Post: #1

Met this girl online. Right off the bat her messages were showing way more interest than mine.

Found out she lives an 1hr and 1/2 away. Told her this and she said she didn't mind since her boyfriend used to live where i lived, San Diego.

Finally went out, i went up there to meet her. We had some drinks and things were going well. At one point i thought she mentioned something about sex. To which i replied, sex? slow down im a five date guy. She replied back with, "i said nothing about sex, but thats too bad because i don't have a rule." I responded, "oh really?"

The bill comes out and im about to pay and she says, "wait, no... you came up let me pay." She insisted so then i asked, "are you in a rush? lets go bowling and get some more drinks my treat." She smiled and said, "awesome."

Off the bowling alley which had a 45min wait for a lane so i told her to go sit down and i grabbed some drinks. We sat down and were talking and i forget but i think she won some sill bet to which i said she gets a kiss from me. I kiss her on the cheek, and she says, "the cheek?" So we make out a lil.

Decide we aren't going to wait 45min for the bowling so we go to the movies. She is all over me in the movie theatre and keeps turning to look at me every now and then. She is touching a lot, grabbing my hand, handholding, rubbing my chest and feeling my biceps.

We walk about to my car and make out here and there. When i drop her off to her car. She asked if im going to stay at my friend's house whom i said lived in the area. I said no, "im going to your place..." She said, "no haha, its the first date i can't do that. I say, "nothing's going to happen.... we can get breakfast." She says, "well i think im coming to sd next weekend anyways. So we make out and at one point she pulls away from getting too excited, "whoah i have to stop myself, getting too excited." We make out some more and i let her go. She says, "i think im coming to sd, my girls may be getting a table, you going to come? do you have a single guy friend for one of my friends?

The texts she sent after the date:

when she arrives home:
her: Hey thanks had a great time....

next morning:
her: g'morning, hey so im definitely coming to sd next week

later that day:
Her: how's your day, what are you doing?

me: oh cooking bbq, are you going to cook for me when im there? (i did not say yes to this btw)

on wednesday:
Her: you lived closer, we couldve done lunch.
(my response: you are just going to have to wait til this weekend. )

I texted her today: hey what are your plans for this weekend?

she says: "ill be out there early friday and probably bar hop friday night.

I text:
Cool... you down to chill sunday, get off at work at 4, we can do dinner or something.
her: I can't I leave early sunday
Her: :/
me: gay....
her: hahahaha
me: gaaaaaaaayyy... lol why so early?
her: my friend has work at 7


not sure where to take it from here guys... shit is pissing me off, i have another date tonight with this other chick and im all fucked up

Post: #2

Sounds like you're more interested in her than she is in you and its showing via you chasing her and trying to meet up. It seems like you're being pushy instead of persistent.

Post: #3

(05-23-2013 05:52 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  Sounds like you're more interested in her than she is in you and its showing via you chasing her and trying to meet up. It seems like you're being pushy instead of persistent.

How?

I fixed and edited her texts showing that that was her and not me.

I expected her to respond with "yea i'll be down there, you going to come out and get drinks with me?"

I didn't get this so whats my move?

Post: #4

Stop!! Don't Text ever again in your life!!

No seriously, you are taking this way to far.

She said she is coming to SD on Friday.

Why are you setting up plans for Sunday?

"do you have a single guy friend for one of my friends?" is equivalent to "I don't want her to feel left out when you fucking me"

They are going to a club where there will be plenty of guys. She wants you to bring a friend for a reason.

You just cost you and your friend a highly potential notch. You live and you learn.

Post: #5

Lol

I wanted to have time for me and her without her friends.

I texted her: hit me when your here I'll find a way to steal you from your girls

Her: hahaa you can steal me away friday night

I want to know what her interest level is. Seemed she went very distant and is playing shit by ear while planning.


I'm just trying to see what her interestvlevel

Post: #6

The main thing that jumped out at me is that it seemed like she was pretty much DTF or at least pretty turned on after the initial drinks. So why did you suggest bowling and worse yet why a movie? I think the best move would have been immediately going to another bar for more drinks. By waiting at the bowling alley then sitting through a movie two things happened. 1. Any alcohol in her system had time to wear off and 2. You lost all of the momentum you had gained.

Next, I agree with the others, you're texting her WAY TOO MUCH. You're also getting hung up on small details and planning too far ahead. By saying things such as "I'm staying with you" and "we'll get breakfast" you're taking away her plausible deniability and letting her hamster take control. She needs to be in a state of "I dunno what happened, one thing led to another and it just seemed right."

