended text message invitation to some party, everything: nothing. No answers. Too beta.

When I heard the story I grabbed his phone and texted some very shallow message "Hanging with some buddies in Venice tonight. You?"
5 min later she texted back. He was surprised.
What's the morale of the story?
Show that you arent invested in her. Your lack of effort will let her understand you have no qualms about moving on.

Post: #7

(06-27-2011 01:31 PM)Oblivion77 Wrote:  

(06-27-2011 01:18 PM)evanb Wrote:  Met a girl over a month ago, who i took out we made out but never fucked. She was odd about it, said she didn't want to fuck that night because we spent too much time drinking and we shouldn't gotten to it quicker. Feisty type of chic. But she said we should "get straight to it" the following night. (even offered to pay for hotel, as I live w the rents and she refuses to go to a home w parents in it) She flaked. Then called me to reset, whereupon she flaked again. I kind of feel like she still wants o fuck, but needs the right type of aggressiveness to get her out. It's been a solid month since I spoke to her, as I felt if I called or texted another time it would seem desperate.

I feel if i text the right thing now, I'll get her. Just not sure what that might be. Would direct help? "hey we never...finished up, lets meet up" or something more subtle...?

I wouldnt send a direct text referring to hooking up. Forget about that.

Send in restart text that shows you are not invested neither making an effort. Refer to something harmless she might have done - or you know she likes - in the last month. Make it end with a question but do not invite her out. Then wait.
If she responds go from there.

I want to stress it is crucial your text shows little effort on your behalf. If there is a chance to rekindle what you had is definitely not displaying major interest.

Once I had a buddy in a similar situation: he fucked this girl he barely knew but afterwards she went cold. She started flaking on him until she reached the point she completely stopped responding.
He tried polite calls, extended text message invitation to some party, everything: nothing. No answers. Too beta.

When I heard the story I grabbed his phone and texted some very shallow message "Hanging with some buddies in Venice tonight. You?"
5 min later she texted back. He was surprised.
What's the morale of the story?
Show that you arent invested in her. Your lack of effort will let her understand you have no qualms about moving on.

thanks. useful.

Post: #8

So you had one little hook up with this chick, nothing else really ever popped off, she's made no effort to be in touch with you for anything, and a month later you want to hit her up to try to see if she's down to fuck now?

If you think you seem desperate, it's because you are acting like it.

You obviously didn't really mean that much to her, and in all of this passed time she's moved on to the next dude(s).

And just another note, I'm having a hard time understanding why dudes keep going out of their way to emphasize the nationalities of the chicks in their lives?.

It's one thing if it provides context to the situation, but more often than not it's useless information. My guess is dudes think we're just supposed to assume the bitch is hot and/or their game is transcendental, because she's Colombian, Turkish, or whatever.

Post: #9

When is the last time you contacted her?
Who contacted who last?
Where did you meet her?


If you were the last one to contact her, and it was about a month ago, and you met her at a bar, chances are she's already banging someone else and your ship has sailed. If not, there might be a chance, if you just send a "What's up" text. Very basic, and if she responds exchange one or two more bullshit texts and then ask her out for a drink this Thursday.

Post: #10

There's a very low chance this will work. But one percent is a hell of a lot better than zero.

Post: #11

You can frame it so that it appears YOU have flaking on her all this time with a text like, "Hey xxx, sorry I've been MIA. What have you been up to?"

Post: #12

I always operate under the assumption that if you haven't banged a girl shortly after meeting her, then it's never gonna happen. I think even if you've just kind of seen a girl here or there, or she knows who you are for awhile based on things like work, school, shared hangouts, but haven't banged her yet, the odds of it happening are almost zero.

I think I read on one game site (can't remember which one right now) that the longer you've known a girl for without banging her, the more reasons she can think up to say no.

Does anyone have any stories of actually banging a girl after you knew her for awhile? (and I don't mean you were both teenagers in highschool and it was your first relationship or something)

Post: #13

(06-27-2011 08:28 PM)Roosh Wrote:  You can frame it so that it appears YOU have flaking on her all this time with a text like, "Hey xxx, sorry I've been MIA. What have you been up to?"

Roosh that's awesome!

Post: #14

get out of the text game if she isn't responsive....u will feel ease at ur head.

Post: #15

(06-27-2011 08:28 PM)Roosh Wrote:  You can frame it so that it appears YOU have flaking on her all this time with a text like, "Hey xxx, sorry I've been MIA. What have you been up to?"

FOLLOW UP: I texted "hey, sorry I've been MIA i've been bz, whatve u been up to!" She immediately was excited to hear from me, telling me she missed me etc. and wanted to hang "asap" and "if not tonite definitely this weekend" said "shell try" to come tonite. She didnt text me saying she was coming. I meanwhile went to a different girls apt who I had met a week before through my ex fuck buddy, and fucked her, since i hadnt heard from Miss Flakey. She writes on my fb wall at 2 am ":X". Tells me to txt her. Flakes, doesnt respond. FUCKING CUNT. I would love to call her that to her face. But props roosh, at least initially your text idea worked. And props to me for getting laid that night anyway.

Post: #16

Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but broads will be broads. I like Roosh's suggestion, but thought I'd add one more to the list for future reference.

Usually if I'm trying to re-engage a broad I haven't spoken with in a while, I'll simply text her a one-liner joke (sometimes an intentionally cheesy one). For example, "What do you call 4 bullfighters in quicksand?" This serves a number of purposes:

1) It's totally random and unexpected
2) You're not showing interest in her, just sharing a joke (it looks like something you could've just forwarded to a bunch of people)
3) It encourages a response since you haven't given her the answer and she'll likely want to know what it is
4) It makes her laugh and sets things off on a good tone (assuming the joke is funny and not so common that she'll have heard it before)
5) It's likely quite different than the boring texts other guys are sending her

If she replies, text her the answer. If she replies again after that, you've got your foot in the door and can pretty much take it anywhere from there. I've had a very strong response rate with this method (of course, whether or not one can keep things alive after the initial contact is another story).

-LS

P.S. Cheesy isn't a bad thing if she knows you're just being playful. Answer to joke: "Quatro cinco."

Post: #17

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Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but broads will be broads. I like Roosh's suggestion, but thought I'd add one more to the list for future reference.

Usually if I'm trying to re-engage a broad I haven't spoken with in a while, I'll simply text her a one-liner joke (sometimes an intentionally cheesy one). For example, "What do you call 4 bullfighters in quicksand?" This serves a number of purposes:


hey sounds cool I'll try that next time! I thought u were a chic w tht username lol