Post: #1

Hi, first time posting and im just wondering how to build a conversation with a girl you've just met whether it's in a club/bar or any other public place.

Im quite introvert and don't really interact with many women but im not shy or scared to do so (i was more extrovert when i was younger and this problem didn't occur) If im in a public place (especially with friends) i can go up to a girl and start speaking to her, however the problem is when i do my mind goes blank and i have no clue what to say, you know how to build that conversation thats you to the next step of getting her number.

What general things do you say to a girl on approaching that is deemed successful, something that doesn't create an awkward situation and leaves you looking stupid.

Any pointers would be great.

Post: #2

(08-01-2012 12:02 AM)JamesLouie Wrote:  Hi, first time posting and im just wondering how to build a conversation with a girl you've just met whether it's in a club/bar or any other public place.

Im quite introvert and don't really interact with many women but im not shy or scared to do so (i was more extrovert when i was younger and this problem didn't occur) If im in a public place (especially with friends) i can go up to a girl and start speaking to her, however the problem is when i do my mind goes blank and i have no clue what to say, you know how to build that conversation thats you to the next step of getting her number.

What general things do you say to a girl on approaching that is deemed successful, something that doesn't create an awkward situation and leaves you looking stupid.

Any pointers would be great.

Post: #3

(08-01-2012 12:11 AM)TexasMade Wrote:  

(08-01-2012 12:02 AM)JamesLouie Wrote:  Hi, first time posting and im just wondering how to build a conversation with a girl you've just met whether it's in a club/bar or any other public place.

Im quite introvert and don't really interact with many women but im not shy or scared to do so (i was more extrovert when i was younger and this problem didn't occur) If im in a public place (especially with friends) i can go up to a girl and start speaking to her, however the problem is when i do my mind goes blank and i have no clue what to say, you know how to build that conversation thats you to the next step of getting her number.

What general things do you say to a girl on approaching that is deemed successful, something that doesn't create an awkward situation and leaves you looking stupid.

Any pointers would be great.

I'm a n00b and I approve of this message.

Post: #4

girl's greatest weakness is smart humor., even your the ugliest guy on earth but have great smart humor you will win a girl., she will even get your number first. make a blueprint on your mind that you want good company instead of hitting it fast., you might even get a long time relationship., just be calm, and let out your inner wit.

Post: #5

Before you can have a conversation, you first have to say "hi". Then you can say "how are you today?".

It sounds like this is not a problem for you..

(08-01-2012 12:02 AM)JamesLouie Wrote:  If im in a public place (especially with friends) i can go up to a girl and start speaking to her, however the problem is when i do my mind goes blank and i have no clue what to say

So, approaching is not a problem for you. You are just an inexperienced conversationalist. You need to talk to more people. You need to start talking to everybody and anybody. Practice your conversation with whoever you can.

Talk about what is on your mind...

You are out in public with friends, what are you guys doing?, just be honest...

"hi how are you"
"whats up girls"

They will say..."good", "fine and you", or "hey whats up"

Ask a basic question..

"This place is pretty cool isn't it"
"what do you think of this place?"
"is this place always so crowded/empty"

They will say..."ya, its cool" or "i don't know yet, we've never been here"

You say what you guys are doing..

"im here with my friends, we are just hanging out, i gotta go back to school next month"
"me and my boys are hanging out, enjoying the last month of summer"
"this place is cool, i come here alot with my friends"


Just say what the fuck you are doing. You don't need any special tricks or routines..

"we were thinking of going to the concert"
"we don't know what the fuck we are doing"
"i'm gonna ditch my friends and go get a slice of pizza, im starving"

Say whatever is on your mind. You can't really pre-plan your conversation because you are just a beginner. Keep it simple. Speak honestly about what you are doing..

I know what you are gonna say..But Gio, my mind goes blank right after my opener...

Thats because you haven't had enough practice. Your mind goes blank because you care too much about the interaction. You are not relaxed and free and not giving a fuck. You get nervous. Thats ok, we all went through that in the beginning stages. What you need to do now is practice more, approach more, get into more of these situations.

You got the opener part down. Now, you need to be able to express yourself naturally, don't worry about impressing her, just fucking talk for your own sake. Talk because you are practicing your game. It doesn't matter what she thinks. You are talking for you and your game development. Just use her for practice. Be honest, say whats on your mind.

