Post: #1

The more i travel around the world,the more i grow up, the more money i make, the more women i fuck,the less i feel inclined about having friends.

I used to have a good best friend that his life was focusing strictly in women, we would go out to aplace and he wouldnt talk much to guys, he was so into women that his only friends were me and this other dude that used to roll with us.

I have 4 or 5 great friends in my hometown, i am always travelling around the world so i dont have much time to socialise with them. And in those 3rd world countries where i have been mostly travelling lately, seems like those people are only interested in your money and get some shit out of you, most of them dont believe in true friendships, dont get me wrong, i have also met great people here that seemed like real people till now and i would go out with them when im bored but the majority aint worth a penny.

I also think that most of people that i meet are not that interesting..put it this way, none of my close friends have finished university, they have limited goals, always complaining how hard is life, we still talk about the same shit we used to talk years ago (hiphop, beef, women, dumb ass jokes)..i have met two guys on one of my trips that gave me a good impression..guys that were truly focused in life, dont know if it was the fact of them being americans, i think americans are more smart in terms of succeeding comparing to us british. They also criticised me about the type of people i would talk to, basically if i feel the person is real and has a great sense of humour, then i become their friend,i wouldnt give a fuck if they have nothing going on with their lives.

Sometimes i just think to myself, im better off without those type of friends, but i would like to hear what are you guys like in terms of friendship.

Post: #2

I found it hard to maintain good relationships with friends while I was moving from one place to another.

Post: #3

It's definitely hard to maintain good relationships while traveling. I've lost contact with a solid amount of high school and university friends in Philly and New York for this reason. Simultaneously, I've grown bigger and better networks out here in Asia.

I can count on one hand my true friends in this world.

Post: #4

Everyone needs a friend, you can have all the success, money and women in the world and still be lonely. A good friend is worth his weight in gold, who cares if they don't have the same interests or outlook on life as you.

Post: #5

The fact that you ask this question makes me think you have some concern over your lack of friends.

I think your idea of "friend" is a bit skewed as the term has a wide range of meanings.

I have many friends wherever I go, but I can count on one hand the amount of (I'm using this cheesy-ass term for clarity) "blood brothers" I have. Guys who have my back and I'd have theirs.

I'm not sure if you are talking about the former or the latter.

Post: #6

with technology, the world is small. I still call and correspond to a very good friend of mine in Europe. I send him pictures, vids, call him, hit him up on messenger..so we still pretty much maintain good contact..if they are worthy friends, you will find a way to communicate..you don't necessarily have to see each other physically to be somewhat of good friends..

Post: #7

Yeah, I'd say friends are necessary. When I think back on the best times of my life, it always involves friends...

Post: #8

Even when I'm on a hot streak and banging multiple women a week I still need time to get away and relax. I can't really do that with women, so yeah I would say guy friends are necessary.

Post: #9

Quote:When I think back on the best times of my life, it always involves friends...

Indeed, almost everything is better with company, preferably a good friend.

Post: #10

Most of my so-called friends from back home in Halifax, Canada are not worth a good god damn, the ones who are still there, anyway. I wouldn't give them a squirt of piss if their faces were on fire and there's one of them who will get a good solid smack across his face if I run into that pussy again.

I live in Asia now and I've made a few good friends over here. It's essential to have some allies of the same gender, but just make sure that they aren't snakes in the grass. In general, I prefer the company of a good woman, but some good guy friends are essential.

Post: #11

I would like to add that you're better off with nobody, than with some fake friends who will try to undermine you behind your back.

Post: #12

Friends are more important than poon. If you honestly believe strange pussy has more value to your life than close friends I pity you. I wonder if you really had genuine friends at all if you could choose women over your mates.

Fuck, its only pussy dudes. Its not that valuable and you are surrounded by it daily.

Post: #13

I didn't say that. What I did say, was that you are better off with no friends than you are with shitty friends. The friends that I associate with now are a higher calibre of people than the ones I knew when I was younger.

Post: #14

Here are two interestingly related posts

http://www.freedomtwentyfive.com/?p=737#comment-636

http://lawsofthecave.blogspot.com/

Post: #15

Quote: If you honestly believe strange pussy has more value to your life than close friends I pity you.

I find that only betas choose strange pussy over close friends.

I rather have no friends than random dudes to hang out with just because I don't want to go out alone. Don't make friends for the sake of making friends, but because there is a mutual connection and chemistry that makes time spent in that friendship worthwhile and fulfilling.

Post: #16

(06-06-2011 08:12 PM)BusanCanuck Wrote:  Most of my so-called friends from back home in Halifax, Canada are not worth a good god damn, the ones who are still there, anyway. I wouldn't give them a squirt of piss if their faces were on fire and there's one of them who will get a good solid smack across his face if I run into that pussy again.

I live in Asia now and I've made a few good friends over here. It's essential to have some allies of the same gender, but just make sure that they aren't snakes in the grass. In general, I prefer the company of a good woman, but some good guy friends are essential.