Back to the original date, you should have kept up the drinking and escalation and done everything in your power to isolate her and go for the notch even if it was in your car. There's an old saying in sales that goes something like "know when it's time to quit selling". In other words if someone is ready to buy shut up and take their money.

Post: #7

I would advise against using gay (especially gaaaay) in your texts, comes off immature.

Post: #8

Not trying to argue but i have seen countless posts on here that suggest using "gay" as a response to flakes. There is a lot of conflicting information on this board. I have read shit where people will argue even with the info in roosh's book. Why be on the site?

Sorry for the rant...

So how do you suggest a good response to, "i don't have a rule." Would be?

Post: #9

Her: "I don't have a rule"

You: *Sip Drink while giving "oh really" look*
"I have a great collection of _____ at home"

Post: #10

(05-23-2013 09:49 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  Not trying to argue but i have seen countless posts on here that suggest using "gay" as a response to flakes. There is a lot of conflicting information on this board. I have read shit where people will argue even with the info in roosh's book. Why be on the site?

It depends. And what works for some might not work for others.

And it's also context. You saying 'gay...' makes it seem like your day has been ruined now that she can't make it.

I've seen 'ghey' suggested around here, and I think that is superior. For one it shows your not taking yourself seriously and you're being aloof, as opposed to the original text.

Post: #11

(05-23-2013 08:11 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  Lol

I wanted to have time for me and her without her friends.

I texted her: hit me when your here I'll find a way to steal you from your girls

Her: hahaa you can steal me away friday night

I want to know what her interest level is. Seemed she went very distant and is playing shit by ear while planning.


I'm just trying to see what her interestvlevel

I don't see what the problem is, she seems DTF. Just hit her up on Friday night, whether or not you bring a wingman. You're overthinking it, its pretty clear she's interested.

Post: #12

(05-24-2013 07:04 AM)augen sehen Wrote:  

(05-23-2013 08:11 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  Lol

I wanted to have time for me and her without her friends.

I texted her: hit me when your here I'll find a way to steal you from your girls

Her: hahaa you can steal me away friday night

I want to know what her interest level is. Seemed she went very distant and is playing shit by ear while planning.


I'm just trying to see what her interestvlevel

I don't see what the problem is, she seems DTF. Just hit her up on Friday night, whether or not you bring a wingman. You're overthinking it, its pretty clear she's interested.

A couple days leading up to the first date as well as after she would next me, "good morning" and "how's your day". Was asking me if i would cook for her and telling me what stupid netflix movies she was watching through text. Then it went static. The responses i was getting yesterday were kinda thin. Yea, i am probably overthinking it.

Post: #13

It just sounds like you have too much time on your hands.

Go out and try to bang a new girl.

If your going to try to rationalize a text from a girl, at your level, you will never understand it.

Post: #14

Move on...

Post: #15

(05-24-2013 06:42 PM)Gmac Wrote:  Move on...

Its hard when you meet that one girl that trumps all the others. It keeps fucking happening.

Post: #16

(05-24-2013 11:33 PM)Manystyles Wrote:  

(05-24-2013 06:42 PM)Gmac Wrote:  Move on...

Its hard when you meet that one girl that trumps all the others. It keeps fucking happening.

That's how women think, not men.

Post: #17

You meet that one girl that trumps all the others and it keeps happening (ie you keep meeting girls that trump all the others)?

So you meet the one.

Then you meet another the one.

Then you meet another the one?

Post: #18

(05-25-2013 06:21 PM)MattC Wrote:  You meet that one girl that trumps all the others and it keeps happening (ie you keep meeting girls that trump all the others)?

So you meet the one.

Then you meet another the one.

Then you meet another the one?

Yea but that one then fucks it up for the others. then of course i have to find a team again, then find another one. just another vicious cycle.

And i was with her last night, not even gonna get into it, but she wants to see me again tonight. Think im just overthinking shit, setting me up for failure.

Post: #19

@OP When you get to the point where you literally FORGET to text/call girls whose numbers you've gotten, then my friend you will be golden.

Stop overthinking it. Go meet 3 new girls tonight. See the difference.

Post: #20

(05-25-2013 07:41 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  @OP When you get to the point where you literally FORGET to text/call girls whose numbers you've gotten, then my friend you will be golden.

Stop overthinking it. Go meet 3 new girls tonight. See the difference.

I've been there my friend.

Still can't help it when i meet that one girl(one-itis). I become overemotional, illogical, beta, whatever you want to call it. When im not in this state I laugh at guys that are and want to slap them across the face. I am that guy right now. Come slap me.