Maybe, what comes out is.."hey i thought you were cute and i wanted to come say hi".

Thats great. We all did that in the beginning. Its ok because it is your honest feeling. It will be sincere and she will no that you are not playing. Fuck it, put yourself out there like that, Thats the only way to grow and learn and improve.

Keep it simple, just talk from the heart. Don't seek her approval. Fuck what she thinks! Its not about her, its about you!

Do 1000 approaches and your problem will be fixed!

Post: #6

I've been going out fairly a lot now in South Florida and I might need to tweak my approach game a little.

I have opened a lot of lizards with 'Hi, how are you doing?'. Their response is "Fine".
I come through with "Cool, what's your name?"
They tell me and then I tell them mine.
I ask them where they are from and they tell me either some Latin country or here.
There is no reciprocation on a lot of the sets. Does that mean I should immediately eject or is there any other material that I should try before ejecting?

Do I just need to try more sets until I find a lizard that is down?

It seems like I am just playing interview vs interviewee with no response from them.

I have tried working of IOIs but the problem here is that most of them come from lizards who are already with someone. They are quite scandalous here and are always looking for upgrades.

I don't mind churning through sets but I always want to work efficiently. My other problem is that I am intellectual and I can't converse with numbnuts without shooting myself in the foot with an observation that will go over their head.
I have to re-evaluate my conversational pieces and water it way down for the local lizards here.

Any tips or suggestions on amping up the convo piece as well as when to eject from a set?

The black lizards down here have no more interest than any other group. There is no advantage in my experience based on the venues I have gone to, in gaming a black lizard as opposed to any other race.

I was spitting at a black lizard on a Saturday but she was actually from Montreal so it was MUCH easier to converse...

Post: #7

As previously stated above, do more approaches. Your problem comes from inexperience. With experience you'll fix your loss for words when around women.

Post: #8

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Post: #9

(11-05-2012 04:38 AM)Moma Wrote:  Any tips or suggestions on amping up the convo piece as well as when to eject from a set?

For ejection in early set ask for information:
Do you know a good restaurant here?
Where can I get the greasiest taco?
Do you know where is the nearest atm?
Random question according to your location/situation.

Later:
At a bar, go to the toilet, after all, you've been drinking.

Post: #10

I'm also a VERY bad conversationalist (also the reason why I don't have much success) but I found that having "an arsenal of topics" is a good thing.

1) open with what you LIKE about her and WHY.
2) let her know that you find her attractive (verbalize this).
Then you let her know that you find her interesting by asking questions. You give her the feeling that she's desired (a big turnon).
-"How much time did you spend in the bathroom before coming here?" You can play with it, you say "probably alot".
-why did you choose this color?
-you like this kind of music? I like xxxx.
-is this first time you come here?
-what do you wear during the day? In the evening? In the bed? (going sexual)
-do you live together with other people?
-do you have brothers or sisters?
-you liked playing with them when you were young?
-what have you eaten?
-what's your favorite meal?
-how do you make your favorite meal? .... oh, my mother made this with paprika, it was good....
-do you eat this in summer and winter?
-what are your hobbies? You look... let me guess.... like a painter/drugdealer/tennisplayer.
-what do you do for job? What do you study? Let me guess, you look like... a nurse.
-how old are you (let me guess-game)
-what kind of men do you like?
-what qualities are important in your past boyfriends?
-then you go sexual by asking her about her bedroom, color (you guess it's red or pink) Did you choose it yourself?
-ask her if she likes to drink, what kind of drink
-ask her if she does drugs, how often?
-what are your favorite travels
-what place made the biggest impression on you? Why?
-where do you want to go in the future

If she's interested she will lead the conversation toward certain topics. It's YOUR job to change topic and go slowly sexual. Don't be afraid of asking if her past relationships broke down because the sex was not good. Ask her if she likes "slow" or "hard" sex... Ask her what places she has done it. Say you would have sex with her in the shower... Say her that you like to lick ears...

Finally say you have to resist yourself kissing her...

Post: #11

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Note to Self: Read Day Bang again

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #12

Um, yeah, they may have a vagina, boobs, and a butt, however; they are social creatures more so than we are. I generally break the ice with a comment on their shoes, handbag, or scarf, something that you can do smalltalk over.