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What do you guys think of direct game?
By direct game I don't mean, "wussup gurl, where you get a ass like that, holla back atcha boy..." or any of that crap. I mean something like this:
Let's say you're walking down the street, see a girl you want, come up to her and say, "I couldn't help but notice you and I had to come over and tell you that I think you're really cute. I'd like to meet you for coffee[or substitute a bar for alcohol], can I have your number?"
What do you guys think of just a direct approach like that without warming her up with conversation or techniques? Should you or should you not say something about her looks? Or should you comment on something unique about her instead, like her style of dress?
I'm trying to come up with a universal opener. Something I don't have to put any thought into, that can be used in any situation, especially one where time may be limited.
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| 10-26-2009 11:34 AM |
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UgSlayer
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
Direct works well, but there are factors that go into it. In this situation, looks matter. As do subcommunications. It helps to be playful after the opener and stack forward, so she's not ruminating on the fact that you called her cute. It's better if you move forward, keeping her engaged, but she still has it in the back of her mind that you want to fuck her. Direct game is great. There are advantages and disadvantages to both types, but it's easier to screen out girls with direct. If you've gone direct on her and she's still around, it's a given to escalate quicker and concentrate a bit more in helping her feel comfortable around you. Indirect is great, but you don't know right off the bat if the chick is willing to go home with you, whereas with direct you can tell within the first couple minutes (unless you do something to fuck it up).
Hope this helps.
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thegmanifesto
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
(10-26-2009 02:49 PM)UgSlayer Wrote: I was watching some youtube video with Sinn a while back, and he said "the enemy is not the blowout, it's the 20 minute set to nowhere." Or something of that nature. He was talking about some push-pull opener, and how it either blows him out (with girls with no sense of humor) or leads to very fast escalation. I think this is true with direct openers as well.
Speaking of push-pull, you can integrate a bit of push-pull with direct. Something like "you look too sexy tonight...you seem like trouble...I better stay away from you". Then stack forward immediately.
This does a couple things:push pull, it states your intent, it shows you are playful and funny, but it still shows you're a challenge.
My biggest advice is just to experiment with direct game and see what works for you.
Great advice.
And Sinn is absolutely correct.
A girl that rejects you right away is great. You wasted no time or energy.
A girl that you hang out with for 4 hours and ends up going nowhere is your worst enemy.
"Something like "you look too sexy tonight...you seem like trouble...I better stay away from you". Then stack forward immediately."
That is good Game. Or a variation of that.
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
(10-26-2009 11:34 AM)speakeasy Wrote: By direct game I don't mean, "wussup gurl, where you get a ass like that, holla back atcha boy..." or any of that crap. I mean something like this:
Let's say you're walking down the street, see a girl you want, come up to her and say, "I couldn't help but notice you and I had to come over and tell you that I think you're really cute. I'd like to meet you for coffee[or substitute a bar for alcohol], can I have your number?"
What do you guys think of just a direct approach like that without warming her up with conversation or techniques? Should you or should you not say something about her looks? Or should you comment on something unique about her instead, like her style of dress?
I'm trying to come up with a universal opener. Something I don't have to put any thought into, that can be used in any situation, especially one where time may be limited.
i never got the number of a girl when i asked for it like ''can i have your number?''
being direct means you are not afraid to show her that you want to bang her and interested in sex....by persuation,she knows that you want to bang her but you are insecure.
result: dont ask !..be direct !
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
(10-27-2009 11:47 AM)yoyo Wrote: I think I'm a pretty decent looking guy, but direct game just never really sets the right frame. If you do get the number, the percieved value of the transaction always elevates her, so the follow up is always soft from her side.
The key to getting a good follow up - which is a must when it comes to getting laid is leaving the conversation in the right frame. If she thinks you value her too much, she won't respect you and thus will blow you off.
Just get the number, act like its not big deal and go from there. I think indirect game is really the only way to get regular pussy.
What a shallow perspective..
only universal form of game is direct game. it works everywhere. its not lines, routines, manipulation or bullshit. it works best and perhaps only when you are genuinely interested and mean what you say.
pull a few girls this way and you'll find manipulation feels like cheating.. also you realize there's a definite correlation between how well manipulation works and how crappy the girl is (not talking looks, but substance)..
developing a positive vibe and natural direct game = game over
none of this has anything to do with being a "beta male", cheesy compliments or lovey dovey lines
Quote:I'm trying to come up with a universal opener. Something I don't have to put any thought into, that can be used in any situation, especially one where time may be limited.
