Post: #1

I'm in a sort of predicament that I'd always hoped for but not sure what my next move should be.

Some backstory: There's this girl (Mel) that used to be best friends with an ex-gf of mine, and she and I always had a crush for each other but it never went anywhere because my ex-gf was always in the picture and I'm loyal, so, didn't escalate. Mel and I have a long history together, I met her before I dated her best friend and at one point my ex-gf was jealous of her (because she found out she had a crush on me) but that's a whole other story. That was six years ago, and between then and two weeks ago, I've seen her or talked to her very rarely because she got into a relationship and I've been working on my inner game.

Then, two weeks ago: Mel and I are both attending a mutual friend's gathering at their house and she practically jumps in my arms when she sees me, looks up at me and, softly, tells me that she broke up with her boyfriend of three years. She wasn't even upset, and all I had to say was, "Yeah, breakups suck." We continue to look into each other's eyes but I'm speechless. Throughout the rest of the party, we spent time together here in there between convos with different groups of friends, separated but would always eye fuck each other from across the room. I was at war with myself as to what I should do but nothing came of that night. As everyone, slowly, left the party she departed with some friends but not before coming up to me, kissing me on the cheek and tells me she'll call me later. (I'm guilty. I've put this girl up on a pedestal because of how she has always checked off all my boxes). I definitely want to sleep with her and turn it into an LTR but I'm not sure how to approach this one. Never been in this situation before.

Not sure what other info I can provide you gents with but she calls/texts me often since we met at that party. Any advice on what I should do, now, would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Post: #2

You should not relate to her, because she just wants to be with you to reach her "friend"!

Post: #3

What did she tell you when you invited her over to your place for drinks?

Post: #4

If she's attractive she wont be single long. You better put the petal to the metal else you'll miss your turn

Post: #5

Yes invite her over to catch up. Fuck her brains out and keep inviting her over if you like banging

Post: #6

(03-07-2019 06:19 AM)Hombre de hielo Wrote:  You should not relate to her, because she just wants to be with you to reach her "friend"!

Not sure, exactly, what you mean by "not relate to her" or "reach her 'friend'!". Could you clarify?

(03-07-2019 08:54 AM)Turnus Wrote:  What did she tell you when you invited her over to your place for drinks?

Guilty. That, unfortunately, I have not yet done. At the party, I wondered if she was putting me in the friend zone and just wanted a shoulder to cry on. So, I played it nonchalant. I never went to her, she always came to me, put her arms around me, and some friends took notice. While at the party, on the down low, friends asked if she and I were an item but I gave them blank answers because I had no idea what was going through her head.

(03-07-2019 09:12 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  If she's attractive she wont be single long. You better put the petal to the metal else you'll miss your turn

Fuck. PT, You're right.

She is gorgeous. In my opinion, I'd put her as a HB 8.5 when she's not wearing makeup and a 9 when she goes out (she's a French brunette, 26 yrs old, slim, light skin and a banging 5' 7" body, if that helps paint a picture. She also models for a skincare company out of France). In the past she always had guys hollering at her and, at the time, I didn't escalate because I was a newborn to game, dating her best friend, and I just... didn't know what to do with her advances.

(03-07-2019 12:04 PM)eradicator Wrote:  Yes invite her over to catch up. Fuck her brains out and keep inviting her over if you like banging

Oh, I most certainly want to plow her. Just sent her a text to get together. I'll keep you all posted.

Post: #7

(03-07-2019 10:58 PM)UniversalMen Wrote:  

(03-07-2019 06:19 AM)Hombre de hielo Wrote:  You should not relate to her, because she just wants to be with you to reach her "friend"!

Not sure, exactly, what you mean by "not relate to her" or "reach her 'friend'!". Could you clarify?

This friend of your ex girlfriend is only interested in you, to compete with your ex! It's the old women's competition.

Do not have any contact with her any more. In that case, she'll only be using you!

*Disregard my messages on this topic if your ex-girlfriend's friend is rich, as rich women do not dispute sexuality like poor women, rich women dispute how much they can consume!

Post: #8

(03-08-2019 04:15 PM)Hombre de hielo Wrote:  This friend of your ex girlfriend is only interested in you, to compete with your ex! It's the old women's competition.

Do not have any contact with her any more. In that case, she'll only be using you!

*Disregard my messages on this topic if your ex-girlfriend's friend is rich, as rich women do not dispute sexuality like poor women, rich women dispute how much they can consume!

The guy makes no mention that Mel and his ex-gf are even friends or even hang in similar circles anymore, so why you would make this assumption I don't know. It makes no sense. It's been 6 years, an eternity at that age!

Don't give out bad advice.

Besides, even if you were somehow right, why shouldn't he fuck her and have a good time with her? Maybe he wants to make it a LTR already so a warning would be applicable, but why in the hell should he not pursue a girl that is attractive to him?

To the OP:

Go for it (sounds like you've already invited her over). If she shows up and is immediately all over you, make out with her, then pull back a little. Then ramp it up, then pull back a little. Then go for the kill when she's practically begging for it.

Have a great time. French brunette with a rocking body sounds awesome!

Post: #9

(03-07-2019 06:19 AM)Hombre de hielo Wrote:  This friend of your ex girlfriend is only interested in you, to compete with your ex! It's the old women's competition.

Do not have any contact with her any more. In that case, she'll only be using you!

*Disregard my messages on this topic if your ex-girlfriend's friend is rich, as rich women do not dispute sexuality like poor women, rich women dispute how much they can consume!

I think I see the confusion. My ex-gf and I do not have any contact with each other. We stopped communicating nearly several years ago, and Mel and I have always stayed in touch since then (I even visited her in France, two years ago).

(03-08-2019 04:24 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  To the OP:

Go for it (sounds like you've already invited her over). If she shows up and is immediately all over you, make out with her, then pull back a little. Then ramp it up, then pull back a little. Then go for the kill when she's practically begging for it.

Have a great time. French brunette with a rocking body sounds awesome!

Thank you, good sir! I meant to keep you guys posted earlier but been real busy. Unfortunately, I think PT called it on this one.

After I messaged Mel last week I was expecting to receive an excited reply from her but NOTHING. She's gone completed cold on me LOL My best friend called me and asked me if I had sealed the deal yet and I was honest, "Nope. I waited too long to make my move."

If by some miracle, she decides to call/text me to go out then I certainly won't make the same mistake twice.

Thanks for the support gents. If any updates occur with her, I'll let y'all know.

Post: #10

This is a solid case of a "don't fuck it up" bang.

Post: #11

Universal men not to highjack your post but I had a question of mine own to the members.. it’s in regard to my own “what to do next”..

I approached a cute girl at a mall working the “hairstyle straighteners” stand. I bs’d with her a bit that I’m looking for a product for moms bday then switched to personal convo. Chatted for few minutes found out wheres she’s originally from told her where I’m from she said I’m funny ect. Told her I’m not sold on those hairstyle products yet and that I think we should meet for a coffee so she could convince me then on a sale. She ended up giving me her business card but no personal #. She said she works there weekends. She was overall pretty open to the convo. My question is should I be persistent & hit her up there next weekend and ask her out for a coffee or its a dead end?