Post: #1

Here a long story short.

I'll start from the end: few nights ago I banged one of my current best female friends, an 8 in my scale - for some of my friends she is even a 8.5.

During the night, few times she said it had been a bad idea, tried to blame it on alcohol, and said that our friends should know and that we should act as if "this has never happened." To me this sounds typical girls' bullshit. In any case, every time she raised this, I teased her.

I wouldn't mind to repeat (great body) and possibly (and especially) to date her - she is probably one of the smartest girl I have met in years.

Here how things started and why I am not 100% sure of how to deal with this: we became friends when my previous relationship was getting to its end, and this girl became the person I would talk to when at my lowest. She saw me in some very bad days - I am ashamed of how miserable I was.

But she also saw me recovering - during this period I told her about all the girls I was approaching, the telephone numbers I was getting, the make-outs, and the lays I collected. In other words, I have been treating her like if she were a male friend until we had sex.

Lately, she started asking me to go out just the two of us. She never gave any hint she wanted anything more than friendship, but she clearly showed interest - few times she said she needed me as a "wingman", which I interpreted as an indirect suggestion of interest; and when she met interesting guys, she would text me to tell me...

I think we went out just the two of us 3-4 times. Every time we went out, I approached other girls, told her about girls I approached, and/or told her my goal that night was to meet/bang other girls.

My feeling is that she didn't just want to get laid. If she had wanted only that, she could have gone with one of the many guys who approach her every night, not with one of her friends - I might be wrong, obviously, but really?

The problem is that I think she has some issues related to relationships: she often says stuff like she is cold, she doesn't have emotions or other non-sense. The only way I interpreted it is that she use this as a defense mechanism.

So, my idea is to keep things causal as if nothing had happened and teaser her about anything that might come up - I honestly don't see any other way. But maybe some of you have something to suggest - especially about how to contact her (we used to talk like 2/3 times a week before we had sex...), how to behave when I see her, etc.

Post: #2

Youve been doing things right so far. This next phase is very critical. She most likely going to be distant/aloof/confused about you too. Maybe even tells you that this is not going to go any further. This is her second guessing herself in doubting if your worthy enough. You gotta show your aloofness now. Dont become needy or desperate like most guys will. Your judgement is clouded when you think she is "cold" or "not relationship worth" the truth is that her attraction (and rapport) level is high enough to sleep with you but not high enough to make her get exclusive. So sit back, go to the gym, keep plates spinning and treat her like youve been doing and with enough PATIENCE and game youll get her.

Post: #3

She's been completely RUINED by another man.Her words are some what conveying that message.Pay more attention to her ACTIONS than her words. Actions NEVER lie. She probably does want SOMETHING more but alot of chicks have a hard time actually saying it...and get mad when you mention it.

Post: #4

Roll on as if she's just your wingman.

Tell her you're rolling out and to join you; then invite your other friends.

Ignore the sex completely. It's no big deal.

If she's attracted to you, she well pause the bullshit and give you IOIs. If she regrets it, what do you care? You got the notch, go back to having her as your homie.

Also: one-itis alert?

Post: #5

Being completely honest...The fact that she know's the "REAL" you and seemingly wants to be down anyway is a GOOD THING.

Post: #6

Hey, thanks all for the inputs.

I think you are all spot on.

@Revolutionary Cause, ABDada: that's what I was thinking to do.

I agree, little one-itis - I am honestly attracted to her. I am currently seeing two other girls, so I am actually in a good state of mind.

@Machinist: I think you are right - she indirectly hinted to the fact that she has been ruined and I had got to that conclusion myself beforehand. I also tend to agree on the fact that she knows the "real" me is good - that's what convinced me she didn't want just to get laid...

Post: #7

Work it right and you may have you a bottom bitch...Every player needs one.

Post: #8

(11-27-2012 03:07 PM)punchboy Wrote:  @Machinist: I think you are right - she indirectly hinted to the fact that she has been ruined and I had got to that conclusion myself beforehand.

how do you "ruin" a girl?

Post: #9

Keep doing the same you have been doing. Keep treating her as justa friend, specially around other people.

She will have sex with you again once the chance presents itself once more.

You just have to make sure that the chance presents itself.

Post: #10

Hard to explain.I know it when I see it.

Post: #11

Thanks again.

@Hiflo: she never said anything explicit, but from what I understood a guy she dated had serious issues. Even ignoring that, I cannot explain the non-sense she said in other ways.

Post: #12

So, I texted her after few days asking what she was up to. Never responded.

After that, she started putting weird statuses on facebook (songs about how being unable to love forces one to cut off contacts; statuses referring to things I told her and we had planeed to do together; and few days ago she even checked-in in a place she knows I visit 3/4 times a week).

To me she seems too much effort, and unless some of you have some easy suggestion, I am thinking about letting her go.

Post: #13

How many other women have you slept with since the first post?

Post: #14

Two.