Eye contact -> "Hi whats your name/hi my name is"... not trying to be cocky or a wise-ass but that's a good stand-by.
(This post was last modified: 12-16-2009 03:01 PM by deadgabacho.)
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
(12-16-2009 10:42 PM)UgSlayer Wrote: Another good frame when using direct game is that you cannot help but approach the girl. Like, you have other shit to do, but you can't leave without talking to her. Not from a needy place, but from a place of: you are a man, you follow through on your desires and act when you intend to do something. You are not afraid to take what you want. If you're not used to this type of thinking, it takes a lot of blowouts and a good amount of success before you truly internalize that kind of frame, though.
To be able to pull this off requires a LOOOTTT of confidence, because when you show your intentions to a girl in this manner, you are basically putting yourself out there 100%. I would like to see someone do this before I would try it, because I can't imagine going up to a girl and putting myself out there to this degree... I would feel like I am basically submitting to a girl I don't know.
Could you explain this approach a little bit more. I see where you're coming from, but could you give a little more info to the frame of mind you have when you do this kind of approach?
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UgSlayer
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
(12-16-2009 10:59 PM)kerouac Wrote: (12-16-2009 10:42 PM)UgSlayer Wrote: Another good frame when using direct game is that you cannot help but approach the girl. Like, you have other shit to do, but you can't leave without talking to her. Not from a needy place, but from a place of: you are a man, you follow through on your desires and act when you intend to do something. You are not afraid to take what you want. If you're not used to this type of thinking, it takes a lot of blowouts and a good amount of success before you truly internalize that kind of frame, though.
To be able to pull this off requires a LOOOTTT of confidence, because when you show your intentions to a girl in this manner, you are basically putting yourself out there 100%. I would like to see someone do this before I would try it, because I can't imagine going up to a girl and putting myself out there to this degree... I would feel like I am basically submitting to a girl I don't know.
Could you explain this approach a little bit more. I see where you're coming from, but could you give a little more info to the frame of mind you have when you do this kind of approach?
It comes down to being fearless in your approach. Even if she blows you out the worst you've ever blown out, you don't really care. You've got choices and an abundance of women at your disposal. To address the fact that you would feel like you're submitting, I wouldn't think of it like that at all. It's not productive to place that much gravity on an interaction with someone you don't even know at that point. Women want you and you are choosing her. She should be flattered. If not, no big deal. Getting rejected is just a fact of life when you approach. The best players are akin to the best quarterbacks. The best quarterbacks have a short memory. They don't get a big head or too comfortable because of the last touchdown and they don't get down on themselves for throwing a pick. They just play to the best of their ability.
The guys who approach a lot and get blown out often early in their pickup careers and therefore build a resistance to being emotionally affected by anything a girl does eventually become the best of the best and pull consistently.
For an exaggerated example of this, imagine the mindset of the guy who stars in Twilight at the party following the premiere of the film.
The guys who get the most ass are stars, sociopaths, and guys who approach like machines.
You said that it requires a lot of confidence. I can only respond that confidence is forged through experience. The more you approach and escalate, the more confidence you will achieve.
(This post was last modified: 12-16-2009 11:56 PM by UgSlayer.)
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
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RE: What do you guys think of direct game?
direct game works like 50/50, but i don't think your line: "you are cute, couldn't help but notice....can i have your number..." works, that is a lame way of approaching a girl on the street, i think.
It has nothing to do with Game, but one advice I got from my main teacher (music conservatory) about travelling with my instrument on board planes after 2001 was: go to the counter to check-in, look secure to the eyes, amicably but not asking, never ask if you "can bring your case on board instead of checking"....transmit security that you know you are taking it inside. Ever after that, i have taken my guitar with me on board, even 2 of them and the counter girls and stewardesses have been all over me to help me.
Same goes in direct aproach, you should bring your body language together with a good opener right, but don't really ask, have it as a given. Many times you will get rejected, but at least you didn't waste time nor made the bitch feel absolutely special.
In my book, i never compliment or make the girls feel too special, the special is me, the honour is theirs..
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