I am interested as to why you say that about Halifax peeps in particular. I used to visit there regularly. I am curious about your perceived loyalty of your Halifax friends. Please elaborate

Post: #17

Well it's not so much Halifax in general, I've known many cool people from there as well. I should have phrased my initial statement differently.

I did have some people who I thought were my friends, but they were really just passive-aggressive snakes in the grass. I cut them off completely and I can recognize that kind of behaviour a lot easier now.

When I have more brainpower, I'll make a more detailed post about what I think of Halifax from living there, but I wasn't trying to say that everyone in Halifax is a punk.

In a nutshell, it can be a nice place to visit, but most of it is pretty sub-par for Canada imo.

Post: #18

When it comes to the the location independent lifestyle, pretty much most if not all my friends from the past have been more or less cut off as they do not understand or have the balls to do the same. They all wish they could do it but I've told them numerous times that it's not something that difficult and that they could also do it if they really put their minds into it. With maybe or 2 friends from high school being the exception who are slowly seeing the light and are doing their thing to get to the promised land of becoming a location independent. It's much better to meet like minded friends and I have met a few of those on the roads that I've kept in touch with.

Post: #19

(06-08-2011 04:13 AM)BusanCanuck Wrote:  Well it's not so much Halifax in general, I've known many cool people from there as well. I should have phrased my initial statement differently.

I did have some people who I thought were my friends, but they were really just passive-aggressive snakes in the grass. I cut them off completely and I can recognize that kind of behaviour a lot easier now.

When I have more brainpower, I'll make a more detailed post about what I think of Halifax from living there, but I wasn't trying to say that everyone in Halifax is a punk.

In a nutshell, it can be a nice place to visit, but most of it is pretty sub-par for Canada imo.

I agree. I am not from Halifax so you don't have to hold back either. I call it as it is, regardless of where I live or am from.

I had a lizard up in Halifax that I used to visit regularly. It's a nice place and the people are very polite..however..I found it was a step back from Toronto (and I am not overly chuffed at Toronto as it is), it rained a lot (and you know how I feel about overcast weather and rain coming from the UK!!)
However, I heard it's easy to slay there (the lizard I was visiting up there was a freak and let me do practically anything I wanted *sinister laugh*.

I might go up there solo (or with a wing) and see if I can pipe some extra lizards when I free up some vac time and some funds..

Post: #20

(06-08-2011 08:12 AM)Vacancier Permanent Wrote:  When it comes to the the location independent lifestyle, pretty much most if not all my friends from the past have been more or less cut off as they do not understand or have the balls to do the same. They all wish they could do it but I've told them numerous times that it's not something that difficult and that they could also do it if they really put their minds into it. With maybe or 2 friends from high school being the exception who are slowly seeing the light and are doing their thing to get to the promised land of becoming a location independent. It's much better to meet like minded friends and I have met a few of those on the roads that I've kept in touch with.

Vacancier , I'm also having a hard time copying with this at the moment.I've reached a level of game-driven lifestyle and personality that my friends can no longer follow.It's very hard to realize that most of my friends in fact no longer hold a connection like it was before.It's like I'm living in a different world.Yes I meet them from time to time,go out etc,but its just not the same.I'm feeling more self-centered then ever before in my life.And I always was a somewhat "popular guy" with lots of mates etc.Actually thinking back I always had this dreams in my mind,about travelling,doing different things and living outside the rat race,but only now I'm getting ready to finally do it.

I'm still trying to "push"some guys to travel with me,to convince them to be part of this location independent lifestyle that I'm heading to,but now I'm realizing that my attempts to convince them were in fact my tricky mind asking for a "crutch",instead of doing things on my own.I'm accepting the fact that to fulfill my dreams I'll need to have balls to do it Solo.You guys are inspiring and helping me a lot since a joined this forum.Thank you all.

Post: #21

Once you travel solo, you gain a type of grit that can't be obtained hanging around with other wimps. My first venture to a 3rd world country that speaks a language that I don't even speak showed me that once you get over that psychological hump, those who will be will be and those who won't won't.

Basically, don't force friendship. If peeps can't hang, they'd cramp your style anyway. Dead weight, holding back your progress.

You'll make friends, don't worry.

Post: #22

If you want to live a location independent lifestyle then you need to get used to the idea that you will be more ofter than not a "lone wolf", your friends from high school or college will not be a part of this lifestyle and they will try to convince you to give it up and do a 9-5, have kids, settle down, etc etc - that whole thing, you guys know what I mean.

As VP said, its better to meet and befriend like minded people who are on the same path than to push your existing friends to follow you. This shit aint for everyone.

Post: #23

"Who gives a fuck about friends..If you mix the baking soda wit it you can get a Benz"

- Young Jeezy (Air Forces)

Post: #24

Friends and family before anything and anyone. My true friends are my family. No hoes would ever come between that and the idea of gaming would never come before that.